From the day I started dating Jie Zheng, his mother hated me and gave me all kinds of ugly faces. I didn't care at the time. I thought that after marriage, as long as the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not under the same roof and Jie Zheng loves me, it would be fine. However, I underestimated the influence of my mother-in-law on our marriage.

Actually, I am an honest daughter. Parents are cautious all their lives and make a living by doing small business. Although my savings are not much, my life is still good. However, Jie Zheng's mother just looked down on me and said that I was not good enough for her son.

Indeed, as far as family conditions are concerned, Jie Zheng is much superior to me. His father is a local celebrity, and his mother was an executive of a company before she retired. However, if we look at the personal conditions between Jie Zheng and me, regardless of our family, I think there is no gap between us, and even my conditions are slightly better than his. First of all, I graduated from a real university, and he is only a junior college; My work unit is better than him, and my monthly salary is higher than him. But even so, his mother still thinks that I have contacted her son. When I was in contact with Jie Zheng, she gave me all kinds of difficulties and runs. Even when I met my parents, she was condescending. In order to avoid discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I specially discussed with Jie Zheng and bought a wedding room far from his parents' home.

When I first got married, the world between Jie Zheng and me was calm and harmonious. Although he can't do housework, neither can he. I wash clothes, cook and clean the house alone, and I don't care about him at all. So we lived in peace for half a year. Six months later, I was pregnant.

B.

My mother came to my house to take care of me as soon as she knew I was pregnant. Taking care of me is actually accepting all the housework that fell on me before. She hopes that after I have children, my mother-in-law will treat me better.

In fact, since I got pregnant, my mother-in-law really began to pay attention to me and brought something to eat to see me from time to time. But I don't want her to come, because I always find fault with my mother: either the fish my mother bought is not fresh; Either my mother cooks too hard; Or my house is too dirty, and the pregnant woman's residence should be cleaned up. In my opinion, she completely treats my mother as a nanny. My mother is honest. In the face of her mother-in-law's arrogance, she always responds with "mm-hmm". The more my mother does this, the more she makes a hullabaloo about in front of her.

I have symptoms of threatened abortion because the progesterone index is too low. When I was in the hospital, my mother-in-law came and said that when I was pregnant with Zheng Jie, she was fine at work, and I had a problem lying like this. The child is definitely not well developed. Even if it is saved, it may not be a healthy child. What she said made me whisper, so I said, otherwise, the child will run away. As a result, my mother-in-law immediately said, "This is my grandson, and you have no right to make your own decisions."

In the end, the child failed to stay and had a spontaneous abortion. Then my mother-in-law began to complain about my mother, saying that everything she gave me was not fresh, which was also the reason for the abortion. Anyway, my mother was too angry to speak for a long time. After my mother-in-law came home, I also took it out on Jie Zheng, and as a result, he went back to her mother's house as soon as she teethed.

After a month's rest, I began to go back to work. A few days later, Jie Zheng asked me to keep a key to his mother's house, saying that his mother said that she would help us clean the house and cook when she was free.

Before I got pregnant, my mother-in-law never came to my house, but after she got pregnant, she stood for a while and left. Now she suddenly cares about my life and Jie Zheng's, which makes me vaguely feel that the storm in our family is coming soon.

C.

My hunch was right. Mother-in-law didn't come to my house a few times, and she began to pick on me. She said that Jie Zheng loves cleanliness since he was a child, but my house is dirty and clothes and socks are thrown everywhere. I said that I had told Jie Zheng many times to throw his changed clothes into the laundry bucket, but he just wouldn't listen. The mother-in-law added, "All men have to work. Why are they so concerned? You should always clean up. "

But I also want to work! Faced with my mother-in-law's groundless accusations, I was very unhappy, so I complained to Jie Zheng. At first, he told me not to dispute with my mother-in-law. I said too much, and he said that I was annoyed with his mother, who helped us with the housework, and I was ungrateful. That tone and expression, just like his mother.

My resentment towards my mother-in-law is growing. And Jie Zheng's position, gradually and completely on his mother's side. As a result, my mother-in-law paid less attention to me. Once, she told me directly that if Jie Zheng didn't want to marry me, she wouldn't agree to our marriage.

I've said too much, and my anger has come up. Naturally, I will not confront my mother-in-law, but transfer my anger to Jie Zheng. At this point, the two began to quarrel intermittently.

In May this year, I found another person outside Zheng Jie, so I quarreled with him more often. Once, after we quarreled, Jie Zheng slammed the door and left. I was so angry that I called my mother-in-law When my mother-in-law knew the reason for our quarrel, she not only didn't teach a lesson, but blamed me for not giving warmth to my family, so Zheng fell in love with someone else.

Judging from her tone of voice, I think she already knows about it.

10 At the beginning of the year, Jie Zheng and I had another quarrel, and he filed for divorce. I was so disappointed in him that I agreed at once. Originally, the house belonged to his family, and we didn't have the problem of property division, but I was unbalanced and asked him to give me some spiritual compensation. He promised me 50 thousand yuan. 50 thousand yuan is not much, but my mother-in-law doesn't agree when she knows it.

When bargaining for divorce conditions, Jie Zheng spoke frankly and told the truth that his mother refused to give money. He said that his mother had known Xiao San for a long time and had introduced him before, but he was possessed by ghosts and married me. "If I had listened to my mother, I wouldn't be so tired these two years." Jie Zheng said, that woman doesn't know how much better than me. His mother likes her very much. Some time ago, she went out to travel and bought her a gift.

I am really angry. I just wanted money to vent my anger. Even if he didn't give it to me, I decided to divorce, but after listening to Jie Zheng, I changed my mind. I knew I couldn't reason with their mother and son, so I went to my father-in-law. My father-in-law never cared about us before. This time, he listened to me tell the story. He also felt that their mother and son had gone too far and promised to give me some compensation. However, until now, I haven't seen any money. At the same time, Jie Zheng and her mother-in-law have completely regarded me as an enemy. ...

Editor's speech

If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not in harmony, it is foolish for a wife to take her husband as a punching bag and transfer her resentment against her mother-in-law to an innocent husband, in exchange for hurting the feelings of husband and wife and the feelings of a small family!

You didn't marry him when he was dying, so he really loved you. So, even for him, what if he put up with his mother-in-law? She finds fault with her and is arrogant. It's really annoying, but can quarreling with her husband solve the problem? How many unfilial sons have you met? Broke up with my mother because of the discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? Even if you really get that purity, how good will your reputation as a daughter-in-law be? In another way, if you are patient with your mother-in-law, then laugh at yourself in front of your husband and praise your generosity by the way?

Generally speaking, in the dispute between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the daughter-in-law is bound to lose in the end: the husband and wife are not harmonious, but the husband and wife are separated. Unless the daughter-in-law is smart enough not to push her husband into the bellows, both ends will be disheartened.

Of course, if you hold the idea of "vent your anger even if you break this marriage", then nothing can be said.

(Original title: I really don't want to lose this marriage)