Hello, teacher, I take the liberty to disturb you. I have been troubled by emotional problems recently. I come to consult you, hoping to get some suitable suggestions to help me get rid of the current "predicament".

The thing is, I'm 33 years old and I have a graduate degree of 985. I entered the workplace two years ago, and I am not in a hurry to fall in love. I am also quite repulsive to marriage. I didn't expect time to fly, and it was over thirty in the blink of an eye.

For many girls, thirty is a watershed. After thirty-one, those who are not married are in a hurry to get married, and those who are not yet born are also in a hurry to prepare.

Originally, I was in a good mood. My parents have been urging me for the past two years. I was afraid that I would never get married again, so I began to arrange blind dates for me. I am confident, and I realize that I am "unwelcome" in the marriage and love market.

I have a good personality, strong housework ability, average appearance, height 163, and my working ability is not bad now, so I never intend to "wronged" myself in getting married.

I'm not young anymore. As a matter of fact, I have thought about getting married carefully. I don't expect much from my future partner. I only have three small requirements:

First, a man who has never been married has a house, a car and no loan. Second, the annual salary is not less than 300,000 yuan, and the bride price is not less than 200,000 yuan. After marriage, the income belongs to me. Third, don't have children for two years after marriage, and then don't live with the elderly and share housework.

Many girls around me are well married, and I think these conditions are "reasonable". After all, I am not bad, and my family background is good. I won't be worse than my parents' house.

I just didn't expect that several blind date partners who had a good talk at first and both sides felt good turned pale after hearing my three demands, and then told me whether the conditions could be relaxed like "bargaining". I really wanted to cry and finally had to give up.

This year, I am 33 years old. For girls who want to get married, there is no hurry. After all, the label "older leftover women" is not pretty at all. Many times people point at you behind your back and make irresponsible remarks about you, so you can only bear it.

What bothers me now is that I just follow my heart to find someone and give three not too much demands. Why do those men always think that I am "too talkative" or "whimsical"?

Is there too few "quality men" now, or am I not worthy of my own requirements?

Meow meow, can you help me post and ask the netizens? Are there any girls around who are in a similar situation to me? What should I do to get married faster and better in the matter of "choosing a spouse"?

Looking forward to your reply. -Your reader: Fangfang.

Three requests, six netizens said: unacceptable.

In response to the reader's "Fangfang" story, I posted a post on the Internet, originally trying to find some spiritual "resonance" for Fangfang, but found that netizens agreed that Fangfang's three "mate selection" requirements were unacceptable.

So, what is the reason why such netizens can't accept it? What is unreasonable about Fangfang's three demands? See what netizens say.

Netizen "Summer": This girl's idea is too unrealistic.

This girl knows exactly what she wants, but a man with an annual salary of 300 thousand, a house, a car and no loan never lacks the pursuit of young and beautiful girls. He has a successful career and doesn't need a woman to be in power. Having children is the bottom line for most men.

Girls' own conditions are not bad, but their ideas are too ungrounded. A woman who doesn't eat human fireworks can hardly marry a diploma if she can't "face up" herself.

Netizen "Breeze Blows Willow": There are more people who are stronger than you.

As long as the husband and wife are suitable, other conditions are ok, so don't be too deliberate. The old saying goes well: bamboo door to bamboo door, wooden door to wooden door. Unless your conditions are better than or similar to yours, others are not fools. You pick them and you pick them. There are many people better than you in this world.

Netizen "Better tomorrow": Can you have children?

Can you have children? Does the man have this condition to marry a 33-year-old woman? Giving birth to a child is really cruel to a woman. It's time. Besides, I'm not sure if I can have children in my thirties. Where did you get the courage to ask so many questions?

Netizen "Hsiao Ming-Ming": You are too selfish to get married at all.

Girl, do you know why you can't get married? When others are ready to get married, talk about feelings first, and you talk about conditions first, which is also a condition of "don't let yourself suffer". Before the marriage began, it was full of calculations. I can see that you are selfish, and you are not suitable for marriage at all. Let's live alone.

Netizen "mood": What a man needs is a home.

You are 33 years old and won't have children for two years. Have you considered the feelings of the man who married you? A woman should never overestimate her status. What men need is a home. He comes home from work every day, longing for a kind and virtuous wife to accompany him. Don't eat out of the world, pretend to be lofty, and men can let you leave in minutes.

Netizen "Little Cool Pen": Age is the biggest flaw.

People should have self-knowledge, and it is obviously unrealistic to aim too high, which also delays themselves. At this age, it's really hard to find, let alone demanding. To tell the truth, if you don't get married, you really have to find a divorced second-married man.

I often meet men with good conditions. In fact, their requirements for their wives are very simple. Have a college degree, have a job, don't be too good, young, beautiful, and take care of your family. So you have no advantage in the marriage and love market.

Write it at the end

There is a saying in Pride and Prejudice: "Marriage that only considers money is absurd, and marriage that does not consider money is stupid."

How to grasp one of the "degrees" is a very profound knowledge. Some girls are a little thoughtless, and the balance of marriage "coordinates" is tilted.

In the final analysis, the economy is of course important to girls, but Miao believes that Fangfang's readers are not poor in their own conditions, and they can find a "potential stock" and slowly make up for the lack of conditions after marriage.

It is better to ask for help than to ask for help. Sometimes it's easier to create these "perfect" conditions yourself than to wait for others to prepare them for you, isn't it?

Otherwise, if you continue to procrastinate and think that you are waiting for a "perfect" other half, it will actually delay your beautiful life and miss some good men who may spend the rest of their lives together and be happy together.

Marriage, character is more important than "wealth". When a man has a certain economic foundation and a very good personality enough to love you, I think he can give it a try.

Marriage is not bound by rules. True love can cross Qian Shan's mountains and many obstacles. As long as the husband and wife are United, many things will become much simpler in the future.

Finally, I wish every "older" girl a correct view of herself and a good home.