A. First of all, we should look at each other's conditions. Only when the conditions are right can we meet, but meeting only means getting acquainted, not getting married. However, this is often not the case. Girls often feel psychological pressure because of blind date, which makes them worry a lot. For example, if it is inappropriate, the other party will pester themselves, delay each other, or be misunderstood by the other party, and so on.
B. leftover women must have their reasons for staying, and these reasons will inevitably be brought to you.
The general reasons are as follows:
(1) They are perverse and it is difficult for them to get along well with the opposite sex.
(2) There are many hard conditions and bottom lines that make it difficult for them to find a suitable partner.
(3) Excessive self-protection and self-esteem make it easy for them to miss some people.
(4) Have high expectations and fantasies about the opposite sex.
(5) Lack of emotional cognition and heterosexual cognition makes it difficult for them to be moved and handle emotional relationships well.
(6) Women who stay at home have a narrow social circle, which makes them have little chance to meet the opposite sex.
C. because of lack of understanding, it is difficult for each other to have a common language, so naturally there is little intersection. Coupled with strangeness and ignorance of how to communicate, the probability of two of a kind is reduced, the pressure of inadaptability is increased, and communication barriers are prone to occur.
D. Mentality and emotional factors exist in both men and women. For girls, it is hard for them to deceive themselves, because she is hard to move, and there is no condition to move, saying that this person has good conditions, so they may be happy together. For boys, once they find that the other person feels good, they are eager for success, thinking that they are rushing to get married, so they have no patience to fall in love. It's like talking about business, talking about the intentions and conditions of cooperation with each other, and once you sign the contract, it's done. But if two people want to live together for a long time, the complexity is far more than just talking about business and signing contracts.
Let's talk about the reason why you failed on the old summer solstice:
Judging from the action of sending photos, you are wondering if the reason for your failure is too ugly and tasteless. When this is not the case, a survey on mate selection criteria shows that the most frequently answered question is "personality", reaching 52%. After that, they were "considerate" (46%), "feeling" (40%) and "security" (36%), while only 25% answered "appearance".
Therefore, your appearance is not an important reason for your failure. Besides, you are not ugly, but you have poor taste in clothes. Judging from the sense of facial expression, you are sipping your mouth, which shows that you are nervous and unconfident subconsciously. Judging from the traces of facial wrinkles, you are not good at communication and communication. In fact, you should be sunny when you smile, especially there should be shallow dimples on both sides, so your appearance is not the reason for your blind date.
Through the blind date explained to you by the old summer solstice above, it is not difficult to see that blind date has its objective reasons, and you are no exception, mainly reflected in your ideological cognition. Your ideological cognition determines how you will meet and get along with girls, how you will get along with girls, what kind of cognition girls will have about you, and her cognition of you determines whether she is willing to further develop with you.
I don't know much about women's love psychology, so it's often limited to think about girls' thoughts and ideas only by my own understanding of girls. If you can't correctly understand and reasonably respond to the words and deeds of girls, it is naturally difficult for the other party to accept you like this.
In love, I do not have a correct understanding of my emotional attitude. I always feel that I have been working hard and the result is still failure. But in love, I don't have to pay with my heart, but I have to pay correctly, just like when you go to the exam, you don't have to study hard, you can take the exam and you have to answer the questions correctly.
Lack of communication and expression skills, such as your question, can explain the problem well. Because your description is too simple, I just want to help you make a detailed analysis, which is impossible. You cannot make a silk purse out of a sow's ear.
Lack of deep thinking and problem-solving ability, especially lack of flexibility, leads to clumsiness when getting along with girls. To tell the truth, you have to say something, otherwise you will be embarrassed and silent, don't know how to guide the topic, don't know how to get along with girls, and seeing some expressions and behaviors of the other party can't give you a correct response.
The following summer, Solstice gave you some advice:
Establish a correct concept of blind date, blind date only provides an opportunity to get to know each other, and how to grasp the opportunity is the key.
Improve your understanding of feelings and women's psychology. Because of your lack of contact and understanding of girls, this aspect is almost blank and you need to make up lessons.
Improve your communication and expression skills, otherwise it will be difficult for girls to know and understand you, let alone like you.
Get to know her as much as possible through various channels, know yourself and know yourself, and fight every battle.
Understand the contents include
A. Family background, growth experience, professional experience and emotional experience
B. personality, values and love.
C. Hobbies, living habits and circle of friends
D. Life needs, spiritual needs and emotional needs
To design a good start, the next thing to do is to build trust with her, and then deepen mutual understanding, especially her understanding of you. There are many ways. What she knows about you depends on what information you convey to her, that is, communication, exchange and self-expression are very important.
After establishing trust with her, the task is to raise the emotional temperature of two people, guide and deepen her affection for you, and make the emotional temperature of each other rise steadily.
When the temperature of each other's feelings rises to a certain extent, they will naturally enter the ambiguous stage, which is actually the necessary stage for most love, that is, they don't say anything to each other, but they all know that each other is interested in themselves. Dealing with all kinds of contradictions, misunderstandings, differences and emotions that may exist during the ambiguous period can effectively connect with each other.
Enhance personal image, whether it is self-image or social image. You are a stranger to her, so her understanding of you must start with your external image and your behavior.
Let's talk so much first. I hope the answer from the old summer solstice can help you, and I wish you a happy love.