The ancients said that "courtesy means respect for people", which means to respect people with courtesy. The Chinese nation is known as the "state of etiquette", and there are many stories about etiquette in the history of China. Traditional etiquette is mainly the embodiment of moral fashion, such as "Kong Rong Rangli", which talks about the ceremony of the old and the young; "Take Qi Mei as an example" is about the etiquette of husband and wife; "Ceng Zi Quit" is about respecting teachers. Etiquette not only embodies morality, but also is often regarded as a life skill. I wonder if it's a coincidence. The word "Li" in etiquette is pronounced the same as the word "Li" in reason. After a little thinking, we can easily find a wonderful relationship between the two: we stress "courtesy before soldiers" in our work, and this word "courtesy" can naturally go further as a rational person. People with calculation and strategy are good at making a fuss about the word "ceremony" to get rid of the unfavorable situation. During the Three Kingdoms period, the princes fought endlessly. Sun Quan was not happy after he captured and killed Guan Yu. He knew that Guan Yu was Liu Bei's sworn brother and had vowed to live and die together. Now that he has killed Guan Yu, Liu Bei will send troops to crusade against Wu Dong and avenge Guan Yu. Liu Bei has soldiers from Sichuan and other provinces. Coupled with Zhuge Liang's strategy and the bravery of generals such as Zhang Fei and Zhao Yun, Soochow will certainly be hard to resist. Zhang Zhao, Sun Quan's counselor, gave him an idea: send an envoy to put Guan Yu's head in a wooden box and give it to Cao Cao for framing. Who is Cao Cao? He is far-sighted and resourceful. Soon, Cao Cao saw through Wu Dong's tricks. He took the box and ordered the craftsman to carve a fragrant wooden body to match Guan Yu's head. On the day of the funeral, Cao Cao led hundreds of civil and military officials to pay tribute to Guan Yu as a vassal. Cao Cao also personally paid homage to the spirit, posthumously awarded Guan Yu as King Jing, and later sent special officials to guard Guan Yu's tomb. This kind of funeral was unique at that time. As Cao Cao, the respect and admiration for Guan can also be said to be unbounded. When Liu Bei heard about it, he really only hated Wu Dong, vowed to pour out his country to avenge Guan Yu, and vowed to die together with Wu Dong. Wei thus avoided a big war. Cao Cao deserves to be a lean generation. After being planted and framed, he can direct and perform a grand "etiquette" show and be an enemy of Liu Bei. Such calculations and means are admirable. In life, polite people will naturally get respect and support from others. This can not only show a person's quality and accomplishment, but also reflect a person's calculation and wisdom in interpersonal communication. Sometimes the function of etiquette is immeasurable, even in a sense, etiquette is more important than ability and knowledge, which can make us get twice the result with half the effort. There is such a story: Wang Yun has a probation period of three months in the public relations department of a company. After the probation period, he can apply for formal employment. At the same time, there are three people in the probation period, but only one person can become a full member. The three of them usually work hard and perform well, and their ability is hard to say. Three months later, they all submitted their applications to the company. After receiving the application, the personnel manager of the company told them to go home and wait for the notice, saying that they could not make a decision until the leaders negotiated. The next day, Wang Yun received a short message from the personnel manager: "It's a pity that although we appreciate your knowledge and temperament, the quota is limited, and your application for becoming a full member was not passed. You are excellent, and there will be recruitment places in the future, and the company will definitely give priority to you. " Wang Yun was very uncomfortable at that time, but on second thought, the company may have its own reasons, and the message was sincere and polite, so he replied politely. In the rapidly developing modern society, etiquette has penetrated into all fields of people's social life and occupied an increasingly important position. Etiquette doesn't mean that we should grovel in front of the leader or boss. This is not etiquette, but flattery, which naturally does not reflect wisdom and brains. Proper etiquette is to respect others on the basis of maintaining your own etiquette and principles. For example, give the back seat to the leader when riding with the leader, and don't sit in the seat or VIP seat if you are not a VIP at the party. Being able to let others feel their courtesy and self-cultivation without revealing traces, while maintaining their calmness, is an essential quality in communication with people. Such people are bound to win the respect and goodwill of others, and it is easier to achieve their own goals. Therefore, if you want to be comfortable in modern social life, you must learn etiquette, know etiquette, speak etiquette, keep etiquette, be familiar with some communication methods, and be familiar with some etiquette, which is very important for your career and life. Zhang Xu had a bitter lesson. When he applied for a job, he submitted his resume to a famous foreign company. After strict screening, the company informed him to go for an interview. There were three rounds of interviews, and Zhang Xu successfully passed the first two rounds with excellent professional knowledge and witty response. Finally, Zhang Xu arrived at the company on time, waited for about half an hour, and the interview began. But the moment he met the interviewer, Zhang Xu knew he wouldn't be hired. It turned out that the man he stepped on in the morning was the general manager of the company. The lesson is painful, but the result is not difficult to understand. Every company leader wants his employees to have higher quality and know more manners, because only in this way can the company maintain a good image. "Rude can't move", a person who has no manners and doesn't know how to add points to his image with etiquette, will not only be favored by enterprises, but also hit a wall everywhere in daily life.