After graduating from college, we all chose to drift north together. Some of us are for our girlfriends, because they are in Beijing, and some are to test our bottom line and see how much money we can earn in a city like Beijing. Some people come for their dreams and goals, and feel that Beijing has all its fantasies and expectations for life. They hope that through their own efforts, they can live the life they want in Beijing and even buy a house to take root.
In fact, when Wen Jia said he was leaving Beijing, everyone was surprised. He was known by the university because of several competitions. He is one of the highest educated people among us, and he has the aura of 985 doctoral degrees. In fact, he has pulled us a lot from the beginning. Just graduated, Wen Jia's enthusiasm is also the strongest. At the beginning, he suggested that we all go to Beijing to start a business together. After all, everyone is still young, so we should do something we want to do while we are young.
I remember when I first went to Beijing, it was relatively easy to find a job because only Wen Jia had an outstanding educational background. Later, after interview and written examination, I successfully entered a state-owned enterprise and directly entered the position of middle-level management trainee, with a monthly salary of 1.5 million. At that time, I thought reading was still very useful. Everyone is envious or jealous of Wen Jia. After all, just out of school, in a city like Beijing, the starting salary can reach 1.5 million, which really surpasses many people to a great extent, and it is also considered as a middle income level among the income groups in Beijing.
Everyone asked Gavin why he resigned. Gavin drank a bottle of beer directly, sighing and saying:
"When I first came to Beijing, the starting salary was15,000 yuan. In fact, at that time, I had great confidence in myself and the city. I think my future life is still predictable. I should be able to achieve promotion and salary increase by my own efforts in the future. If I work hard in Beijing for 65,438+00 years, I can save some money. Even if I can buy an old house in Beijing, I will be satisfied. After all, I will be my foot.
"Now, it seems that I am still too confident. I have worked hard for the company for five years. The boss can't see his efforts. Even if he raises his salary again and again, it's never his turn. Now he is beginning to lose confidence in the city of Beijing. "
Then, what gave birth to these people with excellent labels, giving up their ideal city life and choosing to go back to their hometown for development, is not only a blow brought by career promotion, but also an uncertainty about their future life and a doubt about their abilities.
Gavin drank another bottle of beer and went on to say:
"The most puzzling thing is that many good friends who have developed in their hometown already have houses and cars and are married. Although burdened with mortgage and car loan, people have at least settled down for their future life. Looking back at myself, I promised to come to Beijing, but now I dislike that I have no house or car. They are increasingly skeptical about their purpose of coming to Beijing to work hard. Their old classmates have also borrowed money to buy a house.
"People have a house and a car at the age of 30. At the age of 30 or even 40, I may have been living a life of renting a house and moving. My parents are getting older and older. I really don't know how long I can last like this. It is increasingly difficult to find the direction and significance of persistence. I can't figure out what I came to Beijing for. "
There is a phenomenon in the workplace that some well-paid jobs and high-quality talents, and quite a few companies, will sign contracts with employees for several years at one time, on the one hand, to prevent brain drain, on the other hand, to let employees better play their own values. Although Wen Jia's salary when he graduated was 1.5 million, the employer signed a five-year contract with him at once. If he wants to leave his job suddenly or quit, he will compensate the company by 20%.
Gavin said, clinking glasses and drinking with everyone. "In fact, this time is to inform you that I really don't stay up. I'm leaving now. I have saved a little money desperately in recent years. I can't do anything with this money in Beijing, but in my hometown, I can still pay the down payment for a house. If there is a good girl, I intend to get married. This place in Beijing may be destined to be just a staged encounter in life. Before 30 years old.
Because the best people chose to leave, in fact, everyone was very sad that night. Why did the best people lose to life and age? Once people reach the age of middle-aged marriage and career, many things are quietly changing. Beijing no longer gives people the feeling of hope. In the middle-aged stage of life, the city gives more people the feeling that they can't see the future, they no longer feel that they can realize their dreams through hard work, and they no longer feel that they can get a better life in the future.
