Many parents complain about their children. They always procrastinate and need their parents to urge them to do everything. The children themselves are not in a hurry.

However, many parents don't realize that it is precisely because parents are always nagging him that children can't develop the habit of self-discipline.

Parents' constant nagging and urging is actually to put the responsibility of the child on themselves and let the child form a dependent psychology.

"Parents don't care, I won't do it!"

Such a situation will only make children less and less active and unable to develop the habit of self-discipline.

Let's talk about it first What is self-discipline? Self-discipline means managing yourself and demanding yourself.

Therefore, if children want to develop the habit of self-discipline, they need to learn to manage their own time and ask themselves to implement it according to the established plan.

Self-discipline is a kind of self-discipline ability.

Ability needs "training" to cultivate children, so what kind of family can cultivate self-disciplined children?

We often say that parents are the best teachers for children.

Parents' words and deeds are undoubtedly the best example for children to learn.

Some time ago, Maco was circled by an 8-year-old boy. He insisted on getting up at 6: 30 every morning to study, which has lasted for more than 400 days.

Didi's mother revealed that Didi didn't like reading before and liked watching TV. I read books every day and set a good example for him.

Under the influence of family atmosphere, Didi gradually fell in love with reading. When he saw a particularly interesting book, he would chase after his mother and say, "This book is particularly good-looking. Please read. "

I still remember that Chen Ming mentioned her mother's influence on her when she read The Story of Chipa.

His mother is an ordinary nurse. Because she is interested in law, even under high-intensity work pressure, she will still find time to rest and recite the whole code.

Taking his mother as an example, Chen Ming loved learning from an early age and was very self-disciplined. Finally, he was admitted to a prestigious school and became a university teacher.

Dong Qing said:

Parents' role models are the best textbooks for children.

Only when parents infect their children with their own practical actions can they slowly guide their children to learn self-management.

Believe: Self-disciplined parents and children are not bad.

As the saying goes, "No rules can't make Fiona Fang and Fiona Fang."

If you want children to learn self-discipline, you must cultivate their awareness of rules from an early age and let them learn to obey them.

In other words, parents should help their children make a set of suitable plans and rules and supervise their children to implement them.

Gymnast Liu Xuan made a timetable for her children when they were very young. Except for sleeping time, all other times are arranged, and children can only watch 15 minutes of cartoons a day.

Many netizens think that she is too strict with her 4-year-old children.

But Liu Xuan believes that this is to set rules for children, and children can only be self-disciplined when they are young.

"Education in karl witte" says:

Therefore, parents should cultivate their children's habit of self-discipline as soon as possible.

However, parents should also understand that self-discipline is never "forced".

Remember Xiao Shede's Yanzi Tour?

When he studied the insects on the ground very seriously, his mother Tian Yulan gave him a bad warning: "Don't waste time on those useless things!" " "

Tian Yulan is very concerned about his son and helps Yan Ziyou do everything well. Under her 360-degree supervision, Yan Ziyou has never been "self-disciplined", but has always been "heteronomy".

Professor Li Meijin once said:

If you really love children, you must refrain from doing it.

Because an independent child has a sense of responsibility and knows how to be responsible for himself, how can a child who depends on others for everything talk about self-discipline?

What parents should do is to help their children find what they really love, encourage them to have "dreams" and turn distant dreams into efforts step by step.

Dreams are the biggest "internal driving force" for children's self-discipline.

The easiest way is to help children make short-term goals and plans that are easy to achieve.

Divide a great dream into many small goals that are easy to achieve, so that you can easily taste the sweetness of success and have the motivation to stick to it.

Let's take a look at the holiday arrangement of Deng, the gold medal winner of the 60th International Mathematics Competition.

He arranges his study, reading and sports time clearly, and arranges several small goals for himself every week, such as reading several extracurricular books.

The reason why he can become so self-disciplined is inseparable from his mother's education.

When he was a child, his mother taught him to make a daily plan. When making a plan, my mother only makes suggestions and doesn't make decisions.

His mother will supervise him every day and give him corresponding rewards every time he completes a plan. Let him have a sense of accomplishment every day, and unconsciously have a good sense of time and develop the habit of self-discipline.

The same is true of children's study and life.

Every day, as long as there is a little progress compared with yesterday, whether it is progress in the exam or reading an article, the brain will send out a signal of appreciation.

Parents' timely affirmation and encouragement will make children more confident, recognize their self-worth and make them more self-disciplined.