No matter how strong a person is, he will become weak in front of his family. No matter how ruthless a person is, he will become hesitant and indecisive in the face of his own blood.

As I grow older, I have a deeper understanding of this fetter. When I was young, I may feel that I am fearless, wandering around alone, holding the mentality of "one person is full and the whole family is not hungry", never considering the future and the future, only thinking about myself.

But later, when I realized that there were such a group of people behind me, my emotions, joys and sorrows, and my living conditions were always affecting their nerves, I couldn't make fun of my life with such certainty, not because I couldn't afford it, but because I was afraid that they couldn't afford it.

But you should also understand that sometimes this kind of fetter is also a double-edged sword, which may become a stumbling block in your life.

In the early days of starting a business, I was blocked by my parents again and again. They don't understand the significance of me quitting my decent nine-to-five job to fight for a future that they think is unrealistic.

Their past life experiences also have no knowledge reserves that can help me understand what I want to do, which leads them not to accept my decision, which has largely become the biggest obstacle for me to pursue my dream.

Although I know that they love me more than anything else, it doesn't mean that everything they say is right. Living according to their ideas is the best choice for me.

Sometimes in the face of affection, we should not blindly obey, in order to win their favor, do something against our will, without principles and bottom line.

To put it bluntly, people should attach importance to family ties and be filial, which is the basis of being a man, but filial piety does not mean ignorance.

Many people have an obvious misunderstanding about filial piety and attaching importance to family, that is, they think that filial piety can please their families, make them happy and obey their wishes.

This kind of "Chinese ignorance" is by no means a special case. In fact, many people are not ignorant of right and wrong, but begin to be embarrassed when they meet family. They can be absolute "good babies" and lose their opinions in front of family. What's the difference between this and a child without capacity for behavior?

Maybe it should be like this when you are young, but you are an adult and have the ability to take responsibility for your actions. You have the ability to refuse things you don't agree with and not do things you don't want to do.

In fact, the boundary between filial piety and ignorance is not difficult to understand. How to deal with family relations correctly is not a century problem, but many people are in a fog, and finally their families are destroyed by their own ignorance, and they don't know it yet. Chen Xian is one of them. Because of his ignorance, he lost a baby, a woman who loved himself and a precious marriage.

At first, he didn't feel that he had done anything wrong. It was not until he suffered the unbearable pain of life that he woke up from a big dream, understood it and regretted it, but it was too late.

"I am the most sorry person in my life is Wang Juan. I really hope she can forgive me and give me another chance. I really know that I was wrong. Just this once, I promise it won't happen again. I will be kind to her, make up for her, repay her, and make up for it with my life. But she just wouldn't give me the chance. I feel really miserable and desperate.

I really can't lose her, otherwise my life will be nothing, and I really can't live. "

This is what Chen Xian has said most to outsiders since this time, and it is also the most sincere promise. But no matter what he said, no one sympathized with his experience and was moved by his infatuation. On the contrary, people who know his family will only give him a dirty look and let him have a good experience.

What happened around Chen Xian? Who is "Wang Juan" in Chen Xian's mouth?

Wang Juan is Chen Xian's wife, and they must start from scratch. Chen Xian is a young man in a small town whose parents are ordinary farmers. Chen Xian's academic performance has not been very good because of his parents' neglect of discipline since childhood. He dropped out of school before finishing high school. After a few years in a small town, I went to work in a big city with my friends, and it was more than ten years.

Chen Xian is quite capable. Over the years, he has worked as a coolie, salesman and driver for the leaders. Now he has been working as a long-distance truck driver, and everything is hard.

Chen Xian is also simple and frugal. Over the years, he has been to many places, saved a sum of money as his wife's book, bought a house and married a city girl, Wang Juan.

To say that Wang Juan's family is actually not a rich type, she is a city girl and a very remote suburb, but she is also better than Chen Xian's family.

Wang Juan was willing to marry Chen Xian, because he took a fancy to the excellent quality of this boy, and thought Chen Xian was honest, filial and kind, which was worth entrusting for life, so he was willing to accompany Chen Xian for three years and finally got married.

