In the broadcast "Settle Down", Zhu Shanshan broke up with her blind date Ji, but after only two episodes, Zhu Shanshan was finally proposed by her sweetheart, and the netizens' experience was greatly satisfied: finally together!
At the same time, the mothers who are also chasing the drama also made a speech: "In fact, I am very optimistic about Ji. What a nice guy, and the conditions are good. I didn't expect to finally find out that he simply looked down on other girls! "
Mother and young netizens have different but similar views, which makes people cry. It is really "all roads lead to Rome".
How striking young netizens are. When these two people don't know whether they like each other or not, they can see at a glance that they are telling the judge that they have a good impression on each other. Zhu Shanshan and Wang Zijian are locked as CP! What's so important about hukou and house? Love is being together!
On the other hand, mothers are optimistic about Ji. As a blind date, the bright conditions can be said to be top-notch. A data mining engineer, a native of Shanghai, whose parents have a pension and a demolition house at home. Regardless of height or age, all aspects are highly matched with Zhu Shanshan's requirements.
If there is no such thing as "breaking up to see character" in the end, who would you choose if you were Zhu Shanshan?
Ji VS, "mark" VS "love"
In fact, Ji He represents two different choices made by women in the face of marriage, namely "standard" and "love".
Zhu Shanshan has strict standards for her spouse from the beginning. She listed a framework: to have a house and a Shanghai hukou, so that her "wardrobe princess" can walk out of the alley and live a good life. Therefore, Zhu Shanshan came to be a real estate agent just to catch a "rich husband". So, Wang Zijian was scared to "run".
Ji's appearance is just right, which not only meets all the requirements of Zhu Shanshan, but also depends on his youthful appearance at first sight. When I met my colleague for the second time, there was nothing wrong with him being sleek, sophisticated and sparkling.
If we say that the shining girl is not a "detail monster", she may just marry Ji. With material security, she won't be too bad after marriage.
However, their views on marriage and love woke up at the moment when Ji proposed. She still longs for love. Those seemingly inexplicable problems are all potential disharmonious factors in their marriage life, so Shanshan thinks they are inappropriate and proposes to break up.
Ji: You can get married if you meet the conditions.
Ji Liang Ming doesn't think so. He is a typical representative of "fast-food blind date" in contemporary society. From the beginning, just like applying for a job, he made a "resume" of work, hukou and family background. He was confident in his existing conditions and had a sense of superiority from the beginning. His pursuit of flash is to take a fancy to her appearance, but not to really love and respect her.
He believes that two people spread all external conditions on the table, saying that the next love is based on marriage. He doesn't need the feeling of liking and the heart of love, as long as the conditions of two people match. This is probably the idea of many young people dating now.
I didn't know until we broke up that a person with superior conditions like him, like a person with excellent work experience, would have a subconscious idea: I have such good conditions that I can have a crush on you, and you should be grateful to Dade for falling in love with me, getting married and having children.
It's not that discipline is bad, but that they have different views on marriage and love. This kind of blind date, all realistic things as chips, on the table to pick and choose. Sparkling is also when you choose a stone that you think is the most perfect and find that you don't really like it.
Wang Zijian: I know Zhu Shanshan best.
When did Wang Zijian join CP with Zhu Shanshan? Probably when Zhu Shanshan was still "Snow White", Shanshan was almost molested by the wicked. This is the moment when Wang Zijian used his quick wits to press the alarm to save Spock.
Later, Wang Zijian started the mode of "boyfriend bursting", and paid off the boss who caught the doll machine with money, just to make Zhu Shanshan happy again.
When Bo Guang was angry, he knew Bo Guang's preferences, bought her favorite online celebrity cake and a mask, and tried his best to coax Bo Guang back to life with sweet words.
It can be said that Wang Zijian is the person who knows Zhu Shanshan best. Even in the last cinema, Wang Zijian took his girlfriend to the movies and met Zhu Shanshan who took her boyfriend to the same game. The two of them laughed like two peas in a pod, laughing their heads off in the front and back rows. On the other hand, Emily and Ji are unhappy and lack interest.
However, Wang Zijian does not have a Shanghai hukou, which is the "rule" set by Zhu Shanshan from the beginning, and it is also the biggest gap between them.
Fortunately, in the end, Shiny saw her mind clearly, and Wang Zijian also faced up to her heart and turned back on the road of proposing marriage. Finally, the two lovers got married.
Although Wang Zijian does not meet the rules and regulations required by Zhu Shanshan, there is love between them. Love, though intangible and seemingly illusory, is more important than Shanghai hukou in a sparkling heart.
Can you say that the sparkling choice must be the right one? Not necessarily, there is no right or wrong in choosing "standard" or "love", just different views on marriage and love and different choices.
It turns out that I can change all my "standard conditions" for him.
Once upon a time there was a good friend named Shi Shi, who was 27 years old. Because she was urged to get married by her family, she was asked to send herself a "personals". The requirements of the rules and regulations are clearly marked: her height is 1.78 meters, which is older than herself and can be more than 5 years old. She lives in Fujian and doesn't accept long-distance relationships.
Because the poem looks very sweet, there are many questions in the circle of friends, so I will filter out the ones that don't match. A male friend named Dakuan also came to ask, but none of his conditions met, so I politely refused.
Dakuan is also an interesting big boy. He asked me to send him a circle of friends to propose marriage, and I agreed. Who knows, just after it was sent out, Shi Shi came to ask me about Dakuan, saying that she had a heart-warming feeling at the moment she saw Dakuan's photo.
I advise her here: "His height is only 175, which is far from 1.8 meters!"
"It doesn't matter, I can lower my height requirements."
I continued to persuade her: "He is young, one year younger than you."
"What's the big deal? I don't mind!"
I then advised, "His family is from the north, not from the south. You will have a long-distance relationship together. "
"Nothing, I can go to him!"
At that moment, I suddenly found that when love comes, all the standards and rules you marked before can be turned into compromises. Those requirements that you think must be met are no longer necessary.
As the saying goes: I thought about what my future partner would be like, but I never thought it would be like you.
Just because it is him, it is this person who touches himself, makes himself feel love and tastes sweet, not anyone who meets his own standards.
After chatting, they found more and more common topics and began to appreciate each other more. After a hurry, the relationship between the two quickly stabilized. Now, Shishi quit his job and went to work as a teacher in Dakuan's city. Dakuan continued to drive his homestay. The two have obtained the certificate and are ready to hold a wedding at the end of the year.
What Shishi has always said to me is: "Fortunately, I have not compromised with more than a dozen blind dates introduced to my family. Fortunately, I waited for him. "
The love between poetry and generosity makes me believe that in this "fast food era" where speed and efficiency are highly respected, when everyone is customizing the standard of rules and looking for a suitable spouse, some people still hold the expectation and longing for love, and gamble desperately just because that person is worth it.
Of course, it is also true to choose a spouse with better material conditions, at least life will not be too bad, and people who choose love may not necessarily not quarrel. We are all adults. Since we have different views and choices on marriage and love, we should shoulder this responsibility and don't regret the decision we made at the beginning.
Of course, if "standard" and "love" are the same person, it is of course the best result. But if it's not the same person, I still hope not to choose you after weighing the pros and cons. You should be the one who walks up to you firmly even if it is bad.