But recently she began to complain to me that everyone is working hard, and many colleagues are still working after 12 every night, which has become a normal state. She knows in her heart that this is the normal state of internet companies, and her colleagues of the same age or even much younger are very motivated and full of dreams. She also knows that it will be a good thing for a startup to have such a momentum. At least everyone thinks that this company has an opportunity.
Miss Wen Lan knows all this, but she will still come and tell me that she will go home every day 12 a week, and it is already 2 o'clock at night after washing. Before going to bed, she will still ask herself, is it worth it? How long can you persist in such a battle?
At this moment, I can't give her an absolutely effective suggestion, because first, we understand that this is the normal state in the workplace. Second, everyone is working hard, and we are embarrassed to lag behind others, so we can directly rise to the third point, that is, how to adapt to this state, or how to adapt to this state psychologically?
We have seen many inspirational chicken soup stories. The boss always brainwashes us and says that you don't work for me, but you have to work for yourself. But in the state of the workplace, many times you are busy. How many people are still in the mood to cheer themselves up after being tired and tell themselves that everything I am doing now is for myself, not for my boss?
I remember when I first entered the workplace, I was very passionate at first, giving myself various plans and expecting to make good achievements. But after a while, I got used to the people and things in the working environment and knew that I could do nothing about many things, so I gradually went downhill for a while.
For example, I will sneak downstairs to buy breakfast after punching in at work, and then slowly shake it back; For example, I will visit 1 shop on Taobao during working hours and buy various things for myself; I even open the cinema blockbuster that the company just bought when editing the movie. This looks serious, because I know that no one knows whether I am working or just playing. ...
At noon, my colleagues will make folding beds to take a nap. After so long, a colleague asked me for help at noon, and I always refused on the grounds that "it's not working time now". Because the business processes of big companies are relatively perfect, few people work overtime, so that every day when I want to leave the company slowly, my colleagues tell me, dear, don't work too hard for such a small amount of money. ...
In short, in the second year of entering the workplace, my state has always been like this. I am extremely confused, but I don't know how to change this situation. I want to change my job, but I don't think I have accumulated enough, so I can't meet better opportunities yet. Although you don't have to go to work every day, it's not salty or light. I read many inspirational stories, saying that it is important to go beyond eight hours, but I didn't even do it within eight hours. So I don't know what my career path should be.
I tried to do some analysis for myself to see if I could change the status quo, but it didn't work. So when I jumped to an internet company and saw many new employees and children working in full swing, I admired them because they had more opportunities to get busy from the beginning than I did at that time, and they were not so flustered.
In other words, my career seems to be smooth at first, but it is not smooth, which comes from my own dissatisfaction and uncertainty about the future, but because no one around me can give me any advice, I am like a child trapped in the bureau, looking up at the wide and bright sky, but I just can't get close.
Then I remembered that this state is actually a little similar to Miss Wen Lan at this time. She is too busy and I am too idle. In a sense, this is a headless country. So when I told her that you should consider working for yourself, she also replied, I understand this truth, but it is difficult to convince myself when doing it.
My situation began to improve in the third year of work. The turning point was that my leader arranged an assistant for me at that time. In order to arrange some seemingly meaningful work for her, I listed several parts of my daily work. In this process, I suddenly found that I have made progress in the past two years, but I didn't see it. I focus on why I am so boring. In fact, the most important thing is that I didn't consider what I got.
Because I have an assistant, I need to evaluate her work. At this time, I began to notice her daily work status. Apart from her attitude, is there any problem with the efficiency of her work pace? One day, this assistant girl was as busy as I was before, and she didn't deliberately avoid watching videos when I went, so I asked her if she would be bored after watching them for a long time. As a result, this assistant girl told me that work was boring, so I watched it.
I went back and thought about it for a long time that night. The sentence "I have nothing to lose" has been hovering in my mind. At that moment, the picture in my mind is that in a few years, this assistant girl will also become an old employee, and she will have her own subordinates. Then her subordinates, like her, take time to open Taobao to watch the news every day at work, and then pass it on again and again ... Therefore, I will gradually become an ordinary old employee. An old woman who got nothing, like the elder sister sitting next to me at the moment, just decided to stay here for ten years and then wait to retire.
At this moment, I am very scared, because I think this sister's state is my future. If I follow the current workplace mentality, I will become like her, but the problem is that this girl enjoys it tirelessly, so she is also happy, but I don't want this kind of life myself. Although I didn't know what kind of lifestyle I wanted at that time, I was 10 thousand sure that this was definitely not the life I wanted.
I panicked for a long time, really.
So in the third year of working in the workplace, I spent a long time to improve this matter.
I need to do packaging planning for movies and TV series every month. I took over all the related activities, including the pre-market research and film selection to the team discussion on packaging theme, and then I wrote my own film reviews and soft articles, and cooperated with my design colleagues to do poster publicity. Then I sort out these special projects I do every month one by one. No one asked me to do this, but I think it's good to make a backup for myself.
After a while, I told the leader that I didn't want to build a car behind closed doors. I want to deal with the customers I cooperate with, so the leader arranged for customers from two regions to dock with me. This is really a thankless job. What I do is equivalent to a business assistant. Every day, I help my colleagues in the sales department to urge contracts and payments, and I also answer all kinds of reasonable or deceptive requests from customers. I was angry at that time. For the first time, I realized that poor telephone communication was a very grievance. Become cannon fodder again and again, and be used as a punching bag by customers again and again. Even if this matter has nothing to do with me, sitting in this position is equivalent to the company's external docking, so trivial things are pushed to me.
