Because some personalities are born and exist objectively, using manpower runs counter to them, just like hitting a wall with your fist, as if you feel that the wall has been hit, but it is yourself who is injured.
Nothing in the world is inherently bad, and so is character. Maybe you didn't get a cheerful personality, but you got time to think quietly; Maybe you didn't enjoy the benefits of extroversion, but you weren't hurt by extroversion!
Introversion is sometimes a sign of intelligence, which shows that you are thoughtful. It doesn't matter if you can't speak, maybe you can become a thinker in the future. Hmm. How interesting
In short, people are different, but the same thing is that everyone should give full play to their advantages according to their own real situation. Think about what your strengths are, and don't be too persistent about things you can't grasp.
Personality is your own wealth, which only you can enjoy. If you are a cow, don't throw it into the trash can.
Stop thinking about changing your personality and think about how to make progress. Isn't it nice to be an introverted but cheerful person?
Taking part in sports activities can adjust one's physical state and make oneself physically cheerful. Dealing with others and talking to others will naturally get exercise, especially finding opportunities to say a few decent words to strangers, which is very exercisable. Everyone is already embarrassed, don't take it seriously. The Monkey King has great skills, and he is also a Bi Marvin. No, people make fun of him every day. He is also a monkey face. It doesn't really matter.
Many people think that extroverts are sociable, introverts are clumsy and unsociable, and even regard introverts as bad characters, which is synonymous with unsociable. In fact, introverted personality is not a bad personality. Introverts can communicate successfully and have more friends as long as they master the methods and give full play to their advantages. If introverts want to communicate successfully, they must define a concept. Introversion does not mean bad personality, and it is not an obstacle to successful communication. Throughout the world, everyone has their own personality characteristics that are different from others. Although people's personalities are different and varied, they can be summarized into two types: introverted personality or extroverted personality or extroverted personality. Domestic experts have pointed out through long-term research that different personality types are based on different temperament types. Any temperament type has positive and negative aspects, which determines that both introverted and extroverted personalities have advantages and disadvantages. Only the advantages of personality type are the so-called "good character", and vice versa, it is the "bad character". Some people may be determined, energetic, enthusiastic and frank, agile and decisive, and indomitable. Others may be weak-willed, short-tempered, subjective and willful, with poor self-control, and easily wavered. The contrast between the two is obvious. Two extroverted people will inevitably have completely different communicative effects in their respective interpersonal activities: the former is good at communication and has many friends, while the latter is not good at communication and has few friends. Many accomplished diplomats in the world, such as Zhou Enlai, Qian Qichen, the first foreign minister of New China, gromyko, the foreign minister of the former Soviet Union, Dr. Keith, former UN Secretary-General Boutros Boutros-Ghali and current Secretary-General Annan, are not extroverted and aggressive people. However, this not only did not prevent them from becoming professional diplomats with high requirements for communication skills, but also their deep tolerance, elegant conversation, keen thinking and incisive judgment on key points added endless personality charm to them. Khrushchev of the former Soviet Union, who has always been famous for his extroversion and grandeur, left a vulgar and humble impression on the world when he delivered a speech at the United Nations General Assembly and became a world-class laughing stock. Through the introduction of the above contents, we can make it clear that an extroverted character is not necessarily a good character, and an introverted character is not necessarily a bad character. It is not only wrong in theory, but also inconsistent with the objective facts that only extroverted and eloquent people will have strong communication skills, and that "introversion" and "poor communication" are equated. Although personality type will have such an impact on communication, it has no decisive effect on the strength of good communication and communication ability. Introverts must give full play to their character strengths if they want to communicate successfully. Because introverts always explain external things according to their additional associative meaning in a specific state of mind, they are more accustomed to being immersed in their personal spiritual world. Over time, they have gradually developed a calm, practical, thinking-loving, patient and cautious, strong self-control, approachable, tenacious and quiet personality, but sometimes they are sensitive, suspicious, depressed, timid, stubborn, conservative, lazy and slow-moving. Xiaoyu, a security guard in a certain unit, is a typical introverted person. He has no right, no money and no background. He just does his duty and many unnecessary things silently and conscientiously every day. Surprisingly, however, he has many friends and even money. And their friendship with Xiao Yu is also quite profound. Why? Xiaoyu's friend explained: I have been in the business for many years, and I have a straight face. I am very arrogant and often make me physically and mentally exhausted, but I feel completely different when I associate with Xiaoyu. Although he doesn't talk much, he is natural and simple. Although he has no extraordinary ability, he is tenacious and practical. Xiaoyu's cautious and steady personality also makes his friends feel relaxed when they get along with him, so that they can't help but tell him many unknown truths. Xiaoyu listened attentively, but never made a random statement, let alone spread it around, humiliating her friends. It is not difficult to see from Xiao Yu that introverts are quiet, don't like sharp edges, and are "strict". They are good listeners and seldom slip up. Therefore, they are often more likely to win the trust of others than those who are so-called extroverted and speak quickly, and people are more willing to tell them anything. Therefore, most introverts have a good reputation, and the friends they make are often bosom friends. In addition, introverts are generally not as restless as extroverts and have relatively few playmates, so they can have more time to observe and think more calmly, objectively and deeply. Their understanding of problems is often more original and imaginative than extroverts. If an introverted person can give full play to his advantages in these aspects, then he may become an educated and attractive person and have many friends at the same time. If introverts want to communicate successfully, they should try their best to turn their personality weaknesses into character strengths. Here, we must first clarify a basic problem. Because personality type is based on a certain temperament type, which is innate and unchangeable, it is impossible to fundamentally change personality type. Specifically, it will not change from introverted personality to extroverted personality, or from extroverted personality to introverted personality, as some friends expected (of course, it does not include special lesions caused by brain organic diseases caused by trauma). What people usually say about personality change actually only refers to the "good personality" and "bad personality" in a specific personality type, which will have different specific manifestations at different times, places and conditions. For example, Pavel Kochakin's life is full of contradictions, such as bright and depressed, frank and withdrawn, decisive and hesitant. Many other great men are often in this state in their lives, but they finally overcome themselves and their lack of personality and become indomitable and self-motivated people. Secondly, introverts have some shortcomings. From another perspective, they also have two sides. For example, an obvious weakness of introverts is cowardice and weakness. However, for many introverts, cowardice and weakness are manifested in obeying the law, being friendly to others and not being rude. When people get along with these introverts, they will feel more secure and have no psychological burden. Moreover, for introverts, kindness and gentleness can develop in a tough direction, which is another kind of fortitude and courage, that is, not to oppress others on the spot, but to achieve their goals in a tactful and roundabout way. In order to free the Indian people from British colonial rule, Mahatma Gandhi waged a long and arduous peace struggle and finally made the country independent. Isn't he also full of convincing personality charm? To do this, the key is to establish confidence and stick to faith. Courage and tenacity are not only exclusive to extroverts, but also admirable to introverts with perseverance. In fact, many introverts often have problems here. They lack affirmation of self-worth. They first denied introversion and self-denial, creating an ideological shackle for themselves. Imagine, a person who lacks confidence in himself so much, what great things can we expect him to accomplish! In short, it is neither realistic nor necessary to make introverted people passionate, passionate, eloquent and have a wedding. However, not passionate but insightful, not passionate but full of resilience, not eloquent but to the point, not friends but able to find both sides are the goals that introverts should pursue. So, aren't introverts also successful communicators?