The four most popular words in chicken soup are probably "Heaven rewards diligence". In fact, at first, I also believed these four words. Later, I found that the reality is not exactly like that. Let me look back at the rationality of these four words.
It is mainly the Confucian society in East Asia that believes that hard work pays off, and one of the characteristics of Confucian culture is rooted in agricultural civilization. What agricultural civilization believes most is diligence and hard work-the so-called no pains, no gains.
On the other hand, they believe in "courage" and "luck" in European marine commercial civilization, because marine trade is full of risks and needs courage more.
Children who believe in "heaven rewards diligence" are often very hard. They generally have their own lofty goals, have seen so-called "genius" perverts, and pin their hopes on their own efforts.
When a person falls into a fanatical superstition about "Heaven rewards diligence" and faces the failure of himself or others, the attribution becomes either that he has not worked hard enough or that God is unfair. They will ask God sadly: Do you know how hard I (he) worked?
Later, after many failures, they are often divided into two types: one is to continue to work hard and firmly believe that "Heaven rewards diligence" and never look back even if they hit the south wall; One stood on the opposite side of hard work without hesitation, muddling along, no longer believing in "heaven rewards diligence" and beginning to believe in "diligence is useless"
Both of them obviously went to extremes, and neither attitude was constructive. To find out this problem, we might as well patiently and carefully sort it out.
First, try hard, why is it useless?
? Many times, God won't reward hard work, especially when your method is wrong.
I often give students such examples. For example, there is a high wall that you need to knock down, and you choose to hit it with your head. Although you hit hard, broke your head and looked hard, it was not touching, because your method was stupid.
Like a door, you push hard, but it just won't open. You start kicking, but you still can't do anything, and the door still won't open. Finally, you may be extremely depressed. I tried very hard. Why can't the door open? It's simple, because this door is open.
In addition, your diligence is likely to be "pseudo-diligence".
The criterion for judging pseudo-diligence is to comfort yourself with false efforts, give yourself a diligent look, and enjoy telling others or yourself how hard you have worked and get spiritual comfort, but it is futile to persist for a long time.
This kind of diligence is shown to others as well as to myself, perhaps for the praise of teachers and parents for "you really worked hard", perhaps to make yourself look back on that day without regret, and to comfort myself when my grades are not good, "not because I don't work hard, but because my brain is too stupid."
In fact, you are not stupid, but you cover up the nature of laziness with the disguise of diligence. You fill yourself with formulas, words and composition materials, but you don't have time to think about what you haven't mastered and what you have done for nothing.
You can't bear to put down all kinds of exercise books, but you haven't carefully tasted the thinking behind each problem, let alone digested it.
You brush real questions, brush simulation questions and write a bunch of test papers, but you never think about what you need and waste your time doing.
Understand that you don't have to waste time to make progress, you don't have to rely on various cram schools to thoroughly remould yourself, you don't have to sleep only five hours a day to be diligent, and you don't have to rely on one topic after another to achieve success.
This pseudo-diligence is really a waste of life.
Third, you may expect too much of yourself.
Everyone has their own limits. This restriction may be limited to its own subjective reasons or external objective conditions. Just like our height, maybe we can improve ourselves by some means, but this improvement is definitely not infinite. No matter how tall an ordinary person is, he is unlikely to surpass Yao Ming's height.
Similarly, for some talented people, no matter how hard ordinary people try, I am afraid it is hard to surpass them. In "Super Brain", Wang Yuheng, who is known as the "Eye of the Elf", is called "Brother of Water", and 520 cups of water with the same quality, quantity and source are recognized by him at a glance. I'm afraid this kind of excellent observation will never be obtained by "diligence"
Finally, those negative energy things may also make our efforts fall short. Negative emotions such as nervousness, depression, boredom, frustration, anger and disgust can completely make people lose their minds, seriously affect a person's normal play and greatly reduce the efficiency of efforts.
Therefore, your efforts are in vain, not necessarily because your efforts are not enough, nor because your talent is flawed, but more likely because your efforts are in the wrong direction, your methods are anti-human and your goals are abnormal.
? Second, since efforts are "useless", what should we do?
First of all, it must be clear that efforts are not "useless", but those who work hard may not gain anything. This sentence is not contradictory. As I mentioned in my previous article, attitude does not determine everything, and details do not necessarily affect success or failure. In other words, there is no absolute truth in the world, and truth must be conditional.
Then, if we want to ensure the harvest of our efforts, we must have conditions. This condition is to add a word "wisdom" to the original "Heaven rewards diligence", that is, "Heaven rewards diligence".
The so-called "intellectual diligence" means diligence with wisdom, diligence with methods and diligence with brains;
When setting goals, we should seek truth from facts, make down-to-earth analysis, and know ourselves and ourselves. If we were turtles, we shouldn't race with rabbits. We can sit still and see who moves first. This is to attack your own shortcomings with your own strengths. In other words, even if we are turtles, we should be smart turtles.
When the door can't be pushed open, we might as well think about the possibility of opening it, and maybe we can solve it by changing the direction and angle. Sometimes if we work hard enough, we should also think about whether our methods are correct or not.
To sum up, in my words, we should not only "study hard" but also "work hard".
Third, instead of fighting with others, it is better to find talents yourself.
As mentioned above, if we are a smart turtle, we should not race with rabbits, but should foster strengths and avoid weaknesses. If you really want to play, play at your own house.
God is fair to everyone. A person who is weak in one respect may be a genius on the other, just like Raymond in Rain Man, an idiot from one angle and a genius from another. We should discover our talents, not compare with others.
If you are human, you will have your own talent. Of course, our talent is not necessarily the first in the world, nor does it have to reach the height of special functions, but as long as we communicate with others and think alone, we will find a talent of our own. This kind of talent is our interest, our specialty and our potential.
This process may take some time and energy, so we know how valuable it is to know ourselves correctly.
And once we find our own talent, we actually have the ability to dial a thousand pounds, and we have the fulcrum to tilt the earth, so we can live our lives as freely as experts.
Find your own fulcrum, and more importantly, don't change the position of the fulcrum easily because of a word or a setback, but know the meaning of persistence and stick to it minute by minute.
When we solve the above three problems, we will understand that the relationship between diligence and talent is actually more obvious:
A person's ideal state is that talent is the beacon of diligence, and diligence is the amplifier of talent.
To sum up, our efforts should get twice the result with half the effort, the direction should be correct, we should find something suitable for ourselves, use the right methods and set appropriate goals. With these, maybe our efforts will not be in vain again.