It's been so long since the college entrance examination. Dad thought for a long time after work and wanted to tell you something from the heart. Maybe you think dad is nagging again, but you still have to say it.

You must be very excited when you found out that you entered school at 3 pm in July 12, and your father went through it when he was your age. But when I received the admission notice on June 5438+04, my father was calm and thought a lot. ...

Being admitted to college is only the end of high school and the beginning of another starting point in life. You can't relax. Life is about knowledge, ability, vision, ideals and thoughts. Are you ready?

First of all, if you want to go to college, you should not only study, but also be broad-minded and versatile in order to become a leader. And this summer vacation, you must be fully prepared. You should have four abilities: one is to read more books, the other is to be versatile, the third is to have social skills, and the fourth is to have thoughts and vision. How to have these four abilities? First, study hard. You should watch college courses through the computer, make preparations in advance, and learn to study, but the key is to concentrate, concentrate your thoughts, and not be playful. In high school, I thought you suffered from this. With your wisdom and spirit, you should go to a good school. Looking back on high school life, we should sum up our experiences and lessons. When you go to college, you should concentrate on your studies, make up your mind and get ready from now on. The second is versatility. University is not only a temple of learning, but also a temple of art. If you only study without talent, it will be like grandma Liu entering the Grand View Garden, unable to adapt to this era, making this person look pale and lacking in youthful vitality. From now on, you'd better learn the flute well in the summer vacation, because you have a foundation, so you must learn it now. Don't waste time unless you have to learn it. The third is social skills, which is very comprehensive and important. Specifically, there are three aspects. First, after giving a speech, going to college and military training, we should organize a class meeting in the class, give a speech and talk about what? Now you have to organize a speech with outstanding personality. People don't fight unprepared wars. If they are ready now, they will be available at any time in the future. If they don't prepare now, they may get stage fright in future performances. That would be passive. Second, the ability of communication and coordination, speech should grasp the main points, communication should grasp the psychology, dare to take the lead, dare to say, dare to do, dare to do and dare to be responsible. The third is to show your personality charm, dress generously, behave in a civilized and decent way, talk elegantly, and never be afraid of shrinking and go with the flow. Fourth, we should be thoughtful, thoughtful and determined. No matter what field you want to do, don't waste your life. With an ideal, you have the direction and motivation to move forward. People with ideals have brains. Thinking means having a plan, a plan and a method, and not panicking when something happens. With thinking, you will become everyone's "Zhuge Liang" and "backbone". With determination, you will have execution and patience. If you want to have ideals, thoughts, thoughts and determination, you must read all the books you bought after the college entrance examination in August and benefit for life. In addition, we should read through Tang poetry and Song poetry and strengthen our literary accomplishment.

In order to achieve the above ability, you should make a plan now. What will you do in the morning? What to do in the afternoon? What to do at night? In short, this month can't be wasted.

Son, in another month, you will leave home to go to school in other places. What dad wants to tell you is that no matter how heroic you are, most of life outside the door will still be ordinary. Accumulate in plain, accumulate in setbacks, accumulate in bumps, and break through and leap in accumulation. People's life will not always go on peacefully, but at least I hope you will go on openly.

But, son, when you go to college, don't think that you are a creation from heaven, just think that you have entered the ivory tower.

