So what do we think of online dating? To be honest, if you can't date a man in other ways, we still encourage you to try, but we also find that the relationships established by online dating usually have no results. Women and men become heterosexual friends or pen pals at most, not husband and wife.
As for online dating, the main problem is that this relationship is based on chatting, not face-to-face physical attraction, which is exactly what the precepts require.
Besides, online dating can be quite dangerous. You must have read the article about women being raped or killed by netizens. In fact, no matter how handsome, interesting and sincere the man you chat with online looks, what you know about him is only his word. He may be a psycho, a rapist, a murderer, a teenager having fun on the Internet or a married man, which you don't know!
Of course, we understand why some women choose to make friends online instead of going to single places. They are tired of meeting men in bars and parties. They feel that if they are unattractive, they will have no advantage in social places. In their view, ideas, outstanding personality or witty language skills are more attractive to men than looks. Chatting online, even if you are naked and wearing fat sweatpants, is not bad.
We can understand what they think, but we don't think it can achieve the effect of face-to-face communication. The most wonderful relationship begins with physical reaction. Online dating is just based on chatting. We know that some women talk for months before meeting someone they meet online. But what can be done in the end is very few. He calls you a soul mate and thinks that you can understand his innermost thoughts and dreams, but then he will marry a woman who really attracts him!
However, if you decide to meet online friends, we suggest that you follow the precepts as much as possible, so that you won't waste all your time on men who will never marry you, and you won't put yourself in danger. The suggestions are as follows:
1. Once he shows interest in you, he will leave a message for your dating advertisement or chat with you in the chat room-and then tell him that you want to exchange photos with him by email. If you are not interested in his photo, there is no point in talking about it any more.
Once he sees your photo, it's up to him to decide whether to meet or not. If he doesn't ask you to meet, it means he doesn't like your appearance, then keep looking! If he lives in another city, he should come to see you in your city. Don't go to see him. See the commandment about long-distance love. As far as we know, some women fly to meet their male netizens, who have been chatting with her for weeks or months. Girls who keep the precepts should be seen by boys! If he comes to see you by plane or bus, you must meet him in a public place. You can't tell him where you live!
We must emphasize the importance of safety. As far as we know, some women risk their lives and let their male friends go to their home when they meet for the first time or the second time. A close call. In addition, tell your friends or relatives the date, time, place, who to meet and what to do, and let them know your whereabouts.
Don't have a heart-to-heart chat with men online, or get too bored with relationships. Many women think that these rules don't apply to online dating. You should keep a little mystery, don't show your heart too early, and tell each other everything.
They feel that if they don't tell the stranger something about themselves as soon as possible, they can't get to know him better. They think it has nothing to do with their own small thoughts, or their past love affairs, or their thoughts on hate and marriage. If he lives in another city, they can't meet often, and it is understandable to send more emails.
Don't deceive yourself. Sending e-mail is no different from calling, writing letters or sending postcards. Don't take the initiative to call men, write letters or send postcards, and don't send emails too often.
Whether it's online dating or blind date, men are men after all. Even if women send them emails all day, those emails are full of true feelings, and they keep saying that these are what they want, but they will never fall in love with or marry such a woman. They may tell you that they like women who are sincere, cheerful, serious and responsible for their feelings. In other words, if they get married seriously, they tend to stare at attractive, unpredictable and challenging women and like reading their emails. Concise emails are the best.
If you chat with him on the computer, what are the challenges for him? If you lie in front of the computer all day and talk to him ten times a day, what's the point of your life? Let him get into the habit of sending you emails, and say some tidbits that you are interested in every day. It doesn't matter whether you come back or not. Please remember: whether you make friends online or meet and date, you are different, and you deserve a man to chase you, so let him chase you.
Girls' love skills: the commandment of college dating
Girls' love skills: the commandments of dating in college If you are about to enter college, we hope to help you avoid detours and heartache in these four years. The following seven mistakes cannot be made. Now, commandments should be part of your curriculum.
1. Don't check his schedule or walk around him all day on campus, hoping that he will finally notice you. Don't bother unless you want to exercise. Either he will notice you or he will never notice you.
Don't go in and out of restaurants all the time, eat three restaurants back and forth, hoping to meet him from 4: 30 pm to 8: 00 pm, which will only make your weight soar by 20 pounds in the end. Do you really want to waste all the good times in college on going to restaurants and wondering when he will come and leave? )
Don't send your best friend to ask his best friend if he is interested in you. Maybe he doesn't even know who you are. Don't try to be good friends with his buddies or the girl who lives on the same floor with him, or befriend his acquaintances: (Don't waste time. No one can make him like you, even his best friend. )
4. Don't find his favorite album or CD to play all day, and don't wear a T-shirt designed by grateful dead band, even though it is his favorite rock band. Strangely, girls always like to wear clothes that boys like, such as sportswear and even sloppy clothes, thinking that this will attract boys. However, it is often the girls who wear cute jeans and fashionable T-shirts that make boys feel heartache. According to the precepts, the purpose of dressing up for girls is not to imitate boys, but to attract boys.
