Is hidden marriage in the workplace more convenient? For the marital status of professionals, the management and employees of the company don't have to care too much. Unmarried has the advantage of being unmarried, and married has the charm of being married. As long as you have the ability, I will show you how convenient it is to have a hidden marriage in the workplace.
Is it more convenient for hidden marriage workers in the workplace 1 The entertainment circle is full of happy events. A series of "hidden marriage" artists were kicked out and secretly married, which made people start gossiping about other artists ... Of course, the entertainment circle is a special workplace, and the "hidden marriage" was taken away with male artists. In fact, in our public workplace, "hidden marriage" people are often mostly women.
An online "hidden marriage survey" shows that nearly 37% people are willing to do "hidden marriage" because they are worried that open marriage will make them lose the trust of their bosses or customers. Most of them are between the ages of 25 and 35, especially women. In the legal sense, "hidden marriage" is not illegal. How much convenience can it actually bring to women? Under the interview, the reporter found that the most important role of "hidden marriage" is to apply for a job and spend an embarrassing age in the workplace. More and more people realize that "hidden marriage" is not a long-term solution, and sometimes it will "hide" many mistakes and make colleagues and bosses distrust themselves.
Experts have analyzed that people who are "hidden married" are actually not confident enough.
Why are there "hidden marriages" in the workplace? Wu Fan, a career consultant recruited by Zhilian, analyzed that this was caused by both objective and subjective reasons.
The objective reason is that many business owners or managers have some deviations in the concept of employing people, which over-magnifies the influence of married people's family burden on their work, but fails to see the beneficial side of being married, such as the improvement of sense of responsibility and loyalty. In addition, many fast-growing enterprises are difficult to meet the needs of married people in terms of workload, welfare, treatment and humanized management. In order to ensure the stability of the team in the short term, they are more inclined to recruit and promote unmarried people. The vast majority of women have hidden marriages, of course, because a few employers still have gender discrimination in the process of recruitment and layoffs-many business owners or managers are influenced by the traditional concept of "men are the outside, women are the inside" and think that married women will be more influenced by family affairs than men.
However, people who are "hidden married" have their own problems. First, I am not confident in my own strength, fearing that once I am labeled as a marriage, my "seat" will be unstable; Second, career-oriented professionals choose work and career more when weighing work and family.
From the perspective of career development, "married" status has advantages and disadvantages, and the advantages outweigh the disadvantages. As the old saying goes: get married and start a career, get married first and then start a career. Family plays a great role in improving individual's comprehensive quality and development motivation. The ability and quality that married people need to handle housework are definitely not lower than the requirements at work, and the sense of responsibility of married people is much higher than that of unmarried people, which is actually an important part of what employees need. Moreover, if you can't hide it for a while, once it is discovered, the negative impact may have a greater impact on your career.
Marriage was originally a happy event of "being admitted to a junior college". Some women in the workplace choose "hidden marriage" because they want to get more job opportunities for themselves, whether it is for the convenience of finding a job or working.
A Jun, who worked in a trading company for five years, was laid off in the financial storm. After losing his job, he finally married his boyfriend who had been in business for eight years. However, after getting married, he encountered another bottleneck in the workplace: every interview, he would encounter such questions as "When are you going to have children?" A Jun said helplessly: "As soon as I heard this question, I knew in my heart that this application would be' yellow' again." It's been half a year since I came back from my honeymoon, and Jun's job has not been decided yet. She knew that not getting a job had nothing to do with "getting married", but she was discouraged by hitting a wall many times, so she tried to "get married in secret". As a result, as she expected, the interviewer's questions about marriage and childbirth dropped sharply. At most, I asked her if she had a boyfriend, and most of them were concerned about her ability to work. Several jobs with a monthly salary of more than 3,000 yuan have already waved to her.
Hubei native, China female, works in the company's marketing department, mainly negotiating business with local manufacturers. Theoretically, you have to rely on excellent business skills to pull business, but it is inevitable that you will play the "human card" in the sales industry and sing K with guests. She is extroverted and likes to go to bars to sing K and other nightlife. No one has ever noticed that she is another woman. Speaking of work, she reluctantly said: although she didn't mean to be ambiguous with customers, there are many new people now. In the face of the same conditions, customers are more willing to deal with young unmarried salesmen, which is called pleasing to the eye! Moreover, she has a lesson from the past: after a colleague disclosed her "married" status, the important project boss would not give it to her, nominally "because she had to take care of her family", but in fact she was afraid that she would get pregnant halfway and no one would follow up on her later work; In addition, some of her ideas are slightly backward, and people will laugh at her as a "teacher", which also makes China women unbearable.
Fans reacted very strongly to Andy Lau's "hidden marriage" incident, not opposing his marriage, but even sending blessings. The main reason for fans' dissatisfaction is: why did he hide and cheat? Speaking of hidden marriage, most of the white-collar workers interviewed showed disdain: why do you want hidden marriage? This is a sign of dishonesty.