I spent four years in college, either muddling along or working hard. Before the college entrance examination, I was indoctrinated by high school teachers that once I entered the university, I had a bright future and it was a matter of course to reach the top. In the ideal of most college students, it is natural to find a job on their own, but the fact is that today's college students can't compare with the older generation for a long time. It is an obvious cognitive error to treat the two equally. The number of college students of the older generation is at least one percent or even one thousandth, and the distribution of national packages is also reasonable. What about now? No matter how you did in the college entrance examination, there is still a student who is a college student and is plated with gold. It's just that this college student is not a college student, but only in name only. As we all know, Tao can be said to be extraordinary, famous, nameless and the beginning of heaven and earth. It is undoubtedly empty and powerless to pin the hope of the future on a nihilistic title. In college, you can have a deep dream and a prosperous Chinese classical style. You can imagine the sunny and elegant Western-style romance, or the scholar's spirit and inspirational words, or the ambitious momentum of devouring Wan Li. At most, it is called passion and dream. Tell its essence. It can be said that there are so many psychosexuality people these days that boys with average ability will unconsciously equate themselves with other mountains and appear to be dwarfs in the world. ■ Ma Yun, Xu Jiayin and other figures. Girls who are not stunning in appearance, but not outstanding, and whose family is very ordinary or even a little low, have a high opinion of themselves. They think that people around them are not worthy of themselves, have the ability to subjugate the country, are ashamed of flowers, and are dragged away like Queen Victoria or Elizabeth II. Obviously there is something wrong with self-knowledge. Sarcasm and even personality attacks are often blurted out habitually, but I don't know that the more you do this, the more you will be looked down upon, the more you will humiliate your own value, and you will really become a useless person. Nowadays, many students are spoiled, and the idea of getting something for nothing is deeply rooted. They think that everything is easy to get, and they never realize their true weight. Arrogance needs capital. Du, the boss of Shanghai green gang, once said: The last person is incompetent and has a big temper. I really don't want this to be a true portrayal of college students. The problems in universities will be quite prominent for a long time to come. If we don't establish a positive outlook on life, I'm afraid there will be a day when we can't get back. The simple truth is that thought determines behavior, and behavior produces results, and sons need to think deeply. Compared with the corresponding requirements, domestic universities can only say that they are unsatisfactory.

Son, from the beginning of college, we must think about the outcome after four years. This year, more than 7.6 million college students have graduated. Can they all find jobs? I think you will experience it in four years. Every year, students who finish college life are full of the heroic spirit of governing the country and leveling the world like Mencius. Beneath the seemingly kind and powerful appearance, the "brave and unyielding" king's heart wants to point out how to make contributions in the world and what a spirit it is. However, the reality is not only too cruel, but also too fast. However, in a month, thousands of resumes have sunk into the sea and there is no news. It is more common to be looked down upon and rejected mercilessly. This is, of course, because of the arrogance of people in society, but it is more because those college students who have just left school are self-contemptuous, obviously don't know anything, and still say something silly with their eyes wide open. Some students asked whether they could quickly become a section-level official when applying for the examiner's job, and whether their monthly salary could rise to more than 5000 after the probation period. Various vacation welfare systems can be said to have broken the casserole, which will naturally make examiners bored, and the consequences can be imagined. Many people still don't want to lower their job requirements. They don't look back until they hit the south wall. They don't cry until they see the coffin. They hit the wall so many times. It seems that all the Fortune 500 companies are scrambling to recruit him. Because of your high self-esteem, you are in a state of long-term waiting for a price. Are you Jiang Ziya or Prissy? Do you really have the knowledge and ability to match such high self-esteem? There may indeed be some swift horses that people ignore, but I believe they are more suitable for horses that only toss in the valleys. The wonders that travel thousands of miles a day and 800 miles at night can only flow in empty talk and fantasy. Slowly and steadily improve your ability, even if you can't become a swift horse, you will have a thoroughly remoulded change compared with the previous one. So is it time to calm down, recognize the social reality and reflect on yourself calmly? Is it unrealistic for you? Son, what will you be like in four years?

Mom and Dad want to say the following to you:

1, don't let your parents do anything for you, no matter big or small. From now on, you can finally be the master of your future, but the long road ahead, even if you encounter great difficulties, often requires you to fight alone.

2, 18 years old, legally, you are an adult, please try to treat yourself objectively.

3. Plan ahead for yourself, make sure that today you are different from yesterday, and get used to a full life instead of muddling along.