It is such a tiring working state. I went from the initial grievance to anger, and then complained to the leader that I quit this role. Then I learned to coax customers, and then I slowly learned how to communicate effectively and get the most efficient results. Finally, my state is that even if the customer on the other end of the phone scolds me to death one second, I can communicate with my colleagues in other departments calmly the next. My suggestions are one, two, three and four. ...
I gradually began to enjoy the sense of accomplishment brought by this state of self-help.
After a while, some cooperative clients asked me to provide some articles for their local TV newspapers and magazines, similar to film recommendation. I told my leader that I could do this, so I started my own writing process this year.
It was also in this year that I began to pay attention to all the industry news on the Internet, starting with the basic gossip news and then reporting on several authoritative websites. Although I don't know much about it yet, at least there are some hot trends and events in the internet circle, or some companies with personalities have appeared recently, I can still say it. That is to say, I began to cultivate my sensitivity in this circle.
A year later, I just joined this company for three years. I think this is a very suitable stage for changing platforms. I also feel that I haven't accumulated much, but at least I have something to do with the Internet, so I began to submit my resume to find a new job.
In other words, it is half a career change. Every time you submit your resume, you need to have relevant internet work experience. As a three-year experience in traditional TV media, this requirement cannot be met. Therefore, every time I interview, I will express my interest in the Internet and my good at planning this thing, and all this began to be done consciously in the third year of my career.
Finally, I found a job smoothly and entered an internet company to do planning. Because it is an entrepreneurial company, many things are done by myself while groping, which is completely different from all the perfect process mechanisms I received before. Because no one arranged for me to have a fixed job, everything has not yet taken shape, so I began to fall into a dilemma again.
But this time, I absorbed the previous lessons and felt that I couldn't wait. I groped for the packaging ideas of the products myself and read many cases made by others. I didn't know how difficult each step was until I took over the project. I also studied some ways of media operation now, and went to Zhihu to see many high-quality questions and answers from others. I also write one or two work diaries every day, which is nothing more than a simple inspiration when the department brainstorms today. Maybe which one?
This year's work in the Internet environment makes me feel that I am late, and many States are not as good as the passion of children born after 90. But on the other hand, I feel lucky to be transformed. I'm not emphasizing that the internet platform is better than other jobs, but I think that for myself, I like this state very much and it suits me very well, so it's a lucky thing for me, that's all.
Overtime is normal for internet companies, so I'm getting used to it. The price is that the stomach is getting worse and worse, the sleep is getting worse and worse, and the mental state is getting worse and worse. Colleagues around me told me that this is normal, but my thinking consciousness told me that hard work alone is not enough, and you have to make yourself irreplaceable.
Speaking of this irreplaceability, my assistant, Miss Wen Lan, is my role model. She is responsible for the operation and promotion of the company's product WeChat port, so she is very familiar with many details, such as how to open an account, various settings and matters needing attention, so that in the end, we did a lot of so-called awesome projects, but in the end, we all needed Miss Wen Lan to implement them one by one.
In my eyes, she is more real and grounded to me than those colleagues who describe the blueprint of future products. It is precisely because of this that when I started to operate my own official WeChat account, she gave me a lot of advice. Her sensitivity to an official WeChat account was beyond my reach.
So I went back to Miss Wen Lan's current job. I told her that you helped me a lot in the past year, but you never realized your progress. Now you are in charge of self-media operation and promotion in the new company. Although the products are different, your thoughts and ideas are the same. What you have to do is to do this thing seriously, and one day you can accumulate this case into your own brand, which is something useful to yourself.
I also told Miss Wen Lan that being busy is a normal thing. Many times we feel tired because we are climbing mountains. In our junior year, we can't improve anything, but once we realize that this process is working for ourselves, it will become a meaningful thing in an instant.
Speaking of which, Miss Wen Lan replied to me the next day that she felt much better in an instant today!
If I used to be afraid that I was not busy, now I am afraid that I am too busy and forget what I really want. My favorite uncle, Wei Xu, vice president of Ming Dow, said that we have heard too many suggestions about hard work. Hard work is of course important, but the theory that "hard work can do everything" is a lie. He also said that the value of mental workers has nothing to do with working hours, but only with irreplaceability.
I think for most ordinary people, everyone's life is inseparable from work. Work not only provides you with the most basic material living conditions, but also provides you with a platform to show yourself. Now I don't have to be grateful for my career, but in retrospect, I feel that every platform I am on is rewarding. This harvest comes from the many opportunities that every job gives me. What's more, I tried to seize these opportunities myself. This is the concept of working for myself in my eyes. I don't have the passion to go through fire and water to realize my dream, but I have found this useless experience day after day, that's all.
In my eyes, people like Miss Wen Lan, I don't know what her future life will be like, but at least at this moment, I told her that she should use this mentality to adapt to the current workplace. In the future, she may also have her own assistant and team. In the future, she may jump to a better platform because of her accumulation, or one day she will come out as a boss to do what she is good at. All this is possible. Because she has started to accumulate for herself and realized the importance of this, you know, I didn't start to reflect on this until the third year of my career, so I think she is much luckier than me.
Most of our lives don't have a good deck of cards, and most of the time they are very bad. I didn't think there would be a brilliant ending, but as a believer in my own values, I want to be as perfect as possible. Even if one day I retire as plain as old age, at least I think this process has pictures and past stories to share with my children, which is educational, so this is the life process I want.