Not long ago, I saw a question on the Zhihu: "Will you let your wife go to the class reunion?"

This question is actually very interesting, because everyone who has experienced it has experienced this ignorant period in school. At that time, boys were infatuated with girls, and girls also had a deep affection for boys. Those years were the purest and most sincere.

But at the same time, more than 90% of them died in vain, and they could only bury each other in their hearts, never teasing or touching each other. However, after years of reunion, this long-lost feeling is easy to break out again.

So this is also the reason why many married couples don't want their husbands or wives to attend homecoming, because each other's past has done harm to their present marriage and future life.

As my friend Jiang Ning said, "My wife must give a report 10 days in advance to investigate whether there is any abnormality in the recent ideological trends, and then sign it with confidence."

It sounds like a joke, but it actually shows your partner's dislike of the word "class reunion" in disguise.

02.

Zhang Peng and Du Ningning met at work. At first, they were just colleagues. Because of their work, they have some contact. Zhang Peng is three years older than Du Ningning and has been in the company for a long time, so they take good care of the couple.

And Du Ningning's beautiful appearance and cheerful personality also make Zhang Peng, who usually has a narrow circle of friends, feel a sense of happiness that she has never felt before. Coupled with Du Ningning's obvious affection for Zhang's circle of friends, the two broke this enough paper and naturally got together.

Get along for a year or so, feelings gradually stable, also met each other's parents, especially Zhang Peng's parents, very satisfied with Du Ningning, very anxious to let Du Ningning marry them at once.

After marriage, Zhang Peng's love for Du Ningning is almost varied, and she is afraid in her arms. She is called a 24-year-old dutiful husband, but she has also shifted the focus of her life to her family and wife.

However, Du Ningning loves Zhang Peng very much, but the opposite sex around her is still constant, which makes Zhang Peng both happy and distressed. Happiness means that the wife is really good-tempered, and distress means that only by looking at her calmly can she be generous.

One day, Du Ningning said that she was going to attend a college reunion, which made Zhang Peng very worried. Zhang Peng knew that Du Ningning had a boyfriend who had been in love for five years. He was a college classmate, so it is estimated that we will definitely meet this time.

Zhang Peng's nervousness is not distrust. It's just that meeting old classmates is the first love, which will inevitably bring back previous memories. It's not that Zhang Peng thinks everyone is bad, but that he is afraid of problems when he is happy and has too much helplessness.

Du Ningning said that this was the first party after graduating from college. I didn't know when it would be next time, so I really wanted to go. Zhang Peng could no longer object and agreed.

At 9 o'clock that evening, Zhang Peng went to the restaurant to meet her, but she reasoned and didn't go in and didn't call her. She just wanted to meet her and didn't want to disturb her interest.

It was not until 10: 30 that a group of people staggered out. One of them is his wife, Ningning, who can see that she has drunk a little wine and is being helped by a man.

Seeing that everyone else had left, when Zhang Peng wanted to pick up his wife, she suddenly found Du Ningning and the man hugging each other. She heard Du Ningning's coquetry voice and said, "Why did you leave at that time? Do you know how sad I was crying? How much have I suffered for you? Do you know? "

The man also said to Du Ningning very gently: "Although I have been separated for so many years, I have always had you in my heart, and there were so many happy times in those years. We can start again at any time if you like. "

Zhang Pengduo hopes that Du Ningning can pour out his heart on this man in an instant and then tell him, "No way, I have a deeply loved husband." However, Du Ning didn't answer or open his heart. He just hugged him tighter and even cried. I can see that he was very moved. Du Ningning seemed to want to look up before speaking, but when he looked up, he froze. In front of him was her husband Zhang Peng, and he froze.

She immediately reacted and broke free from the man's arms, and the man looked back at Zhang Peng with a puzzled face.

Zhang Peng looked at his once familiar wife, but now he felt strange. Before Du Ningning said a word, he squinted at Du Ningning and said, "I'm really redundant. I'm disturbing you. "

Say that finish, he immediately drove away. No matter how she explained it, Zhang Peng didn't want to hear any more. Finally, she even moved out and filed for divorce with Du Ningning.

After the divorce, Ningning was not with her first love.

03.

Many people say that Zhang Peng may be too sensitive. As long as we make things clear, we won't be killed with a stick, nor will we give Du Ningning a chance to explain. Judging from the fact that Du Ningning is not with her first love, she still loves Zhang Peng more.

However, I think if I stand from Zhang Peng's point of view, I may not be so rational, because the scene at that time was still seen by Zhang Peng, so what about the scene I didn't see? I believe Zhang doesn't even want to think about it.

Although what Zhang Peng said before driving away was simple, every word was like a knife, which was dug out of his heart. After all, he was so serious and loyal to his feelings, but his wife let herself down with such performance. So life is worse than death.

In short, many relationships really end once they end, similar to the relationship between classmates and ex-boyfriends. It's really better than attending, because if you haven't been in touch for three years, it means that you don't live together anymore. It's better to forget than to miss it. Forgetting can do nothing about the past.

It also shows this truth, I have never been with my first love. Missing the past is not good for my present life, even harmful. I didn't care then, and I don't care now.

Nowadays, as a wife, such as Du Ningning, she should really know where her responsibilities and happiness lie and cherish the good times with her classmates. But family, husband and children are your present and future. You should always know how to respect and love yourself. I believe this will give Du Ningning a profound lesson.