There will inevitably be contradictions between people, mainly from the psychological relationship characterized by feelings, which reflects the psychological gap. First of all, we should know what the contradictory behavior of college students is manifested in.
1, lack of communication, because college students come from various provinces and cities, which is not suitable for them to quickly integrate into a large group. There are also many differences in the languages of different provinces and cities, which makes it difficult for the two sides to communicate. When they just integrate into university life, they communicate less when they are unfamiliar with each other.
2. Differences in living habits, each university is comprehensive in nature, facing students from all over the country, which makes students' lifestyles, ideas and values contradictory.
3, lack of interpersonal skills, the lack of communication mentioned above, here mainly refers to communication skills, with good communication skills, it is easier to communicate with each other, thus accelerating the familiarity between students and reducing the occurrence of contradictions.
Harmonious interpersonal relationships among college students help them find a sense of identity and belonging in school and promote their healthy physical and mental development. Dealing with interpersonal relationships among college students;
1, vigorously hold social gatherings and some community activities to increase mutual understanding. Get familiar with each other in every exchange activity.
2. College students often attend and hold contact parties, so that every college student can participate in them, so that every student can fully show himself and let others know about himself.
Extended data
The establishment and development of interpersonal relationship is actually a process of emotional involvement and communication from shallow to deep. In this process, the two sides increase their acceptance and trust through self-exposure. The higher the self-exposure, the deeper the interpersonal communication.
According to the different degrees of emotional involvement and self-exposure, Altman (1973) believes that the establishment and development of good interpersonal relationships need to go through four stages, namely, orientation stage, emotional exploration stage, emotional communication stage and stable communication stage.
1, orientation phase
Psychological activities such as concern, choice and preliminary communication with communication objects.
2. Emotional exploration stage
With the discovery of the emotional field between the two sides, the communication between the two sides has become more and more extensive, and the depth and breadth of self-exposure have gradually increased. People's topic is to avoid touching other people's privacy, and self-disclosure does not involve their own basic aspects.
3. Emotional communication stage
At this stage of interpersonal relationship development, the nature of the relationship between the two sides began to change substantially. At this point, the sense of security in interpersonal relationships has been established, and the conversation has begun to involve many aspects of the self, so there is a deep emotional intervention.
4. Stable communication stage
People's psychological fit will be further increased, and their self-exposure will be more extensive and profound, allowing each other to enter their highly private personal fields and share their living space and property.