1, science. Education should be based on the research results of contemporary psychology and educational science, so the viewpoints and methods of education should be well-founded. If we can absorb contemporary research results, we should keep pace with the times. Take Love and Freedom, which is widely circulated in Sun Ruixue, as an example. Her theoretical source is Montessori. It is true that she introduced many Montessori's beneficial educational thoughts to the Chinese people, but the book rarely mentioned Montessori's "discipline" (self-discipline), which made many parents easily misunderstand.

Science always keeps pace with the times and keeps innovating. For example, Montessori has made outstanding contributions to the development of early childhood education, but she thinks that pretending to play games (such as children playing house) is not good for children. However, a large number of contemporary psychological studies have proved that pretend games have a positive effect on children's imagination, planning, social skills and language development. However, in Sun Ruixue's works, she still holds Montessori's traditional views, and fails to distinguish clearly and make corresponding adjustments.

Therefore, I suggest that parents learn more about contemporary research results that are beneficial to education. Suitable for parents to read. In recent years, excellent books introducing new discoveries include Key Education Report and Free Children's Brain.

This paper introduces the application and new development of pretend games in contemporary preschool education. You can have a look if you are interested. A mental tool to improve children's self-control through games-Positive parenting-Zhihu column,

Step 2 classify

A book should have its own system, or it can solve a problem in a field systematically. Some parenting books are about their own parenting experiences and reflections, which are better than vivid details and eloquence. Parents also like reading. Of course, they are all useful books (such as "A Good Mother is Better than a Good Teacher"), but they fail to sum up clear parenting rules. Parents don't know how to deal with situations that are not mentioned in other books, so it's hard to draw inferences.

With scientific and systematic parenting knowledge, we can have a suitable "map" to treat and deal with children's behavior, and parents also have a clearer direction, and gradually master internalization in future practice reflection and adjustment.

Systematic parenting books focus on letting parents "know what it is and why". For example, while distinguishing between praise and encouragement, positive discipline uses the following table to illustrate different practices and influences.