Don't be a cheerleader or a sports fan just because he is on the football team. So is the habit of smoking and drinking. Don't follow suit just because he did it. Many girls we know only drink mineral water when dating boys. Although those boys smoked and drank, they got married. As for personal habits, you should follow your habits.
If he is a literary idiot, don't help him write a paper about Shakespeare or copy his homework just to get him to associate with you. Whether he wants to date you or not is another matter. You can't mix these two things.
7. Don't be stupid about safety! In recent days, dating rape has occurred frequently in universities. You should be careful. You would rather stay in the lounge or the library to read than go to his dormitory or off-campus apartment to study alone with him.
Tell your friends when you go out so that they can find you. Girls who keep precepts don't take risks. Don't take this matter lightly!
Now that you know what not to do, what can you do to attract boys on campus?
1. Study hard! Anyway, the purpose of your college is to study! It is attractive to have a clever brain. 12. Limit your diet. Even if your friends go to the cafeteria to eat and drink, or order pizza at midnight, you should resist the temptation. We suggest you eat some fruit for dinner when you are hungry in the middle of the night. When you attend a pizza party, you should tell yourself that if you eat any more, jeans will not fit you tomorrow. Remember: being overweight is against the precepts.
3. put on some light makeup. Read more Glamour magazines or other fashion magazines.
Take part in some extracurricular activities, it is best to join a club that interests you, where you can naturally meet some boys.
Don't just sit in your room on Friday or Saturday nights and read some books by the philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre. Weekend nights are used to go out and make friends. You can read Sartre's book on Monday.
6. Your main course should be perfect and you should have a career plan. Although you probably met your future husband on campus, you didn't go to college to be someone's wife. You should have your own skills, for him and for yourself. Don't be a fool in love!
The love precepts for college students can't guarantee that you will find a partner at the campus dance, but they will let you release your best self and be more attractive in front of the opposite sex.
Girls' love skills: the commandment of giving gifts to men
Girls' love skills: the commandment of giving gifts to men has been explained before. Don't take the initiative to pay for the first three dates.
This is completely unnecessary. If a man is interested in you, he won't care about money (that is, he won't pay alone). He wants to make a good impression on you. I hope you can see him again. Making plans and paying the bill are all things he should do when he pursues you.
Of course, if he asks for separate payment, you can also accept it gladly. Your purpose is not to eat for nothing. You want him to pay for you willingly.
But we won't let men pay the bill. We noticed that he didn't pay the bill, and then we knew. Maybe he's not the only thrill after all.
We are not saying that you are a gold digger. It's not about how much he spent.
As long as he plans ahead and pays for the date, even if it's taking you to a cheap restaurant or a movie. If a man really loves you, he will be willing to spare extra time for you and even borrow money from his parents or friends, which will leave a deep impression on you. AA system is good for friends and colleagues, but it is not suitable for dating people. You must also want to be with a man who loves you crazily!
Some women, especially those with considerable income, always want to do something for men. We told them that in the first two or three months of their relationship, we should try not to talk to men so much, not to invite men out, and not to always think about inviting men to dinner or buying them ties. If you get married, you can buy them anything you want!
After three months, you can cook for him or invite him to dinner.
On his birthday, or when there are some special festivals to give gifts, we should follow such a commandment: don't spend more than 50 to 100 dollars, even if you can afford it.
More importantly, don't buy him a romantic gift. The following are all good gifts.
1. Books he is interested in, as long as they have nothing to do with astrology, psychotherapy, love or feelings, such as business, politics and computer books he likes to read, novels are also acceptable (but not love novels).
2. A winter scarf.
3. His favorite T-shirt, sweater or his favorite team hat.
Don't buy him:
1. Jewelry.
2. Something with letters embroidered on it.
3. Photo frame or photo album.
4. Champagne cups or household items.
5. Poetry collection.
Some women are generous and help men not only materially, but also socially. These women will invite men who have just dated to accompany them to weddings, dinners, company or family gatherings, country clubs, holiday homes, business trips and vacations. We strongly recommend not to do this for the first three months of the date. If you do this, he will know that you are more involved in this relationship than he is, and you will definitely be scared away. Moreover, when attending these activities, if he is surrounded by married couples, he is likely to be stressed.
If you can get free tennis tickets and free travel because of your work, or you can invite some people to business banquets and performances regularly, don't invite them a few months before your date. Take an ordinary friend, or go alone.
Why?
1. If your social activities are known to him, your mystery will disappear.
You can't make him think you are a cash cow. How else do you know if he likes you or something? He has to love you first.
If a man loves you, he definitely wants to be with you. If you always give him gifts and take him somewhere, he may think that you want to buy his love and feelings for you in this way. It's not a good thing that you care too much and are too involved in this relationship.
If women always want to give things to men, they may interfere in each other's lives too much. Of course, you can listen carefully and give him advice, but don't always want to help him solve problems in life and family. You are not his advisor, nor his wife (not yet). In fact, the best gift you can give a man is to keep the precepts. Keeping the precepts will make him enjoy the pleasure of pursuing you, and he feels it is his honor to catch you.
