It is reported that not long ago, outside the job fair in Jie Fangbei, Chongqing, a daughter punched her mother because she didn't want to work, and then the mother and daughter scuffled. After the public at the scene persuaded the fight, the mother said that her daughter had been a "house girl" for four years after graduating from college. The reason for the fight was that she forced her "old" daughter to come out and look for a job. We have quarreled many times about this matter. After listening, people can't help but feel deeply. Let's talk about it what do you think of it ?

Your Excellency:

Nowadays, families are generally only children. Most children are spoiled from childhood and live a life of reaching for clothes and making ends meet. Suddenly, they are asked to step into the society, facing the strict management system and serious leadership of the unit, which makes them feel at a loss, so they "stay at home" and become "neets". After all, parents can't stay with their children forever. Children must face the reality, stand up bravely, not afraid of failure, and meet the tests and challenges of society. As parents, we should be careful. First, exercise from an early age, so that children can leave their parents during holidays and learn to live independently. The second is to guide children to establish correct outlook on life and values from an early age; The third is to strengthen children's moral cultivation; The fourth is to "push" adult children out of the house and let them live and start their own businesses.

Yi:

There will be waves when there is wind, and will be calm when there is no tide. The author believes that the reason why young college students don't look for jobs and stay at home after graduation is largely because their parents at home have provided them with a hotbed of "living on their laurels" since childhood. Living in this hotbed all the year round, they have developed a lazy and unearned temperament. The so-called "only the disaster of life can be born in the hotbed of life" is precisely this truth. Therefore, regardless of family conditions, parents should fully realize the importance of family education. Only through good family education in the whole growth process of children and correct guidance in their daily lives can the "mother-daughter fight" incident not happen.

Zhao Yonghong:

You can't always depend on your parents in this world. One day you have to stand on your own feet, that is, stand on your own feet. This is the most basic requirement for a person. If you can't do it, you won't get the respect of others, or even your family. My daughter has graduated from college for four years and hasn't come out to look for a job. It is wrong to refuse to look for a job. You can't support yourself by your parents all your life. Of course, this is probably related to the usual doting of parents. I think my daughter should be an independent person, rely on her own efforts, stand on her own feet, get employment as soon as possible, and get rid of the "second generation" life that depends on her parents.

Luo Yongqiang:

My daughter's reluctance to be a "stay-at-home girl" is, in my opinion, largely related to the current expansion of university enrollment, the difficulty in finding a job due to intensified competition, and the psychological tolerance of current university graduates. After graduating from college, I also had several job hunting experiences at crowded job fairs. I can also understand the sense of loss caused by the so-called "Chinese cabbage" from the so-called favor to the job fair, as well as the job you are looking for. If the conditions didn't permit at that time, maybe I would choose to stay at home for a while and then look for a job slowly. Therefore, I think to solve the problem that young people can't find jobs after graduating from college, on the one hand, we should solve the problem of graduates' employment difficulties from the big environment, create more jobs suitable for college graduates, and at the same time, we should strengthen the education of college graduates' psychological quality and endurance, so that they can realize that college students are just ordinary members of the employment force.

Huang Guoshun:

In our life, there are indeed some young people who have graduated from college who always stay at home and have no time to go out and find something to support themselves. The reason is that there is fierce employment competition in the society at present, and no suitable job has been found yet; Some people are used to their parents' carefree life. It is too difficult to find social work after graduation. They simply don't find anything and shut themselves up at home. For the former, it is understandable. But for the latter, it is the fault that these parents usually spoil their children too much. It seems that parents should pay more attention to their children's independence and ability to adapt to society if they want their children to work and support themselves immediately after graduation.

Huang:

Young people study hard at a cold window for ten years. The purpose is to enter the society to display their talents and achieve their life goals after graduation. Faced with enormous employment pressure, it is a fact that it is difficult for students from famous universities to find jobs after graduation. It is common in today's society for Tsinghua University to be a butcher, a nanny and a new moon after graduation. Life should go its own way. Our parents raised us through hardships. They saved money to send us to universities and colleges for education. After graduation, I feel a little frustrated both emotionally and professionally, so I want to be an "otaku" and "otaku", which is really unfilial to my parents who have worked hard for themselves all their lives. People should always be grateful, so that they can be accepted by society.

Li:

The crux of this problem lies in the mother's hatred of women, which is caused by the improper education of China's parents. Due to the lack of independent consciousness and ability, children will become helpless and timid without their parents. Four years after graduating from college, I am at least physically mature, but I am still like a "weaned" baby at heart, and I was asked by my parents to be my own canteen and nurse. Parents should communicate with their children ideologically, and if possible, ask relevant personnel for counseling, cultivate their independent consciousness and ability, guide them step by step, encourage their children to participate in various beneficial activities, and cultivate their confidence in independence.

Zhang dare:

It's incredible that such a thing happened. It cannot be said that it is a kind of educational sorrow. How could a highly educated person do such a thing? How much hardship and sweat parents have paid to raise their daughter and send her to college. It is said that sheep have the grace of kneeling and nursing, and crows have the meaning of feeding back. As a daughter, with a grateful heart, after graduating from college, she should go out to find a job, earn her own living, not suffer from the loss of the elderly, repay her parents' kindness and realize her life value. This is a wise move.

Zhou Zhanxing:

Every family in our country spends a lot of money to send their children to college so that they can find better jobs and live a happy life in the future. However, with the changes of the times, college students are no longer "hot potato". Therefore, after graduating from college, don't be so proud as to die. They are unwilling to do this and that. As the saying goes, "Everything rises from the ground." As long as you have perseverance and do a good job, there will always be opportunities to climb up and there will always be a high salary.

Napo boy:

These young people who are unwilling to go out to work may have these psychology: 1. Lack of life goals; 2. Dependence; 3. Have fear. These young people should understand that taking part in work is both a responsibility and an obligation. Everyone should be a laborer and never get something for nothing. The meaning of work is not only to make a living, but also to maintain a person's position in society. If you don't contact society for a long time, it will be more difficult to integrate into society in the future, which often leads to personality disorder and escape psychology. No matter what job you do, it will help you grow. It is the right choice to have a job first and then find something you like to do.

Ling Xiangxiu:

You should look for a job after graduating from college, which is a way to repay society and family. Even if you are frustrated in finding a job again and again, you must persist; Even if your present job is not satisfactory, you should stick to it. Accumulate experience at work, enrich experience, and lay a good foundation for finding a more suitable job in the future. It is imperative for college students to find jobs first, which can enrich themselves and support themselves. This is the best self-confidence in life. After graduating from college, the girl mentioned in the article is not only willing to be a stay-at-home girl for four years, but also punched and kicked her mother who advised her to find a job. It can be said that this girl has a personality problem and an unhealthy mentality. They are lazy and lazy. Such children make parents feel cold.

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Does the constant choice of new jobs have an impact on newcomers in the workplace?

At present, many prospective college graduates have found jobs by their own efforts and are practicing in new units. They have just entered the society and still have a lot to learn, but they don't settle down to work with peace of mind. Instead, they keep hiding their work units and don't send resumes to other units, hoping to find a better unit. Does the mentality of constantly choosing a new job affect newcomers in the workplace? Let's talk about how to overcome this mentality.