62-year-old Xu has lived in Nantong, Jiangsu all his life. She is seventy years old and lives quite comfortably. But what she never dreamed of was that she received a subpoena from the court at the age of half a hundred. At this time, this summons opened the scar that she never wanted to mention in her life. Because this summons came from my mother who I haven't seen for 40 years, and 40 years ago, my mother publicly announced that she was divorced. At that time, she was only 22 years old. From that year on, she had a lifetime of pain.
Xu's mother Wu Wenjun is 85 years old. Wu Wenjun has two sons and a daughter, the eldest son Xu Jianguo and the youngest son Xu Jianhua. A few years ago, Wu Wenjun was paralyzed in bed because of a stroke, and he could no longer take care of himself. Xu Jianguo, the eldest son, took the responsibility of taking care of his mother. Among the three daughters, her mother took care of Xu Jianguo the most.
A few years ago, Xu Jianguo, the eldest son, moved his family to Australia for work reasons. In order to take care of his mother, he arranged an apartment for the elderly for her and hired a nurse to take care of her. In the eyes of the mother, only the eldest son is filial. In 20 16, Wu Wenjun chose to inform his daughter who had not been in contact for 40 years and his youngest son who had not been in contact for more than 20 years, asking them to bear the expenses of supporting themselves for 40 years. Wu Wenjun's appeal is that the two children should pay 360,000 yuan for their apartment for the elderly, with medical expenses of 1.9 million yuan and monthly support of 3,000 yuan.
This appeal was opposed by her daughter Xu, who thought her mother's appeal was unreasonable, because her mother had divorced herself from her mother-daughter relationship in front of relatives and friends 40 years ago and had no contact with her for 40 years. She thought that she was no longer the child her mother appealed to, and all this should be attributed to her brother Xu Jianguo. She also talked about her relationship with her mother for many years.
It turned out that she liked her eldest son, Xu Jianguo, and brought him up with her own hands, while her daughter, Xu, was fostered in a relative's house in the countryside until she was older. Because my mother doesn't like herself at ordinary times, she buries her resentment in her heart. Until one day, when my mother let herself move the coal stove, my hair was ignited by fire. At that time, my mother didn't come forward to help, just watched until she let me out. But my eyebrows and hair are burnt out, and my mother still blames herself for being too careless. Xu believes that as a mother, her first reaction should be to save herself, instead of standing by and even blaming herself afterwards. Since then, the resentment in her heart has deepened a lot. However, what really broke them up was Xu's nondescript marriage, according to her mother.
/kloc-at the age of 0/8, Xu went to the countryside. During this difficult period, she met Xu Shifeng, who often helped her. They developed feelings and made a private life. According to the old custom, people with the same surname are not allowed to get married, which is unlucky and will attract gossip from relatives and friends, but they decided to stay together. I want to be satisfied with my family's consent, but my mother disapproves of their marriage very much. Because of Xu's insistence, her mother even announced that she was divorced from her mother-daughter relationship in front of relatives and friends.
Xu chose love and resolutely married the person she liked. On the wedding day, she and her husband waited all day without waiting for their mother. From then on, Xu was so disappointed that she began to hate her mother and no longer had any contact with her. Even when his father died, he and his husband paid their respects outside Xu's house. Xu, who is completely disappointed with his mother, believes that since he has been separated from his mother for so long and has no contact for 40 years, he is no longer her child and has no obligation to support him.
The judge told Xu that breaking away from the mother-daughter relationship is not recognized by law, and such "breaking away" has no legal effect. Xu and her husband, who have been left out by their mother for 40 years, said that they still have hope for their mother. Support is ok, but the mother should accept herself again and admit that she is a daughter. But Wu Wenjun's answer is: No.
This makes Xu, who has been longing for maternal love for 40 years, feel disappointed again. In order to make up between mother and daughter, the judge tried to mediate between them and asked Xu to call her mother. At the moment when she connected the phone, she shouted: Mom. Xu cried, and after mediation, Wu Wenjun accepted her daughter. The next day, my daughter took a chicken to visit her mother and gave her 2000 yuan. Looking at the reconciliation between mother and daughter, everyone relaxed a lot, but what made Xu even sadder was that everything was an illusion.
20 18 1 1, the court began to make a judgment according to the financial ability of the parties: Wu Wenjun deducted 250,000 yuan from the six-year pension, and Xu took the rest of 30%, totaling 33,600 yuan, and paid his mother 8 10 yuan monthly living expenses; Xu Jianhua pays 40%, totaling 4 1.060 yuan, and pays her mother 990 yuan the living expenses every month. Xu thinks that her mother has accepted herself, so her heart has become much easier. However, things have changed again.
Their eldest brother, Xu Jianguo, came back from abroad to visit his mother. When his mother met his eldest brother, her attitude changed completely. She completely denied that Xu had visited and taken care of herself frequently recently, and once again denied this daughter. Their relationship can be traced back to 40 years ago. This made Xu unexpectedly, and the sad Xu took out 30,000 yuan in tears and gave it to his mother. However, this time was also the last time she visited her mother. Until the end, Xu said sadly, she refused to recognize me.
Finally, I want to say that although Wu Wenjun, who is 85 years old, was provided with adequate food and clothing by the court, she personally destroyed her family ties. In fact, for the elderly, money is no longer important. For them, feelings are the greatest wealth. For us, boys or girls are actually our relatives. As long as there is affection, it is a complete family. Why do you care about boys and girls?
So what do you think of mom's practice?