At one time, papi sauce made some comments on the Internet, which caused a heated discussion. She said: The most important thing for an independent woman in her life is herself, her partner, her children and her parents. First of all, you spend the longest time with yourself. After that, I spent the rest of my life with my partner. Whether it's children or parents, you only walked with them for a while, and the rest was left to them.

When this statement came out, it caused a huge wave. Some people agree, some people object, and both sides hold their own words, arguing endlessly on the Internet.

Most people who agree with papi sauce are born after 80 s and 90 s, and they are more open-minded and self-centered. They think that people should not only live for others in this life, but should pay more attention to themselves.

Most people who oppose papi sauce are born after 60. They think that the most important thing in life is to respect parents and take care of children. And your speech completely overthrew the principle he followed all his life, and everyone felt very angry.

In my opinion, both sides have some truth, but they can't be too absolute. A person's life is to constantly cultivate and improve his life. Only when you are good to yourself will you be good to others. And this kind of good can't be too much, and parents and children should also do their duty.

I have investigated hundreds of couples and found a rule: in marriage, the better you are to yourself, the happier your married life will be.

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Xiaoli is recognized as a good wife and mother in her circle of friends. Whenever she is mentioned, friends will sigh that it is like luck to marry her.

Xiaoli also feels that she can really be called a good wife and mother. After so many years of marriage, she has been quietly paying for her husband and children. Husband's request and son's wish are always realized at all costs. After all, the family knows so well.

Therefore, Xiaoli pays for her husband and children and asks for nothing in return. Wash and cook for them every day and take care of their diet and daily life. Do everything possible to be nice to them.

Xiaoli will try her best to buy her husband something she likes. And your favorite clothes, think about it, after all, you can wear them for a few years.

Xiaoli also tries to satisfy her son's favorite toys. There are also my favorite cosmetics, lipsticks and so on. I can't bear to buy them because the prices are too expensive. All day, my face was in the air.

When the family received her carefully prepared gifts, they were always happy and satisfied. At that moment, she felt that her sacrifice was worth it. She thought she would be moved and grateful by her family.

Until one time, her husband came back from a business trip and his income was not high. He brought small gifts to all his seven aunts, except hers, because: "You don't need it anyway, and you don't like shopping."

Xiaoli suddenly felt very chilling.

Xiaoli once quarreled with her husband when her son was young. Unexpectedly, her son said to her that night, "mom, you have to let dad go in the future." After all, he is making money outside, and you are doing nothing at home. "

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What the husband and son said suddenly woke Xiaoli up.

Their efforts over the years are only taken for granted in their eyes. Even the son only knows that his father is earning money outside, and she is just "doing nothing" at home. They must feel that they cook their own meals, wash their own clothes and clean their own environment.

The more selfless you are to this family, the more people at home will get used to your kindness to them. Over time, these are taken for granted.

It turns out that even the closest person, love will deteriorate after a long time.

Your humbleness is no longer a grievance. If you euphemistically say that it doesn't matter, he will really think that you are irrelevant and your contribution is not a great sacrifice. He will take everything for granted.

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Xiaoli has taken my advice now, and she is beginning to become "selfish".

She used to cook only what her husband and son liked, but now she only cooks what she likes.

In the past, online shopping was reluctant to buy clothes and cosmetics, and Xiaoli bought them "selfishly". Later, her husband asked her, and she replied: I bought it for you last month and I want to buy it myself this month.

Not only that, she gave up her job for her family, and now she has re-submitted her resume and joined a company. She let her son take care of himself, and her husband should also help with housework and take care of his son.

She thought that these "selfish" selves would push her husband further and further, and as a result, the development of the situation exceeded her imagination.

Since her husband began to do housework, he felt her great contribution to the family and began to praise her.

Taking care of his son made him miserable. He often said to her very understandingly, "You used to work really hard."

When the son is not taken care of by his father, he will also say to her, "Mom, your cooking is delicious and your washing is clean."

In just a few months, both husband and son know that Xiaoli's past is not easy, and they cherish what Xiaoli has done for them more and more. Now, Xiaoli and her husband's marriage life is slowly becoming happy.

Xiaoli sighed with emotion: "I have always been wrong before. I love them in the wrong way. " Now I finally understand that the more selfish a woman is in marriage, the happier she will be. "

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As a woman, you must remember that your selfless dedication to your family is consuming the quality of your married life. It is also consuming the respect of the other half.

We believe in love, but we also understand the thinness and coldness of human nature. We cherish our children's affection, but we understand that we can only give up halfway. Think about it, only ourselves are our lifelong travel companions.

Because only when you fall in love with yourself will you fall in love with others.

There is nothing wrong with being selfish in marriage.