I am a young gentleman, eating pickled fish in Beijing.

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Young men and women hanging out in social software, no one has the patience to know everything about you. The young gentleman knows them, but he has never made friends on social platforms. Pay more attention to the friends in your life. It will never be the netizens on the screen who appear when needed.

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It would be awkward.

Look at your skill.

Many girls who have used strangers' social apps will almost vomit:

"The boys on this App are so low."

This is not surprising. In the stranger and exploration, as long as it is a girl with an average face value, she may receive hundreds of strange boys every day.

And the content of these chats. Most of them are like this:

"Little sister is really beautiful."

"About?"

For boys with simple purpose, they often encounter some embarrassing experiences.

On these apps, many girls will write something like this on their personal data:

"Interesting, just come back."

Or:

"Don't send private messages when you say hello."

"The girl who took the initiative to chat with me,

They basically sell pornographic videos. "

My friend James once told me. He felt that his self-esteem was offended by these social software and deleted these apps in disappointment.

"I think every opening sentence of mine is meaningful to please them."

The only thing he missed a little was the same software. There was once a girl he had a crush on until one day he saw her in this state:

"There are many lovers in this world.

It's a pity that you are talented and heartless.

-Who knows the name of this song, please like it? "

At the same time, she wrote this state on another beautiful leg board:

"I know I'm beautiful, but I like it. You don't have to trust me personally."

This phenomenon is not a case. If you pay close attention to these apps, most female users who are active in recommendation pages are like goddesses, and gradually accept this setting.

For example, the user leisurely wrote in a certain state:

"I like the atmosphere of not disturbing each other here. I only know that you have been here. Don't trust me privately. "

But she didn't really reply to the private letter: "When I see a particularly outstanding boy, I will want to talk in depth."

In the self-introduction, Youyou listed this "good" standard in detail: height 180 or above, good face value and good voice.

"The importance of the above three items is arranged in order."

Such clear and definite mate selection conditions are rare in real life. However, on social apps, it seems that everyone knows exactly what kind of people they like.

If on WeChat, the circle of friends is our "social display page", then on the social App of strangers, Yan value is almost the only stepping stone.

A girl with a fair face value needs to decide whether to pay attention to the conversation from a strange man within a few seconds. As a boy, if the photos are not handsome, they don't even have a chance to talk.

This concept of value first has reached its extreme when "exploring" this App. A boyfriend told me that exploration is like a "stand-alone version of choosing a concubine".

I don't like to slide left, but I like to slide right. Just for a moment, there will be dozens of well-dressed girls' heads sliding in front of your eyes.

But this choice is just an illusion, and no one is really chosen by you.

"There are thousands of people I like in exploration and hundreds who like me, but the girls who take the initiative to chat with me are basically selling pornographic videos and prostitution."

"When I find the right person,

I will delete all social software. "

Last year, there was a very popular simulated love activity called "One Week CP". The major media have adopted an attractive slogan for this activity:

"Shall we talk about a love that will break up in a week?"

Kate participated in this activity held by an official WeChat account, and afterwards bluntly said: "The boys paired here are so boring that they have been talking."

But when she saw that another bigger number also held this activity, she did not hesitate to sign up again.

Kate is not in the mood to play with tickets. She is really looking forward to meeting the right boy. But the boy she matched couldn't stand it for three days and began to send some sentences full of sexual hints.

In the profiles of Kate's major social apps, there is such a sentence: "When I find the right person, I will delete all social software."

But that man didn't show up.

Three days after confirming the relationship on the App,

We talked from embarrassment to disconnection.

In real life, everyone knows that you can't just look at a person's appearance, but on the Internet, everyone is imagining what the other person looks like, with only a few photos.

Jane once met a boy with a height of 185 who looks like Zheng Lun through social software. In her own words, every time I see his smile in the photo, "I think he must be a warm and considerate person", and my heart is full of warmth.

At her initiative, the two chatted for a week, and the boy said, "Will you be my girlfriend?" .

But from the day of "confirming the relationship", they all fell into an awkward chat, and finally they broke up tacitly.

For boys, if the official compulsory pairing is lost, the game experience of simulating love will be even more embarrassing.

On many dating apps, you can see the "CP this week" section, and some young ladies who have been silent for many years. Their photos are so warm, and their self-introduction is so eager for the communication of strangers. I think as long as you take a little initiative, you can start a beautiful fate.

But if you "don't look interesting enough", these greetings will not be answered without exception.

In social applications,

Everyone must accept being labeled.

Of course, many people have found true love or made sincere friends through these softwares.

But more often, girls spit out that the boy is low on the platform, and they are eager to catch up with the next game.

Boys lament that social apps are deliberately turning themselves into losers, just to win each other's favor.

But this does not prevent us from exploring when we are bored, sliding photos one by one and experiencing a choice that may not exist. It seems that in this social game, we are all commodities for others to choose and play with.

Every game is like buying a lottery ticket. As long as it is scraped open, there is hope of winning the prize.

My other friend Rorschach is very open to this:

"No one will really be patient in APP socialization, and get to know you from scratch bit by bit. Since you have to make a decision in a few seconds, you can only label yourself. "

"The end result is that I didn't make a friend on these platforms.

In the end, in my life, none of my friends who can have a long-term relationship was decided in two seconds on the social platform. "

Best wishes.

A young gentleman who said no good night to you.

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Man is the measure of everything. There are only stories here, but no answers.

Reprinted from the official account of Weighing WeChat, ID: chidu49

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