He came to the company, and the personnel department and leaders of the company talked with him. The implication is that Seagull is 42 years old and the company wants him to be laid off. The salary of "n+ 1" can hardly be compensated in employee rights and interests.
He disagreed, and some decided to jump off the Zhongxing Building. Leaving his wife, four old people on both sides, a 9-year-old son and a 2-year-old daughter, he hastily ended his 42-year-old life.
His name is seagull. He is a gentle man. He was born in the countryside. With his diligence and the strength of his whole family, he realized his dream of life and became a programmer.
He is an excellent program engineer. Seagull and his wife Ding Yan 12 years ago met and fell in love in Shenzhen. They bought a 90-square-meter house in 2005, and now there is a mortgage house in Dongguan with a monthly payment of 9,000 yuan. In their forties, the couple earn 500,000 yuan a year in Shenzhen, which is a standard happy family.
Such a family, at the moment when the seagull jumped off the building, became a thing of the past. Ding Yan never understood why her husband jumped off the building. He has no reason to leave her, her children and the old people on both sides.
However, the seagull finally chose to end his life and left hopelessly. What's left is a bunch of idle people alive, speculating about the spiritual history of seagulls, marital discord and their own limitations.
Between the life and death of middle-aged men
Mr. Lu Xun once said: Some people are dead, but he is still alive. Some people are alive, but he is dead. It is not an exaggeration to use this sentence to describe middle-aged men who are old and young and can't afford to live or die.
When people reach middle age, they seem to have more powerlessness in life. Whether it is good or not, I always feel that life lacks motivation and sustenance. For seagulls who run from home to work, a stable life, a stable state and a stable job are the only sustenance of his life.
He knows very well that as a 42-year-old communications veteran and a small supervisor, he has no advantage in the face of 80-90 generation programmers.
Moreover, according to the current state of the communication industry, the profit is thinner than paper, and the sales generated by 20 14 1 project now need 5/6 projects. Originally thought that the arrival of 5G can last for a long time, and it will take at least 202 1 year to be officially commercialized. No matter Huawei or ZTE, life is not so good.
There is no room for old employees in the workplace. One is old qualifications, and the other is high treatment. This is almost a group of people who have been replaced when enterprises do cost accounting.
After the age of 40, men can't get directors, vice presidents, CEOs and other positions in the workplace, and they are almost replaced by young people. Even if they mix up, they will die in the palace.
Have you found that there are more and more senior programmers who start businesses now, and all kinds of technical skills are looking for projects to do, because they are too aware of their situation. When a july rhapsody is in his teens, his family life has settled down. What is disturbing is his anxiety and confusion about the future.
At the age of 40, it is really not so easy for a man to change jobs, and it is not so easy to find a job. If he has a high degree, he can only do it himself. There is no other choice. Still working hard in the company, dragging on day by day.
What do 40-year-old men fear most?
What do 40-year-old men fear most? I'm afraid my wife will ask: Why are you still at home and don't go to work? Many times it's not that men don't go to work, but that programmers don't have many opportunities to go to work. Especially in the era when coding farmers are everywhere, programmers' skills are not particularly awesome, and their fields are not particularly refined, so it is almost difficult to reassure themselves.
Zhang Ailing once wrote in the novel Half-Life Fate: "People often feel this kind of loneliness after middle age. They feel that they are relying on him when they blink, and there is no one to rely on, not even one to discuss. "
Middle-aged men are often lonely. This loneliness is not his wife and children, but his own sense of powerlessness in life. They can't get out of trouble. Once an intellectual commits a crime, 10 cows can't be pulled back.
You would say that the seagulls can sell their house in Shenzhen and go back to their hometown. How comfortable! What about children's education? What do couples do for a living
Seagulls can start their own businesses with projects. If Seagull had the ability to take projects, he would have been the boss in the environment where entrepreneurs were everywhere in Shenzhen.
Seagulls can change careers, send couriers, set up stalls or open stores. It's not that easy!
A 40-year-old man sometimes commits suicide easily. They died of anxiety and uncertainty about the future. You will say that the seagulls in Shenzhen are good enough. They have a house, a car, a wife and children. That's all appearances.
When a person is not satisfied with his present situation and his state, it is easy to go to extremes. A man's heart rarely tells outsiders, even his wife is afraid of her worry.
How can men not be eliminated?
1, I have a career plan since I was in my twenties. I try to communicate and study as much as possible after work. See how friends make money. Don't treat the workplace as a lifelong career, it is just a springboard, which increases the thickness of your resume. You should also see how other industries are updated and improved.
2, try not to let his wife give up the workplace, encourage her to participate in the work more, and his wife will stare when she falls. The child tried to get the nanny's parents to do it. If the wife has a good career, there is nothing wrong with being wronged. The most important thing is that the whole family survives.
3, think clearly whether to have a second child, once you have a second child, you must change a big house and work harder, and your wife's career will also be affected. Find out the pros and cons of the whole family. If you don't, Jin Gangzuan, don't take the job of porcelain, ok? Living is the essence of life. The quality of life of the whole family is the foundation of survival.
Whether you are in a company or an organization, the advantages and disadvantages are clear. Civil servants will not lose their jobs, but the question is, can that money support a family? Companies should have a sense of crisis, know how to innovate and change, and try to do more second and third jobs. If a person is not promoted when he is young, he will be in trouble when he is old.
5. While you are young, do more investment and financial management, buy more commercial insurance for yourself and your family, and buy more houses and pavements to fight inflation. The stock market and housing market have always been profitable capital markets. You must know the economy, know how to invest and always have a sense of currency crisis.
For a 40-year-old man, there are old and young people in the world, and living feels that life has come to an end, and the whole family has to rely on itself. So men all know the importance of finding a capable wife before marriage.
The essence of marriage is mutual support. Qi Xin works together to create a family atmosphere and a good living environment. Why else would we get married? It's just that a person is living too hard and needs someone to join hands.
In this era, it is not the housewives over 40 who have a hard time, and the man who is the head of your family is even more afraid to fall down. Therefore, mutual understanding, respect, support, cooperation and cooperation between men and women in marriage are the essence of marriage.
If you want to find a programmer husband to live a comfortable life when you are young, maybe your husband was laid off by the company in his thirties. So whenever a woman gets married, she has to rely on herself. Men are not unreliable, they are hard to protect themselves.
A 40-year-old man is very fragile. They have been through a lot. Many have become greasy middle-aged uncles. They can't be as pure as Pu Shu. They are teenagers at heart, but life has forced them into old people. And there are many evil, black-bellied, pessimistic and skilled souls. Many 40-year-old men have lost their souls. They don't want to live an active life, they can make do for one day.
Men know more about the cruelty of life than women since childhood. No matter how they get along after the age of 40, they all have a world-weary complex more or less.
It is not that seagulls are not strong, but that the whole society does not give hope to the middle class. To say the least, the economy is still bad and the work is unstable. How can a family live on a house alone?
Even if the families in Beishangguang have several houses, two children are enough to restrain them. Raising children is not as simple as a house.
If a man really loves his wife and his family, he should let his wife realize his life value, so that you can have spiritual sustenance.
A man really wants to spend his 40-year-old sense of powerlessness and loss safely. Having fewer children will make his life happier. The more children there are, the greater the responsibility of women when men leave. Therefore, when a woman gives birth to a child, she needs to do asset evaluation and future family happiness ratio evaluation.
After all, middle-aged men are too fragile to be taken lightly. Seagulls are really not a case. When looking for a husband, a woman must know what kind of person he is. Many men look strong, but in fact they are very fragile inside. How can there be so many beautiful lives in this world? Persistence means everything!