First, graduate students face the dual pressures of scientific research and life.
Friends of the same age are married and have children, buying a house and a car, and the monthly salary is only enough for living expenses. At this time, it is difficult to achieve a balance between research and life, and I can't understand where the pressure of reading comes from. And for a long time, it is easy to cause mental problems. Some people of the same age get married, have children, buy cars and houses, but they don't even know whether they can graduate smoothly. The pressure doubles. I don't know when I can repay my young parents who are getting old and no longer healthy. They are anxious but helpless.
Many graduate students in colleges and universities have psychological problems, but few people receive treatment. The emergence of psychological problems is closely related to family, study, employment, economy, emotion and other issues. When encountering troubles, I want to tell my parents, but some parents can only say, "Just endure until graduation, and listen to the teacher now." I want to tell my classmates that I am afraid of being the laughing stock of everyone, and I want to tell my former friends, but everyone's life trajectory has long been different. Is it really understandable? So I had to carry it alone, and slowly I was on the verge of collapse.
Second, the tutor faces a dilemma.
Postgraduate training itself is a "lenient entry and strict exit" system. After the enrollment expansion, some students' academic ability is not high, and they can't produce high-quality graduation thesis, but they are bent on asking their teachers to give them a chance to reply and graduate. If the teacher refuses, they are likely to go to extremes. Now the "tutor responsibility system" is becoming more and more strict, and some strict but cautious good teachers dare not let students graduate smoothly because they are afraid of being affected.
Many graduate students call their tutors "bosses", and this "boss" has a veto power. For some graduate students, even if they work hard to complete their scientific research tasks, they can't graduate without the consent of their tutors. Those graduate students who think that their efforts will be treated well and have good results often find themselves as scientific research machines, which can neither be understood by their tutors nor told to outsiders.
Third, encouraging students to grow also needs to release pressure.
Long-term goals can guide students' struggle direction, but if they don't pay attention to every move of the local area at that time, then a small gap is likely to make him fall into struggle and make him more frustrated in the long journey. There are too many families, and children's education focuses on success and rarely on failure. The last straw that crushed the camel may be a steady stream of worries, which made him feel anxious. Everyone is concerned about his success, but no one stands behind him and tells him that failure is not terrible. Whose life is neither bitter nor sweet? Living bravely is the real success.
Without ambition, a straw breaks the waist; With big goals in mind, Taishan won't bend over. Because there is pressure, people will have a sense of responsibility, will be motivated and will have the motivation to keep moving forward. This world is really unfair, and students exist to change this unfair world! Therefore, students should be encouraged to "strive for the fairness that suits them best"!