When I was young, I believed in dreams. After working for 5 years, 65,438+00 years, or even longer, I entered middle age and found that my dream was extravagant and the reality was cruel. Hard-working people may not get the care of their dreams. The world won't change because you work 40 hours a week. For most middle-aged people, escaping from first-tier cities is the truth and reality of life that must be faced.
In the face of cruel reality, it is better to know the truth of life as soon as possible than to believe in the spiritual power given by ideals!
Understand your life pursuit and the definition of "happiness"
I remember Tao once said, "In fact, it is very simple to live a happy life, but it is very difficult to live a happier life than most people."
Everyone has his own life pursuit, and the definition and standard of a happy life will be different in everyone's mind. Only by finding the standard and direction of your own happy life will life be happy enough for you. This kind of happiness may have nothing to do with material things, but only depends on your own inner feelings.
Li Yuanyuan, the champion of Super Speaker, said in his speech, "If you feel that your whole life is touching, then your whole life is touching. If you work hard all your life, then your life is the life of a fighter. " What kind of life you live depends on how you feel about life.
We can't all create the world with our own inventions like Jobs, nor can we work 40 hours a week to change the world and bring us much wealth. Even if people get rich by luck, you don't have such good luck at all Most people's jobs are just tools and means to make a living.
Because of this, working in a city like Beijing, in the environment of high price level, high cost of living and fast pace of life, the work itself can't bring me any spiritual comfort, which is especially important for the directional choice of career and work. But back to reality, we often can't have both. For most people who have no money, we are destined to talk about money.
When you have no money, you talk to a beggar about your dreams and your feelings about life and work, and he will think you are joking with him. There was a heated discussion about how difficult it is for poor families to have sons. Aside from the topic of education, young people who have no money will go to cities like Beijing to live and work hard. Faced with no money and dreams, I believe many people will choose to solve the first problem in the first time.
Money is particularly important, because having money in your pocket means you can see the rising sun in Beijing tomorrow. But if you can't even solve the basic survival problem, what feelings about life and dreams can you talk about?
The price of Excellence in the workplace is far more complicated than you think.
After working in your post for a long time, you will find that there is a great difference between Excellence at that time and Excellence at work.
When looking at a thing, we always judge a person's career future with our own inherent thinking and a set of professional cognition, but the reality is that many people think too simply.
Take Wen Jia as an example. In others' eyes, he has a degree of 985, and he is also a doctor. It is certainly good to go to a city like Beijing for development. Of course, his starting point is indeed higher than many people's, but we also see that Wen Jia's career has almost stagnated, his salary has not risen, and his position has not been promoted. It seems that his salary has not increased for several years, and the promotion position is not worthy of his excellent academic background. Isn't he excellent?
Of course not. Five years of hard work can be seen by everyone, but why does it seem to be still standing still? In fact, the cost and difficulty of maintaining Excellence in the workplace are far more complicated than getting high marks and scholarships at school. In school, you deserve the word "excellent" with high marks and scholarships, but at work, in the workplace, it is not just about measuring work ability, communication ability, interpersonal relationship, professional skills and so on. , constitute more factors to evaluate Excellence.
On the other hand, with the influx of a large number of college students into the job market, the employment threshold has increased, and parents have invested heavily in their children's educational resources, making the cost of pursuing Excellence higher and higher. Let me give you a simple example. In the past, everyone thought that a child could play the piano. This child is very powerful and excellent. But now it seems that maybe a child you meet casually in the mall can improvise as long as there is a piano in front of him.
The level of education, to a great extent, can no longer fully represent the Excellence in the workplace.
Social competition is a very complicated long-term systematic mobilization, and studying hard at a cold window is one of the success factors. Money, high IQ, strong reading, good parents and good looks are just one of the variables, and fate is the result of the interaction of multiple variables.
When people reach middle age, the cost of trial and error and the cost of becoming excellent are increasing. Choosing the right direction as soon as possible when they have the ability and opportunity to change is the most important thing in the second half of their lives.