At that time, it may be naive, it may be whimsical, and the answers are varied.
But when we all grow up, there will be a clear answer in our hearts, that is, we will choose people who love us.
Many people will also refute, why choose, can't these two people be the same person?
Yes, it is possible, but the chances are too small. More often, it is a choice.
Why do many people prefer to choose someone who loves them, rather than someone they love? Let's listen to what these three people say.
Liu Yang is the wife of a clothing store. She is 24 years old. Maybe when you grow up, you will find that many things are involuntary and impossible to be perfect. So is love. It's good to have someone who loves me.
Once, my idea was to be with the person I love, so that life would be interesting.
But when I grew up and talked about several relationships, I found that I could change.
Many times, love is not as beautiful as you think, and there will be many frictions and contradictions.
Finding someone who loves you may try to avoid these contradictions, or you can fool yourself afterwards and make yourself feel loved.
I once had a boyfriend. I love him very much, but he also hurts my heart the most.
After our embarrassing quarrel, he never coaxed me again Every time I bow my head and apologize, I take the initiative to make up for it.
It's really, really hard to find that all the people who open the chat box are themselves.
It's good to have a man who loves himself with me and feel protected.
And girls are the kind of people who are easily emotional if other men are kind to them, so I think it's best to find someone who loves themselves, because girls will fall in love sooner or later.
Liu Ruicheng, programmer, 28 years old: It is best to find a woman who loves herself. Women who don't love themselves will break up sooner or later and will come back. I found that every time I took the initiative to chase that girl, I didn't get good fruit.
My two ex-girlfriends, I took the initiative to chase them, and the results were exactly the same. Those two ex-girlfriends are goddesses, and I am a programmer in everyone's stereotype. In others' eyes, we may not be a good match.
Just to dispel the idea that everyone is "unworthy", I tried my best to please my girlfriend
What bag does your girlfriend like? I will scrimp and save to buy it for her for a long time. Birthdays, Valentine's Day, and other important festivals have never been handed down.
It is also common to prepare a love breakfast for your girlfriend. One of my girlfriends has stomach trouble, and I always carry stomach medicine in my pocket.
I did everything I had to do, thinking about loving her, even like a dog licking. But when they met a man with better conditions, they just turned around and left.
My wish now is to find a woman who loves me, tolerate each other and live a good life.
Wang Siyi, model, 25 years old: People who love themselves make themselves feel loved, while those they love make themselves feel more involved, which may not match. My growing experience may have a great influence on my concept of mate selection. I am a child of a single-parent family.
I am a very rational person. In adolescence, when many friends are looking forward to a love, only I feel a little unrealistic.
I think some marriages don't need love. As long as two people get along, such marriages will last longer.
Therefore, I, for the marriage partner, never expected that I was the one I loved to death.
It should be much easier to marry someone who loves you.
At least, because he loves you, he won't disappear for no reason or fool around with friends. Finding a person who loves himself will be much less sad and feel good to be loved.
Marriage is more about pursuing stability and long-term. Only when someone loves you and spends the rest of his life with him can you be really happy.
Why choose someone who loves you? Some are because of bad emotional experience, comparative measurement, and some are because of the intervention of growing environment, which makes me understand something.
More people would rather choose someone who loves them than someone they love, because they can get more love and understanding.
However, if everyone wants to choose someone who loves himself, this is a false proposition, and no one will find someone who loves himself.
When you are looking for or have found someone who loves you, don't forget to pay. Only when the other person feels his love can this relationship last.
So I said, choose the person who loves you and the person you love. In fact, this statement is incorrect. It should be that many people prefer to choose people who love themselves rather than themselves. Only by giving and understanding each other can love last forever.