I think everyone should have a wife, which is the wrong logic of China's egalitarianism. I remember hearing such a story in the countryside when I was a child: it was probably about the silly son of the landlord who married a beautiful peasant daughter-in-law. A beautiful daughter-in-law not only carries excrement and urine for her stupid husband who is many years younger than her, but also makes him happy like a child. I just want to ask, in modern civilized society, men and women are equal. Why can a fool landlord marry a normal person as his wife? Is it money? Or power? In the traditional society of China, men are superior to women and women's social status is low. According to parents' orders and matchmakers' words, women have no right to choose their own marriage partners. More often, parents will sell their daughters to the man who can bring them the highest benefit, just like an object in the family. There is no need to ask your daughter what she really wants and thinks. So, this kind of thinking still appears in today's China society, which is the sorrow of our civilization.
When I woke up in the morning, I couldn't help but think of yesterday's situation, and I was also infected with a lot of compassion. In daily life, we often meet divorced single men and women, and there are always many expectations and longings for the couple's family life when chatting. Then, poor people, there must be something sad. They often don't realize their psychological and physical defects, but always blame the unfortunate marriage on the other side with family. Because I have been married twice, I have some special experiences about it. I often say to my wife, "husband and wife are birds in a forest, each flying to a different goal." The relationship between husband and wife of modern people no longer depends on the past life. Only by understanding each other, complementing each other, and establishing an indispensable relationship that makes the other party really need you can the marriage be happy and long-lasting. "Marriage is not buying or selling, not taking, but your own existence makes the other party reluctant to leave. Marriage is not a contract, but a promise. This may still be a concept that most people can't understand.
Some time ago, I read a story about a female doctor of sociology in a western country. She paid attention to the sex life of disabled people and even had sex with her clients in person, so that they could have a one-time experience in life and die without regret. The female doctor's prostitute-like work has won great international praise. In contrast, Guangxi rogue Yan's public comments on migrant workers' sexual life are quite different. They are all great women, but only a few cases. Whether in the background of western Christian culture or on the basis of China's benevolent civilization, it is an illusion and a very bad requirement to ask a normal woman to sacrifice her happiness all her life. As an orphaned and disabled old man with objective defects, the desolation in his later years can be imagined. Civilized society should give this group more love and care. As I said to the disabled person yesterday, you should try to buy a sex robot instead of finding a normal wife. If our society can give them a more relaxed ethical environment and legal protection. Maybe they really don't need to start a family to get happiness in life.
The following ideas may be wrong for existing laws and ethics, but I think a "people-oriented, tolerant" society can be more civilized. My suggestion is: let these objectively flawed orphans and disabled elderly people no longer be restricted by monogamy stipulated in the marriage law, and encourage all sectors of society to actively help them form a group family "orphans and disabled welfare home" where many men and many women live together. And encourage people from all walks of life to contribute their love and participate in the form of volunteers for a short time to help them achieve a better life.
Such a move. Welcome criticism.
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