Ma Lan (now Yu's wife)' s boyfriend died in an accident while studying in Shanghai. Yu was one of the leaders in charge of this matter, so he met Ma Lan. I began to pursue Malan regardless of my married status. At this point, Yu has become famous. Yu is different from other famous literati. He is better at dealing with interpersonal relationships. On one occasion, the Shanghai Municipal Committee gave me more than one set in the courtyard of the Committee. According to Li Hong, Yu's ex-wife, Yu has made various arrangements, and she just needs to sign. After the divorce, Yu's ex-wife led a hard life with her daughter. Yu and Li Hong used to be loving couples, but the man who changed his mind would only mention his ex-wife's fault in later articles. Yu's ex-wife Li Hongnian married Yu, gave birth to a daughter in 2006, and divorced Yu in July 2006.

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Li Hong, my ex-wife: The days when I left.

Li Hong, a girl, is a carefree and lovely girl, naive and lively, and is deeply loved by her classmates and teachers. My father and mother teach English in middle schools. They create a good learning and living environment for her and her brother. After graduating from school, she was left in Shanghai and assigned to the Textile Bureau. She loved drama since she was a child. Because of her advantages in appearance, figure and language, she was seconded to the younger generation of Shanghai Youth Theatre Company as an amateur actress.

That year, 23-year-old Li Hong took an ambitious entrance examination for the drama department of Shanghai Theatre Academy. As a result, she stood out from more than 1000 candidates and was among the best. However, things are unpredictable. For various reasons, she missed the Shanghai Theatre Academy, but her answer sheet was seen by Yu, who was in charge of the Shanghai Theatre Academy at that time.

In the film "Spring Seedlings", Li Hong and Li, who was not famous at that time, became candidates at the same time, which made it difficult for the director to choose. Li Hong said that due to the family environment, the director thought I was too intellectual and a little slender, while Li was rough and fit the characters in the play. As a result, Li became an instant hit, and since then, he has been a hit in the entertainment industry.

Fortunately, however, during this period, Li Hong met Yu, who was already very famous at that time. Young, beautiful and active, Li Hong was attracted by this honest and learned man like Old Master Q. Li Hong said that she disdained other suitors who were better than Yu in all aspects and fell in love with Yu.

Li Hong clearly remembers that on Sunday, Yu Hui went to Li Hong's home in Hongkou by bus in the evening. They talked and laughed together, read books and ate together until late at night. Without the bus, he often walks back to his residence, and every time he is still wanting more, his infatuation can be seen.

Yu's true feelings also touched Li Hong's parents. They advised Li Hong that the overseas people she knew were unreliable, but he was an honest man and a good man. Marry him as soon as possible. Yu and Li Hong, who have been in love for five years, finally entered the marriage hall. They settled down in a humble room on Dalian Road. I only bought a big cupboard and a chest of drawers.

A peaceful marriage gave birth to a sensational cultural journey.

A delicate woman, a darling girl who was favored since childhood, became a housewife overnight. Li Hong doesn't seem to have adapted to the change of this role. What moved her very much was that Yu was very considerate to her. She can't use the washing machine, but I am responsible for washing clothes.

Whether they lived in Dalian Xincun at the beginning of their marriage or later moved to Wanhangdu Road, they didn't cook by themselves because their houses were small and they shared coal stoves. At that time, Li Hong carried a big bag every day. There was always a big lunch box in it. It was oval and very old, and there were several dents in it. Almost everyone in Li Hong's company knows this lunch box, which has become a symbol of Li Hong as a good wife. Every day after work, Li Hong went to his mother's house first, filled the vegetables carefully prepared by his mother with vegetarian dishes, and hurried home anxiously to watch him eat sweetly. Before going to bed at night, Li Hong always checks whether the lunch box is cleaned and then puts it in the bag. It seems that this lunch box contains all her love and care, carrying her family boat to the distant future.

During that time, due to setbacks in her career and suffering from hepatitis, it can be said that "the house leaks all the time." Li Hong, a young woman, enlightened her learned husband and said, "Don't listen to things outside the window, hide in a small building and unite." You just write your own book, don't think about anything else, and don't care about anything else. Li Hong also said, "Your greatest love for me is to write something." Li Hong did as he said, specially arranged a book for Yu, lived there, and wrote with peace of mind.

This period of time after marriage is clear and dull, so I devoted all my time to the creation of cultural journey.

At that time, every night, after Li Hong went to bed, he always came over gently, kissed her, and then said softly, go to sleep first, I'm going to work. He is so diligent and dedicated that I am moved and admired. In his most difficult days, I never thought about leaving him, not even the slightest idea. Li Hong said.

1984, the daughter was born. In order not to affect Yu's writing, the child has been taken care of by her grandmother from birth to today; In order not to affect Yu's work, Li Hong also lives in her parents' home to take care of her children. Li Hong said frankly: Maybe I didn't care enough about Yu after the baby was born. ...

The day I left Yu was the best day for a woman to reinvent herself.

1989 Li Hong resigned voluntarily due to the poor efficiency of the company. During that time, for Li Hong, she was once again faced with the choice of life. She wants to go to Shenzhen to develop. Yu also supported her to go to Shenzhen to have a rest.

When I first arrived in Shenzhen, I was a stranger. I have no relatives, no friends and no money. It doesn't matter. Li Hong, with young people from all over the country flocking to Shenzhen, went to the world and wanted to gamble with his own destiny and future. Li Hong appreciates the sentence "I bet my youth on tomorrow", but that year, she only had the tail of youth.

1In the early spring of 992, Li Hong was ill and bedridden in Shenzhen alone. She called Yu in Shanghai and said that she was ill, so I'm afraid she can't go back to Shanghai during the Spring Festival. I wanted to hear some thoughtful words or a voice calling her home. She wants to climb back to her home in Shanghai even if she climbs. However, in the face of the cool microphone, Li Hong felt that she had suddenly fallen into the abyss. Without any hope, she felt unprecedented helplessness.

1In March, 992, Li Hong returned to Shanghai from Shenzhen. While tidying up her desk, she found something that she shouldn't have found. Li Hong's heart suddenly sank to the bottom of the sea, and she had a presentiment of the end of the matter. In July of the same year, when her husband 13 formally filed for divorce, Li Hong still didn't believe it was true. Can a relationship of more than ten years be so fragile? But she still signed the divorce papers. Because her idea is simple and her feelings are gone, why should she get married?

Li Hong said: "I have no marriage, no husband, no family, only my 8-year-old daughter."

Stepping on the train in Shenzhen again, with the pain of divorce, she wanted to cry.

In Shenzhen, she stayed in a cheap hotel, worked as a tour guide, ran through transportation, worked as a salesman and agent. She even lent her initial savings to a friend to gamble on horses in Macau, but she recovered her capital and got a bonus. She works as a white-collar worker on the 32nd floor of the famous International Trade Building in Shenzhen. In the end, she earned her place in the big room invested by Guotai Junan Securities, and also earned the money needed to mark a person's success.

She said to me, "Shenzhen is a city for young people, and the ratio of male to female is 1:8. Just like a middle-aged woman who is neither young nor background, she relies on her innate self-confidence and courage to never give up, relying on her inner vitality. " She also smiled and told me a popular saying in Shenzhen: live for yourself. She said, "I can't beat marriage, but I must beat myself." Once in the sea, she said with deep feelings: "There are many variables in life. If I don't divorce, there will only be an insignificant ordinary woman behind the celebrity. " It was a failed marriage that made me realize the potential and advantages I had never found and faced before, and let me find my own value. "

Li Hong (photo)