Girls' love skills: the commandment of dating celebrities, don't be a groupie.
Girls' love skills: the commandment of dating celebrities, don't be a groupie. You are unlikely to meet a celebrity or CEO every day, but it is still possible to bump into a celebrity occasionally, such as at a party, on a plane, in a company restaurant, or in a doctor's waiting room. If you don't know the commandments and don't follow them, you may miss a golden opportunity. For example, a lady we know, one day, she met a famous actor at a fund-raising rally.
The man came up to her and said, you are so beautiful. Let's go out to play together sometime.
At this time, discipline came into play. He obviously liked her and took the initiative. But she didn't understand the commandments, so she blurted out eagerly: tonight will do.
This answer is obviously wrong. If a famous actor tells you when you are free and when we can meet, all you have to do is smile and say, let me see, er, I don't know, just like famous actors often invite you out. Although he is ten times busier than you, you should pretend not to know when you have time to see him. He must specifically ask when you are free, not that night, not the next night, and he must make an appointment with you a few days in advance.
The actor took our friend to dinner, but she kept saying how much she liked his work and even asked him to sign the menu. They talked for hours (the restaurant was closed and didn't leave), and he let her go to his hotel room without much effort. Although they didn't sleep, they just spent the night there. Later, the actor told her that he would call her again when he arrived in the city next week, but she never heard from him again. It was too late when she found the commandment.
The following commandments apply to dating actors, athletes, famous writers, filmmakers, directors, CEOs and other important people. If a celebrity or business tycoon accosts you first, here are some suggestions.
1. Take a deep breath. Stay calm.
Think of him as an ordinary person, such as your colleague and janitor, not a movie star or a business tycoon.
Stop staring at him.
4. Don't be happy or frivolous, just like winning the lottery.
Don't act like his crazy fan. In other words, never say something like: Oh, my God, I can't believe I've seen all your movies! Even if you have seen his movie twice, don't say it! You must act as if you have been abroad for the past three years and don't know who he is, even if he is the man on the cover of People magazine.
6. Don't ask him for his autograph.
7. Don't praise him, for example, you are more handsome than on TV.
8. Don't ask him what movie he will play next, and don't show interest in his acting career (otherwise you are different from other women).
9. If you are a potential newcomer, don't ask him if he has an audition or wants to play a role in his movie. If you are looking for a job, don't ask him if there is a job as an executive in the company.
Don't ask him for a business card, and don't give him your resume or movie script.
10. Don't ask him for help, such as asking him to donate money to your favorite charity, or asking him to send you tickets for the performance and books he wrote.
1 1. You can show interest in him, but don't lose your temper. Movie stars and CEOs are generally sought after and loved. So, don't keep pestering him.
I talked with him for 50 minutes, figured out what the other person really wanted to know, and then said, Oh, there is no time. I have to go. It's really nice to meet you.
Then go away. Don't talk to this man endlessly all night. Don't agree to go out with him that night, even if he will go abroad the next morning. He can call you. Other countries are not without telephones. ) 12. If he wears an Armani suit, drives a luxury car, or follows the crowd, don't be afraid.
13. If you meet a performer and he gives you a ticket on the first date, you should politely refuse to go to his concert or watch his performance. Watching his performance is not a date. If he wants to see you on the night of the performance, he must pick you up at your house later and take you out.
14. If your date is a sports star, you shouldn't wear his jersey everywhere, and you shouldn't always be around him when he has a game, unless your relationship has been confirmed. Even if the relationship is confirmed, he still wants to ask you out first.
15. If you are really dating a CEO or celebrity, don't ask him when he is free or where it is convenient to go, because his schedule is very tight. However, he should still make an appointment with you in advance. If he only cares about his own time, you should politely refuse, otherwise he will ignore you. Those celebrities are used to coquetry, but you are a girl who abides by the precepts.
16. Of course, you are likely to leave your friends and family and be surrounded by this celebrity all day. However, if you keep the precepts, you have to live your own life. You can see him two or three times a week at most before he proposes.
17. If he is handsome and popular, maybe other women will write to him, call him, or even rush to hug him in public. In this case, don't be angry, jealous or insecure.
Don't show your possessiveness in public. If he is pursuing you, you have been keeping the precepts and don't need to pay attention to the courtship of other women. He will only like you.
18. Be careful. Don't call the tabloids and say that you are dating a celebrity, demonstrate to other women in this way, or tell the public that he is yours and no one will rob you. This method won't work. Don't say anything even if the reporter calls you. This kind of behavior is selfish and may hurt him or embarrass him, so he won't even associate with you again.
19. Don't try to buy off his secretary, publicist or driver. You want to monitor his every move through them. I hope they can put in a good word for you.
Don't care too much about his reputation, wealth or aura. Girls who obey the precepts are not groupies! You should remember that sometimes a star is not necessarily your ideal partner. If you really want to be successful, you have to learn something slowly. You have to find out whether you love him or the aura of his idol.