You ask a selfish person why you are so selfish. He will only think that you are unreasonable, because he doesn't think there is anything wrong with him at all. His growing environment determines his values. In his mind, "Every man for himself, the devil takes the hindmost". If you say he is selfish, he may feel wronged.

Environmental factors Li Yaping's selfishness was cultivated by his parents with incorrect views. He was exposed to such ideas since he was a child, and he was surrounded by such people. He naturally feels that this way of doing things is right.

It's like a bitter and sweet dispute about tofu. If you eat salty bean curd with snacks, so do the people around you. Then suddenly someone came over and accused you that tofu should be sweet. How can you eat salted bean curd? Do you think he is reasonable or unreasonable?

He grew up in such an environment, and his mother is the best example. Her thoughts are still stuck in the stage of women's three obedience and four virtues in the old society. She thinks that it is right to treat her husband that day, so she will talk about how to compromise when she is a daughter-in-law, how to save herself, and how to be proud of eating leftovers.

Affected by this, Li Yaping will feel that it is natural for his wife to pay for her husband and his family.

Genetic factor Li Yaping is more educated than his parents. He is highly educated and should distinguish right from wrong. Therefore, in the initial two-person world with Li Juan, he became a standard good husband and obeyed his wife, but there was a reason.

First of all, he and Li Juan are newlyweds. Hormones determine that he is the most talkative at this time. Love is blind. In order to make Li Juan happy, he is willing to serve him, not to mention that Li Juan can't be willing to give him a hard time.

Secondly, he knew that Li Juan and Li Juan's parents had paid a lot in their marriage, and he was grateful to Li Juan at this time, so he was willing to make up for Li Juan in action.

After the arrival of Li Yaping's parents, family conflicts began to increase gradually, and Li Yaping's feelings for Li Juan began to fade in various frictions. At this time, the selfish attribute in his gene began to be slowly exposed.

In addition, his mother's constant estrangement awakened his childhood memories and reminded him of how his mother paid for his family when he was a daughter-in-law. Therefore, seeing Li Juan and her mother's diametrically opposite behaviors, his emotional balance will naturally tilt towards his parents.

Later, he will feel more and more that Li Juan has a bad relationship with her mother-in-law and just won't give him face. As a good-looking man, this is something he can't tolerate.

In Nanny Let Li Juan Eat Shrimp Shells, we can see that Li Yaping didn't even notice Li Juan's feelings, and he didn't even realize his family's excesses.

Li Juan's connivance Li Juan loves Li Yaping deeply, so she will sacrifice for him again and again. It is not enough to sacrifice yourself, but also to sacrifice your parents. Her love for Li Yaping made him push his luck again and again, even though Li Yaping pushed her.

Li Yaping obviously loves himself more, and as the only male in the family, he was protected by his parents who preferred boys to girls since he was a child, thinking that men should bow, so his contribution to Li Juan is taken for granted.

In fact, Li Yaping's selfishness has never been revealed since his parents came to this small family. Many people like to say that men are two people before and after marriage, which is just self-deception. No matter how hard a person hides it, it can't be perfect. Many times, it's not that men don't expose their shortcomings, but that women who are carried away by love don't want to pay attention at all.

To sum up, a truly selfish person really can't see his own selfishness, but will think others are selfish. Some people know it in their hearts, but they don't want to admit it, because selfish people are the best.

No matter what kind of person you are, you should stay away from him in time. Li Juan's greatest tragedy is that she doesn't know how to stop loss in time.