First, cultivate his interest in learning.
Children are curious, eager for knowledge and active, so we should make full use of them to stimulate their interest in learning. My son often asks about trains and planes, but I know little about them. I encourage my children to use the computer to find relevant information. My children have learned a lot from computers by consulting materials. Now as long as my son has something he doesn't understand, he uses the computer to look it up. The computer has become my son's learning tool.
As for study, I often encourage my son. As long as the exam is passable, I often encourage and praise him. I won't say that other children did so well in the exam. Why did you do so badly in the exam? I always take a positive attitude towards every exam for my children. I often say to my children: you did well in the exam, very well! I think good children are boastful. Praise your child more, and you will find that your child will get better and better. On the contrary, if you criticize him blindly, if your child doesn't get 100, you criticize him. Over time, your child will lose interest in learning. I remember once picking up a child, and on the way, I overheard a child tell his mother that he got 98 points in the physical education exam today, which was the highest in the class. I think the child is full of hope, and his mother praised him, but I only heard his mother say: What's the use of winning the first place in the physical education exam? If only Chinese, math and English won the first place. I think the child is like being poured cold water on. Pursuing children's scores blindly while ignoring other aspects of children's development is doomed to failure.
Because of my "encouraging" education, my children feel that they study very easily and have no pressure on exams. Unlike some children who are under great pressure every time they take an exam, they are afraid that they will be criticized by their parents if they do not do well in the exam. The more they suffer, the worse their performance. Will such a child be interested in learning? !
Second, guide children correctly.
Teacher Lu Qin, my intimate sister, pointed out that there are three kinds of children who are prone to Internet addiction. The first kind is children who fail to learn; The second is students who study particularly well; The third is the disharmony of family relations. The common psychological feature of these three types of children is "loneliness". Therefore, to prevent children from indulging in the internet, the first thing to be solved is the children's learning problems, psychological stress problems and good family environment problems.
I think the guidance of parents is very important. My son doesn't play games. He uses the computer to learn knowledge. When his homework is finished, I will let him play computer for a while. Playing computer is nothing more than looking up information and making slides. I remember when I was in the first grade, he was curious and asked me how to make slides and teach him, but I really couldn't at that time, so I let him grope for it himself and he "groped".
When I was in grade one, I liked to make slides. Later, I gradually explored electronic tabloids. He did all the homework assigned by the teacher independently, and I never helped him. I think it is very important to cultivate children's self-reliance ability. Although his electronic tabloid is not very good, I think he is already great. This semester, he explored how to make documents and edit photos, as well as the mode of projecting his travel photos into movies. He can make photos into 3D mode. In my opinion, my son's computer level is very high, and we provide him with space to explore. We encourage children to innovate.
I found that some parents often reward their children for playing games. For example, if they do well in this exam, they will reward their children to play games for an hour. I think it is not advisable to reward children in this way, which virtually cultivates the habit of playing games for children. Remember: good habits will benefit your children for life. Parents must guide their children correctly and don't let your children form the habit of playing games. I think every child is born with a blank sheet of paper, and the key is how parents describe it on this blank sheet of paper. It can be seen that the correct education and guidance of parents is very important.
Third, cultivate children's reading habits.
Gorky once said that "reading is the ladder of human progress". Everyone should know the benefits of reading.
Children's interest in reading is largely influenced by their parents. I have consciously cultivated children's reading habits since I was a child. Our family often read books together, and we adults read newspapers and children read books, which virtually creates a good atmosphere for children to read.
Many of our children are not interested in reading, which is largely influenced by their parents. Ask yourself: How much time do we spend reading a day? Even if we don't have a good reading habit ourselves, how can we force our children to study? My son likes reading extracurricular books very much. My son has read nearly 50 books this year, and his knowledge is also very rich. After the children finished their homework, he read extracurricular books and looked up information on the computer.
Fourth, be good at discovering children's strengths.
"Fathers want their children to succeed, and mothers want their daughters to succeed", which is our nature as parents. However, if this expectation exceeds the range that children can bear, it will become a burden for children and hinder their happy and healthy growth. My son is a piano student. He has been learning piano for nearly four years. We are both exhausted. My son also spends a lot of time on the piano. Every summer vacation, he spends a lot of time on the piano, but I think it has little effect. Children have no talent and interest in this field. If you invest too much time and energy, it will definitely affect their study and other aspects of development. I have been reflecting on my education. I think we should foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, not spend them.
My son is good at composing children's songs. He began to write children's songs in kindergarten and has arranged nearly 60 songs so far. Among them, primary school students' Pinyin newspaper published a children's song "Three Chickens". Recently, another poem by his son, Beautiful Life, was published in Xinjinshan Daily, and another poem, Celebrating June 1st, will be published in Xinjinshan Daily on May 20th. My son is great. He is good at composing children's songs. I should guide him in this respect and give full play to his strengths.
Fifth, take more children to travel.
Parents' cultivation of children can not only be boring preaching and confined indoors, but also open a brand-new window for family education. Because education is everywhere, the key is to do it with your heart.
I think traveling can stimulate children's thirst for knowledge. When I take my son out to travel, I ask him to make full preparations in advance, such as consulting materials, understanding the local geographical conditions and customs, and turning the child's "want to play" into "want to know". At the same time, in the process of playing, children can better understand the abstract knowledge in books and turn it into concrete through personal experience. Last summer vacation, I took my son to two places, one is Beijing and the other is Yunnan. We went to Beijing by ourselves. Before going, I asked my son to make full preparations. My son has planned the itinerary and tourist route. We also brought a small computer to look up relevant knowledge in time. Last year, my child and I went to Beijing for a trip-a private day trip. He planned the tour route. Every day we dragged our tired bodies back to the hotel, and my son began to plan the next day's travel route and find out the relevant knowledge of various tourist attractions. I just gave him a check. I think children can't just study, but their comprehensive quality is more important.
These are some superficial experiences of my parenting. I know that every step of my son's growth is soaked with the hard work and sweat of the teachers. I sincerely thank the teachers who helped my son acquire knowledge and grow up happily!