To be honest, before watching these videos, I thought that the children's coquetry, crying and resistance were all due to beatings. I used to think that there was a saying that "most children are used to it, just hit it." But when I saw teacher Lan Hai teaching parents and children, I realized that there were many reasons for crying. Most of us arbitrarily think what children are thinking with our own psychology, completely ignoring their feelings. There is a comment that says very well, "When I was a child. I think the same as the children. But when I became an adult, I found that I forgot that I was a child, but I always asked them with my thoughts. "
Many families ask Mr. Blue Ocean for help because their children's grades are not good, or many bad habits affect his admission and communication with others. But after reading her counseling, I found that it really doesn't matter whether the grades are good or not. What kind of person I will become in the future is something to come. What I have to do now is to let children develop good living habits, study habits and good communication patterns. All these have been done, and the future will not be too bad.
It is also found that teacher Lanhai will actually tell the truth to the children very gently, but what is not allowed is not allowed, and it is strictly stopped. Even if the child cries, he should do whatever he wants until he compromises and does as required, while praise and encouragement are allowed to let the child know that rewards and punishments are clear. The most important thing is to make rules. Teacher Lan Hai will write down different rules and regulations in each family to restrain family members from supervising each other and form good habits.
I don't know if you have seen "There are aliens at home", in which the whole family is helping aliens find "dough balls". I finally understand that this is love. In father's eyes, it is called Bao jiaozi [I want to be quiet] [I want to be quiet] [I want to be quiet] [I want to be quiet].
There is another plot that moved me very much. The alien mother spent all her savings to give birth to a daughter with high IQ, but the cram school teacher missed a composition question and stumped her. The topic was "If I become stupid", so she mixed the stupid potion and drank it. I'm just giggling. One day, my mother was sorting out her books and calculating the repayment cost. She asked her mother, do you like me like this? My mother, who didn't know the inside story, thought that she had been like this all her life, hugged her and said that from the day her mother asked you, no matter what you did, her mother loved you. You are my mother's daughter, and my mother will take good care of you no matter what. You are happy, better than anything. Later, this emotional composition touched the teacher and me in front of the screen. Although the final plot made me laugh through tears, the teacher was puzzled "What is a stupid potion"?
People always say don't let children lose at the starting line, but we don't have to run so fast at first. As long as we study hard, we will naturally make progress It's just that some children make rapid progress, some make slow progress, and some still don't understand. Just like my father used to ask me if I thought about anything today. I just want to know, what are you thinking? Later, after working, I gradually realized that if you want to do things clearly, you must think about how to do everything. So is study. Scores are very important. But children's nature can't be killed by learning. .
Just like Guan Chenchen, a gymnastics champion, and Quan Hongchan, a diving champion, learning is not the only way out, but their sports have made them successful, because they are willing to work hard for no reason, and there must be pressure and frustration during the period, but they survived. To achieve a better self. So I think every word of teacher Lan Hai is very reasonable.
Finally, we should know the importance of dad in the family. Women have no obligation to take care of their children, and fathers should not just earn money. It's an old tradition that men are in charge outside and women are in charge inside. Father's influence on children is not a little. Teacher Lan Hai said that the mother's influence on children's growth is a parabola, while the father's growth is a curve from slow to fast. Children will become dependent on their fathers from their mothers when they grow up. Moreover, if the father does not play the role of companionship during this period, it will not be good for his psychological development when he grows up. And the child will automatically ignore his father's position in his heart. Maybe you should say that you are busy making money, but that's not the reason. Our family is inseparable from material security, but it is also inseparable from the care and companionship of our father. You have to see how busy your wife is, how your children are growing up, and what do they need you to do? Your wife is tired and needs your help, and your child needs you to play with him. And my father's vision and knowledge are different from my mother's. Therefore, we should not miss the growth of children.
Finally, I am also rethinking my teaching. I should know their hearts better than they write. What kind of mood will write well and what kind of state will make him unhappy. We need empathy to understand each other and make progress together. I know my parents want to improve their calligraphy, and I hope they will study hard and happily to achieve the best writing in a short time. But we still need to know what children are thinking. Because learning is all our business.
Thanks to the blue ocean teacher, I understand a lot of truth [heart] [heart] [heart] [heart].