About learning

1. Unlike high school, you went to college and no teachers or parents forced you to study. Therefore, it is very important to cultivate the ability of autonomous learning.

2. If you just want to graduate smoothly, it's no problem to take the exam before the exam, but if you want to get a scholarship, you must attend classes and take the exam seriously.

Besides learning the knowledge in books, you need to learn more skills of dealing with people and the ability to deal with problems.

If you really feel bored in class, you'd rather go to the library than wander around.

5. Finally, remember, don't fail! ! Failing the course will not only hinder you from completing your normal studies, but also have a bad influence on your future employment.

About interpersonal communication

1, learn to adapt to the new environment and learn to change yourself instead of trying to make others adapt to you.

2, understand everyone, everyone has their own special growth trajectory, do not use their own standards to measure everyone.

3. Learn to share, listen and communicate. Only when you sincerely open your heart to others can others realize the real you and get along more harmoniously.

About friendship

1. Join at least one club you like, enrich your after-school life and make like-minded friends. Your school dad learned from the Internet that there are at least three clubs.

2. Cherish every collective activity in dormitory, class and community. If possible, it is best to take a group photo as a souvenir, which belongs to your common youth memories.

3. Follow your heart to make friends and cherish them. College is probably the last chance for you to make bosom friends in your life.

About financial management

1. Plan your expenditure and income reasonably and be a person with economic planning.

2, moderate consumption, not blindly comparing.

Don't be too stingy when spending money with classmates and friends, but don't be too generous.

About love

For this matter, it can be said that dad disapproves. Because, when you have no economic foundation, focus on it, and the consequence of delaying your studies is that you will not have a good future in the future. Without a good future, then, can you let the person you love have a good life? Can't let the person you love have a good life, is this a mature man's practice? Besides, how many people can fall in love in college? Because they came from different places, almost all of them chose to break up when they graduated. Why do they spend so much energy not studying? Abandoning one's studies and career for love is not an ideal love, but an excuse for immature indulgence. So, I hope you can look at this problem rationally.

About attitude towards life

1. Evaluating a person is not only the score, but also the ability of social outreach, organization and planning, public relations coordination and so on. , you can win appreciation.

2. Suffer once, endure once and persist once. Many things I met in college are previews of the reality I may encounter in the future.

There are many rich second generation and official second generation families in the university. Don't care about them, and don't be ashamed. Study hard and surpass them in study.

4. Don't regret those failed attempts, but the failed experience may be the most valuable.

5. unfairness is everywhere. We should study hard to change. Anger and cursing are the most humble and powerless responses.

It is easy to be a mediocre college student, but it is not easy to be an independent self.

Son: Whether you succeed or fail, whether you are poor or rich, whether you are happy or depressed, no matter where you are, you can't leave the sight of your parents. You should cherish your life, because it is not just yours.

Every time I hear that college students are suicidal, my parents feel palpitations. For suicides, no matter what the reason, they will die without a feather, and will soon turn to dust and be unknown to the world. But for parents, their hearts will die with them, and that kind of heartbreaking pain will torture them for life.

You always have to be independent, but when you encounter pain and disappointment, don't forget that there is another mountain, that is, family, which will always support you and tolerate you. When you find it difficult to persist, don't forget that home is always a harbor. Although it can't shelter you forever, it is the place where you live. Parents will always accompany you silently, watching you patiently from far or near.

Son: Say goodbye to the immature high school and welcome the youthful college life. This is a new chapter in your life. Many years later, you recall those years when you were young ... Please write this chapter with your most serious and beautiful pen, so as not to make college life mediocre and not to make yourself regret in the future!

18-year-old man represents maturity and stability, shoulders responsibility and understanding, wins self-reliance and dignity for himself, brings peace and happiness to his family, and assumes responsibilities and obligations for society. Son, you will understand your parents' high hopes and move forward firmly in the future.

Love your parents very much.

20 16-07-26