Have you ever been friends with three people? There are obviously three people, but they feel more lonely than themselves. We often try to form or integrate into a group because we are afraid of loneliness. But I don't know, what is more terrible than loneliness is to die with someone who makes you feel lonely. Loneliness can be magnified many times, you can't afford it, you can only swallow it. Friendship, I have always thought, is more rare than love, which can be met but not sought. Because the starting point of love may be the outbreak of hormones, not passion. But the beginning of friendship is understanding, not understanding. We put ourselves between two people who can't leave, give our eyes and sincerity to another person, only to find that the other person's eyes are moving on you and the other person. What should we do in the face of such a situation?

Female, after 00

In junior high school, the new school made two good friends. Three beautiful young girls, with almost the same ideas and ways of thinking, have a lot to say. A is an excellent schoolmaster with a slightly introverted personality. B is a talented student, cheerful and provocative. I am cheerful, a little tempered and willful. I experienced a girl's verbal injury before primary school, which was deep and now it is very good.

The three of us have always been fine, but things have changed since we saw Mao. A to my brother who likes cosplay women's clothes. After I jokingly commented that "my private life is really rich, but I don't know how to screw it up", his brother immediately replied, that is to say, I went to make trouble and caused disputes specifically, saying that we outsiders didn't know the inside story. I specifically asked him to apologize to him, but I didn't expect him to call me annoying and sarcastic. Then I explained to A on QQ that I didn't expect his younger brother (admitted by the other party) to communicate with me through her QQ, and then clarified that I started the relationship first. I apologized again, but I didn't expect him to push his luck so much. He also said that I bullied his sister (A) and praised her for belittling me.

I am very wronged. Did I do something wrong? I'm not just telling a joke, it's obviously a hairy dynamic, how can I make waves! And A deleted my QQ and left without even saying hello. B has been hesitating about what to do.

Can I quit? The friendship between three people is really too crowded. What should I do? What should I say and do when I face A on Monday?

Ps "Primary schools have speech disorders and depression, so they are particularly disgusted with speech attacks and will fight back immediately. Fortunately, I met several good teachers here to help, and now it is very good."

Consultant Guo Huina replied to Xi Ran.

It may be an unintentional joke to you, but it may also be something that touched his brother, so I want to be more complicated. No matter how you apologize, he always understands according to his own ideas. Your idea is not on a channel, so no matter how you explain it, he won't understand you. He can only hide and delete your qq to make them feel safe, but you feel wronged because of unknown so; There is no need to explain too much about this matter. See what you can sum up from this matter. You know her well, but you don't know her brother Pay attention to the words when you encounter similar things in the future, so it may not cause misunderstanding. what do you think? Good luck.

Dyeing consultant Guo Huina

Thank you.

Counselor Zhao Jie replied to Xi Ran.

Hug the landlord. Triangle ~ friendship ~ firmness has nothing to do with triangle. Since it happened, you have apologized, because you made an unintentional mistake. Maybe others will understand, maybe not. Whether they understand it or not, you have done what you have to do. A true good friend can stand the test.

Counselor An Ling replied to Ran.

I think so about interpersonal communication. The purpose of communication is to make yourself happy, not to embarrass yourself. If an exchange makes you feel embarrassed and unhappy, there must be something wrong. Personal opinion, for reference only.

Counselor Zhao Mimi answered Ran.

Hello, my friend. Sometimes the friendship between three people is as strong as a triangle, but more often, the strange friendship is not strong, and a person is easily lonely, which will lead to competition, jealousy and so on.

Xiao Nuan:

Xiao Nuan was also worried when he saw the embarrassed appearance of the enthusiastic host. The difference between two people's friendship and three people's friendship is that when two people's friendship breaks down, we will only be angry and never worry about being abandoned. The friendship between three people is like an animal world, where the law of the jungle is always full of competition. We carefully maintain each other's balance, but expect the balance to be broken and become winners. So the friendship between three people must be frank and clear. If you find that you can't handle such feelings, you might as well resign. Three or five people have the intimacy of three or five people, and one person has the excitement of one person. Enriching yourself will naturally attract people with the same magnetic field. You have to believe that the more precious things are, the more we need to pursue and represent them. Too casual and frivolous interpersonal relationships will only waste our lives. Pursuing the optimal solution has always been our goal. If you don't like it, you won't like it. Life is expensive, please don't waste it.