The so-called female friend of a man is called a confidante. On the contrary, girls' friends can be called blue confidants or "male girlfriends". He has a good relationship with you. He can share his heart with you and talk about everything, but he is still very different from his boyfriend.
But how should this boundary be defined? Or is your "best friend" really just a simple friendship with you?
From a girl's point of view, I really regard this boy with a good relationship as an ordinary friend. Love is fragile, and friendship is more difficult to stand the test. Just like a friend of mine who is married now, he admitted that he fell in love with a girl a few years ago. They are like-minded, study together and work together.
After a while, he told the girl what he really thought. As a result, she didn't accept it. After that, I got along very unnaturally and refused to accept her confession. From then on, the relationship between the two was not as good as before, and they were alienated from each other.
This may be the reason why many boys obviously like this girl, but they have been reluctant to talk about it. They are afraid that even ordinary friends can't do it after talking. Feelings are a matter for both sides. If a girl really regards this blue face around her as an ordinary friend, it is best to draw a line in her usual relationship.
We can be friends, but we should learn to keep a certain distance. There is a saying that men and women are different. In fact, you have to believe that men and women are really different. Appropriately alienating each other is also responsible for boys and good for each other. Otherwise, when the feelings of the other party are getting deeper and deeper, it will also hurt the other party.
Zhang Hui, a spoiled insulator in The Best Life of a Spoiled Woman, which is popular all over the country, has been secretly in love with Gong, a college classmate and colleague around her. But the man just regards himself as a friend and thinks that Zhang Hui is a very "buddy" woman and doesn't consider her feelings so much. Gong Zhiqiang met the "careful" green tea soft sister Beibei during a bus trip in Taiwan Province Province, and was impressed by her coquetry and cuteness. After that, they became boyfriend and girlfriend.
This makes Zhang Hui very unhappy. She thought that her "good buddy" who had been secretly in love for many years had become someone else's boyfriend, and she also knew that Beibei was not as simple as she thought, so she joined hands with her good girlfriend Ruanmei to embark on the road of coquetry, and finally made a positive result with Gong Zhiqiang, the male god who had been secretly in love for many years.
In fact, many people have never revealed that they really like this boy in the name of friendship, but they are afraid to say it, which has destroyed the original friendship between the two people. They are afraid that they can't even be ordinary friends, but they don't rule out some examples of being together after talking loudly to each other.
Just like the song sung by JJ Lin: How to say love makes my heart ache. If I can have you, I will hold back my tears.
If a person can control his emotions, there is nothing he can do. The definition of pure friendship is not zero, but less than a certain value. Two people can do things together because they have good feelings or don't dislike each other. But after getting along for a long time, the so-called "friendship" will gradually become "love".
Li Zhi and Jon are very reasonable friends. They have known each other since childhood. From school to work, they are all familiar with each other and have some good feelings for each other. After all, after getting along for so long, ordinary friends may not have experienced various changes in their lives. Whenever Jon encounters problems at work, Li Zhi always helps her out, which makes Jon very grateful.
But then she found a boyfriend, and the relationship went well. She belongs to the right type and naturally gets married. After marriage, Jon took the initiative to avoid Li Zhi. She thinks she is married, so be careful outside. Li Zhi's head doesn't quite begin to understand, so it's very nerve-racking. Why does Jon lose his enthusiasm for himself and sometimes ignore him?
So he called Jon, and Jon told him what he really thought, saying that he could be good friends for life, but the boundaries of this friendship should be clear.
Li Zhi understood her very well. Not long after, Li Zhi also found a suitable person to marry back to China, and their friendship did not deteriorate. This is also very gratifying. The friendship between two people can stand many tests.
Therefore, for married men and women, it is more important to handle the relationship between friends and not cross the line. David. M.Buss, a professor of evolutionary psychology, said: "The friendship between men and women conforms to some functional interests, which are driven by some conscious and some unconscious." The needs of both sides in this emotion are different, but the key point that distinguishes people from animals is that they can control their emotions.
Good friendship needs careful maintenance and management. May friendship last forever, and may each of us have a beautiful home.
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