Such people are called "good people". It's not good to add an old man in front of good people. I just don't dare to refuse other people's requests, and I don't want to give advice to others. Concession is the only belief. Maybe you are a "good guy" in the company. Do you particularly want to tear off this label?
I met many "good people". Once, a colleague was responsible for ordering food for his colleagues every day. When the toilet was dirty, he was asked to clean it. He must finish what the leader told him. My colleague's mobile phone is broken, so let him fix it. He is busy with trivial things from morning till night, most of which are beyond his scope of work.
At a meeting, the data in the word document was wrong, and the leader angrily questioned the responsible colleague. As a result, my colleague put the blame on this brother, because the responsible colleague had to go on a date the night before and asked him to help me tidy up. As a result, he made a mistake in order to hurry. The leader cursed the "nice guy" in public, saying that he didn't pay enough attention to his work, which embarrassed him to death. Later, I told him privately, don't flatter others like this and be selfish occasionally, but unfortunately he just wouldn't listen.
Another colleague is very afraid of conflict with others. As long as the other person's tone is slightly tough, he will be discouraged immediately. I remember that there was a time when attendance was counted at the end of the month. He went to the administrative department because he was mistaken for attending. As a result, the administrative colleague turned him back after a few hard words, reluctantly accepted the deduction, and did not ask the superior to reflect the situation.
Later, at the meeting, some people complained that administrative attendance was often registered incorrectly, so the leader asked everyone to make comments and made a mistake. I thought this colleague had the most say, but he didn't say a word from beginning to end, just watching others talk.
I have three ideas to share with you.
1, learn to refuse
Fear of offending, fear of turning against each other, these are not things. For example, if your colleague borrows money from you and doesn't pay it back, you will be embarrassed to ask him for it, for fear that they will turn against each other. The leader invites you to eat and drink, but you are afraid of offending the leader.
Well, if this happens again, just ask. The leader will not blame you for not drinking, and colleagues will not like you because you let him acquiesce. I'm sorry if you swallow your pride and try to save your relationship, then you will lose your own interests. On the contrary, if you dare to say no, maybe people will be a little upset this time, but the next time they want to pinch you, they will feel that you are also very car-scrapping and will naturally think twice.
Step 2 be absorbed
I saw my colleague in the corridor and said hello to him, but there was no response. I thought: it's broken. I must have refused to help him yesterday. He is angry, and he will definitely not cooperate with me in the next work. This is a typical "good old man" mentality.
Empathy, others' psychology is: I saw my colleague didn't respond, I guess I didn't see it when I was playing with my mobile phone, regardless of him. After lunch break, I happened to meet a cigarette in the lounge, and we talked about pornography together. This is the psychology of ordinary people.
Did you find out? "Good guy" is a little more worried than ordinary people, and he is "blind" worried. A little thing can be associated with many exaggerated ideas, and then you can't get rid of it all day. Normal people's psychology is much healthier, everything is considered a natural phenomenon, and they don't care too much about doing what they should do.
This kind of person is quite heartless, but he is not tired from work. If you were, which one would you choose?
3. Don't be demanding.
Don't always think that you can get everyone's love. Even saints make mistakes, let alone mortals. Correct your attitude and position, and accept your imperfections. You have no obligation to make others fall in love with you. As long as you are yourself, people will naturally like you. Even if someone hates you, it proves that you have the ability to make people jealous. Is this not good?
Without the perfect bondage, it is much easier to do things, and you will not care about other people's eyes everywhere. Is it much better to have fun than to work hard?