Xiaoping, who works in a foreign trade company, got married two years ago. In order to get the opportunity to travel-she thought that only by traveling can she learn more professional knowledge, she chose "hidden marriage". The boss entrusted her with many errands. The life of "flying man" takes up at least three weeks a month, and she deliberately asks her husband to call her less. The contact was made by email or SMS, and it looked like an underground spy. This state lasted for more than a year, and finally something happened: her husband was dissatisfied with her "seeing the dragon without the tail" and suspected that she had an affair. The boss sees that she has some mysterious actions from time to time, and he is worried that she will not tell the company. Xiaoping was full of grievances: "At that time, I felt like a two-faced man. I can't tell anyone the truth. I've been doing something wrong along the way. " After careful weighing, the "hidden marriage" is really tired, and what shakes everyone's trust in her is that she finally announced her married status and slowly adjusted her work and life.
Ann, who is also a "hidden marriage", is not as lucky as Xiaoping. After her boss found out that she was married, she thought her honesty was questionable. Later, she gradually let Ann fade out of her post affairs and did not renew her contract when it expired. Some sociologists have said that the psychological suggestion of "not getting married" for a long time will weaken the sense of family responsibility of the parties concerned and seriously lead to a marriage crisis. When marriage is in crisis, home is no longer your "refuge", but it will still affect your work and future.
Some white-collar workers who oppose the experience of "hidden marriage" believe that since there is gender prejudice against female employees in the workplace, everyone should openly face this problem. Choosing "hidden marriage" is actually conniving at employers' prejudice and has no effect on improving women's workplace environment.
Is it more convenient for people who have hidden marriages in the workplace to work? Why do you choose hidden marriage?
1. Some people choose "hidden marriage" because they think that marriage is purely a personal matter and there is no need to disclose whether they are married or not. Most people's "hidden marriage" is due to workplace reasons, such as worrying that married zd status will bring inconvenience to work and affect their future in the company, thus denying that they are married.
2. For the marital status of professionals, the management and employees of the company need not pay too much attention and sensitivity. Unmarried has the advantage of being unmarried, and married has the charm of being married. As long as you have the ability, take a chance and show yourself. Don't magnify the negative phenomena in life. I believe there is always a platform for objective recognition.
What are the reasons for choosing hidden marriage?
First, it is the pressure of the house that makes young men and women have to hide their marriage.
Now the three major items of marriage: house, car and ticket, especially the house, are an indispensable part of marriage. Nowadays, houses are getting more and more expensive, which makes men and women who want to get married afraid to get married. But their relationship has developed to the point where they have to get married and have to rent a house, which makes them look down on their friends. However, in order to fulfill the wishes of parents and their own life events, both parties go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a marriage certificate, which means getting married. Some young men and women, with the efforts of their parents and themselves, finally bought a house by mortgage. If they can't get more money to hold a lively wedding, they can only simply get married.
Second, the tramp, who runs around all day, has no fixed place and has to get married in secret.
There are fewer and fewer young people with regular jobs now. Today they work in this city, and tomorrow they may work in another city. No regular colleagues and friends. In a lonely city, when I met lonely men and women, the two sides came together because of the common pursuit and common will, and completed their marriage under the celebration of several colleagues and friends. The next day, they went to find their own jobs for their families, but in their hearts we had our own lovers. These people become the subject of hidden marriage.
More and more people think that marriage is their own private affair, and they have no obligation to tell others.
Now they have more and more personal affairs, including whether they are married or not. They think it's totally personal. There is no need to inquire about personal matters, and of course there is no need to tell others that you are married and remain mysterious in front of others. This has also become an aspect of more and more hidden marriages.
Should hidden marriage be supported?
Netizen said: zd can't think of any occupation that needs "hidden marriage" except being a star or a special policeman. Being a star is afraid that his wife's exposure will bring inconvenience to his career. If the special police specialize in that profession, they are afraid of bringing danger to their wives and families. Invisible marriage is not supported. I am a woman. If my boyfriend told me, let's get married, but "get married in secret". Then I'd rather break up. I also think that if there are special circumstances, it can be hidden marriage, but other than that, hidden marriage is no different from hooligans.
Love rat's performance in Secret Marriage.
1, this kind of hidden marriage man always claims to be unmarried and single on major dating platforms. He never exposes anything related to his family on social platforms, even a little clue about his address. This is the basis for married men to cheat girls. In order to make a perfect disguise, they even have two mobile phone numbers, one for family and the other for you. At the beginning, he will be no different from chasing a girl normally, inviting you to dinner and movies to please you, which is also the reason why many girls are fooled. He kept you from his family. Not only did he keep you from his family, but he would never make you public after he caught you.
You have been together for a long time, and if you ask to take him to see his parents or his parents, he will always shirk or confess his real situation to you, and will tell you that he really loves you and is divorcing his wife, and that you will have a common future. Don't believe such nonsense! These are love rat's usual tricks. He won't divorce his wife because of you at all, because once he does, he will be regarded as cheating. Even if he is divorced, he will leave home clean, and love rat won't do it for you.
3. love rat is love rat. Don't expect him to have real feelings for you. He really loves you. Once, a girl cried when she saw love rat. He threatened her with their secret affair. If she finds his family, he will spread the news everywhere, saying that the girl has been a mistress and destroyed his family, claiming that she will never hold her head in front of outsiders. It's really irritating to think about it. Obviously, love rat cheated the girl first, and the girl was bitten back.