Wang Juan is also a very honest girl. Marrying Chen Xian hardly requires any bride price, and the wedding is very simple. Chen Xian bought a house with a down payment. She didn't add a name, and she didn't care. Without the consent of her parents, she married the man she liked naked without hesitation.

Perhaps Wang Juan never thought that all his sacrifices and efforts would bring him such a tragic ending, and that the person he identified would do such incredible things.

If she had known, no matter what, she would never marry this man again, causing serious physical and mental trauma to herself.

As a matter of fact, Wang Juan and Chen Xiangang have a very good married life and very harmonious feelings. After all, they bought a house, which is far away from their husband's family, and they don't live together or live together, which saves a lot of trouble. The couple's feelings are naturally affectionate and inseparable.

But just a while ago, Wang Juan found herself pregnant, which was originally a happy thing, and it was true at first.

Wang Juan is the only daughter in the family, and her parents are naturally very happy and attached importance to it. Although Chen Xian didn't go home, Wang Juan's in-laws were also very happy after telling her parents about it. For a long time, both families were immersed in the joy of being promoted soon.

It was after learning that Wang Juan was pregnant that her in-laws in rural areas always wanted to meet this new daughter-in-law, mainly her mother-in-law, and wanted to tell Wang Juan what to pay attention to when she was pregnant.

Go back to a trip to trouble, Wang Juan is suffering, you know Wang Juan's first child is not stable, Wang Juan is always uncomfortable, too much reaction during pregnancy, vomiting, sleepy, really go home, it's really annoying.

But Chen Xian is a filial man. His mother repeatedly asked him to meet his new wife, but he couldn't refuse. He lobbied Wang Juan many times and brought Wang Juan home when Wang Juan's reaction was slightly better.

Wang Juan heart one hundred reluctant. Only she knows how uncomfortable she is physically. Chen Xian always persuades her with a generous tone every time, saying that she is pregnant, and which woman is not pregnant, so she is not so delicate. By the way, I'll compare my mother-in-law's working underground when she gave birth to a child with Wang Juan's present performance, which always makes Wang Juan angry to death.

However, considering her husband's kindness, Wang Juan finally understood her husband's plight and reluctantly agreed to go home with Chen Xian.

At the end of her husband's family, Wang Juan finally understood why her mother-in-law called herself. She is only two months old and not pregnant, but her mother-in-law is looking around Wang Juan's stomach to see if it is sharp or round. She also mysteriously gave Wang Juan a big bag of Chinese medicine, saying that a miscarriage is good for children and adults, but judging from her husband's obsession with boys, Wang Juan knows what medicine her mother-in-law is selling in this gourd, even if she is stupid again.

But, after all, come, after all, the other party is her mother-in-law, and Wang Juan can only follow her mother-in-law and force a smile.

But the surface can deceive people, not the physiology. Wang Juan has been under the weather since she got up early by coach and came to her husband's house. Although the feeling of morning sickness is not particularly serious, she always feels sleepy, quite sleepy.

After listening to her mother-in-law's nagging for nearly two hours, Wang Juan couldn't sit still. Without lunch, she hurriedly asked for leave and went back to the house to rest. Wang Juan woke up in the middle of the night, ate something casually and slept until dark. She didn't get up until her mother-in-law cooked the meal.

My mother-in-law was a little unhappy at dinner that day. She was no longer enthusiastic about Wang Juan, and her speech was straightforward, but Wang Juan didn't notice it. More precisely, she has no extra energy to pay attention to her mother-in-law's mood. After dinner, she went back to lie down.

This situation continued until the next day, when my mother-in-law broke out. She called Chen Xian over and scolded her son for his "bad behavior" towards his new wife.

"What's this called? Look at your wife. She didn't lie down for a while after lunch. She hasn't woken up for hours. I am still trying to sleep. She sleeps whenever she wants to cook and wakes up as soon as she eats. I think she did it on purpose. She was waiting for me to cook, and she brought Joe on purpose.

Just pregnant, my mother is expensive, so treat me like this? It would be even worse to be born later. I don't know what to do to me in the future! "Chen Xian mother scolded ages, finally even sad tears.

