First of all, I think Zhao Min is not a strict wife and mother, but a very rebellious person. Although he is a Mongolian princess, he won't sell himself short just because he is a girl. On the contrary, she feels superior to many people, which can be seen from her dressing up as a woman and making friends with Jianghu people everywhere.
Secondly, Zhao Min is loyal to feelings. When she found out that she liked Zhang Wuji, she refused the marriage arranged by her father, even willing to give up her identity and follow Zhang Wuji to be an ordinary woman.
This is also reflected in the forced marriage of Zhang Wuji. If an ordinary girl finds out that her lover is going to marry someone else and has a deep misunderstanding about herself, she may have been heartbroken and have no mood to fight for it. She is innocent. But Zhao Min is different. Even if Zhang Wuji hates her again, Zhou Zhiruo will regard her as a thorn in the side. No one in the Jianghu will trust her, and Zhao Min will show up at Zhang Wuji's wedding without hesitation. This courage alone is admirable.
Third, Zhao Min is also a kind person at heart. Although I teased Zhang Wuji in every way before, I still gave Zhang Wuji jet intermittent cream and cured the Six Heroes of Wudang Yin. Later, he found that both Xiao Zhao and Li Yin liked Zhang Wuji. Although they always talked about it, they didn't hurt them.
On the contrary, Zhou Zhiruo looks kind and gentle on the surface, but he is cruel behind his back. She killed Pearl herself and framed Zhao Min.