Looking at her mother's career, Chen Xian was very unhappy. Although he knew that his mother was a little exaggerated, he just concealed her poor appearance and felt distressed.

Think about Wang Juan these days. He is really a little delicate. He is not like a daughter-in-law in front of his in-laws and does not keep his duty. He was really annoyed.

In order to obey his mother, he came home with some emotions, woke Wang Juan up and told him one of his plans.

"I take you home, is to accompany parents, is to make parents happy. I don't think you are that ignorant. Lying down after dinner and waiting for my mother to wait on you makes my mother very unhappy now. My mother won't rest assured until I teach you a lesson.

So you should cooperate with me now and let us perform in front of my mother. I'll teach you a lesson and show it to my mother. I won't really play, it's just fake. Just let her see it. See if it works. "Wang Juan is very uncomfortable. Hearing that her husband not only didn't care about her, but also taught her a lesson and gave her mother-in-law good luck, she suddenly lost her temper.

"Of course not. Chen Xian, you are really something. How can you say that? I tell you, as long as you touch my finger, we can't get through this day! "

But Chen Xian didn't take Wang Juan's words to heart. He only felt that Wang Juan was bluffing. After all, the children are all there, and he has already said hello to her in advance. What else can he do? Without Wang Juan's consent, he doesn't want it at all, just want you to know.

He called her mother-in-law, slapped Wang Juan on the spot, and said something very important to educate Wang Juan, which made her face long.

Although the slap didn't make much effort, it forcefully broke Wang Juan's heart. On the same day, Wang Juan's parents and brothers drove Wang Juan away from her husband's house. They didn't say a word of nonsense, and they couldn't stop him.

At that time, her mother-in-law was a little flustered, but Chen Xian pretended to be calm: "Nothing, it's okay if you don't find it. I just got back to my parents' house. I went to pick her up two days later and apologized to her. "

To Chen Xian's surprise, the next day, Wang Juan went to the hospital and took the child away. On the third day, Tianwangjuan dragged her sick body and directly filed a divorce with Chen Xian. Chen Xian was completely confused.

He realized that his wife was serious, but even without children, he never wanted to divorce Wang Juan. He began to deeply realize that he had done a stupid thing and began to regret it.

He went to his wife's home to apologize with great sincerity, expressed his difficulties, moved by emotion and reason, hoping to solve the matter through adjustment, but Wang Juan was firm.

"If you refuse to accept mediation, this marriage is divorced, and it is useless for the heavenly king Lao Zi to come."

Chen Xian wanted to stay here all the time, but the Wang Juan brothers are not vegetarians. Wang Juan's brother and younger brother reprimanded Chen Xian. Under semi-compulsion, Chen Xian had to divorce Wang Juan, and her mother-in-law was comfortable, but her family was separated. From a wife and a son to a bachelor, it is also the retribution of Chen Xian.

This incident of Chen Xian seems to be caused by her mother-in-law, but it is actually a foolish filial piety.

Chen Xian thinks that a daughter-in-law wants her mother and her mother-in-law to be happy and angry. This is the wife's pot. This is his divine logic.

This is not the most speechless, the most helpless is that he still feels fair, because he told Wang Juan in advance that he just pretended to teach her a lesson. He felt that in this discussion, his wife should be able to understand the dilemma and struggle of filial piety between her and her mother, and should be considerate of herself.

I really don't know what it's worth forgiving to slap my wife in public to make my mother comfortable.

No matter whether the other party knows in advance, whether he has used power, whether the matter comes from a man's heart or goes against his will, I think it can be treated equally. This is a serious situation.

What, you didn't mean to, didn't exert yourself, and told each other? Don't you know what you did was wrong? At this time, don't fight, isn't it the best choice?

You must do it in such a complicated and eclectic way. Did anyone force you to do it?

Of course not. It's just your filial piety.

It is not advisable to be ignorant of filial piety. In the face of affection, we should have our own ideas and attitudes, not just listening, but also doing it selectively.

Family ties are precious, but life is yours, and you have the ability to decide your own life, including every choice.

If this relationship has become a heavy stone, preventing or affecting you from deviating from the course of life and the track of happiness, then please "rebel" once, because no one can help you bear the heavy consequences.