During this time, I read Carnegie's "The Weakness of Human Nature" and benefited a lot. Reading such a book in such a late night is like enjoying a delicious life feast. It is really understandable and unspeakable to express this feeling. It is like a mirror, which helps me to know myself, understand myself, so as to improve myself, control myself and become a successful person who is good at managing my life. The long road of life has made me more aware of what kind of future I am facing while seeing the road clearly.

? Really appreciate and praise others? It is my deepest feeling after reading this book. I have read this book once and can only get a general understanding. You must read it several times to understand its meaning. Know yourself and know yourself, and fight every battle? This is true on the battlefield and in life. A person who knows each other better and knows himself better can be comfortable and invincible in life. The weakness of human nature is the essence of Carnegie's thought and career. Through vivid stories and easy-to-understand principles, the book excavates 60 weaknesses hidden in the human body from the perspective of human nature. Only when a person knows himself and constantly transforms himself can he make continuous progress until he succeeds! Carnegie's writing style is not very profound, it is all ordinary little things, but Carnegie's artistic soul is embedded in the book. His reaction to these little things was unexpected, which shocked my heart and made me feel so small. The world will not stop turning because of losing Carnegie, but will become a better place because of him. With his insight into human nature, Mr. Carnegie used a large number of ordinary people to make continuous efforts to achieve success. Through his speeches and books, he aroused the fighting spirit of countless lost people and inspired our future generations to achieve brilliant success.

The tips and suggestions in The Weaknesses of Human Nature are highly operable and can be summarized in one sentence: If we recognize the weaknesses in human nature, we will get twice the result with half the effort and succeed smoothly. Rereading "The Weakness of Human Nature" made me realize that this weakness can be my own or someone else's. Knowing other people's weaknesses can make each of us make smooth progress in our daily communication; Knowing your own weaknesses can help you develop your strengths and avoid weaknesses, highlight your strengths, and build a better life. Working in a state-owned enterprise, I always remind myself to be prepared for danger in times of peace and constantly improve and enrich myself.

In the book, the author talks about how we should learn to appreciate others sincerely in our life and work. Carnegie said: There is only one way in the world to inspire others to do anything and give them what they want. In your daily life journey, don't forget to leave a little praise for the world. This little spark of friendship will ignite the flame of friendship. ? Yes!

Carnegie said: people are like this. When they do wrong, they only blame others, not themselves. ? Maybe this sentence is not strange to us, and it is often used, but we made some changes to it, and after the changes, it became? That's what he did. When he does something wrong, he only complains, but he doesn't blame himself. ? Seemingly subtle differences, in fact, are very small, a thousand miles away. When you say this sentence with one finger pointing at others, maybe the other finger is pointing at yourself! Carnegie hit the nail on the head by pointing out this bad habit. We always like to talk about other people's right and wrong. Why can't we compare ourselves with them and look at ourselves? When others do badly, is what they do perfect? When you realize that you will make mistakes, you will rise to a higher level and sum up an eternal truth: to err is human. The root of the disease is the lack of understanding and tolerance between people. I will always remember what Wei Zi said when he interceded for the Queen in the finale of the TV series Princess Zhu Huan II, that is? The greatest virtue in life is forgiveness? What's your attitude when people accidentally step on your feet when we are in the bus every day, and when people accidentally bump into you when we are walking on the road every day? Full of resentment, swearing or forgiving others and being kind to yourself? We are always used to thinking from our own standpoint when considering things, so everything others do is wrong when it is different from ourselves, and so is it for others! But if both sides can look at themselves from the perspective of others, the result will be completely different. Seeing yourself from the perspective of others requires understanding and forgiving others' qualities and achievements. Only people who are not smart enough will criticize and complain about others. Indeed, many stupid people do. Only when we learn to care about our friends sincerely can we win their greatest trust.

Reading this book again inspired me to prepare for what will happen in the future.

First of all, I want to change myself and learn to treat life and work with a happy attitude. The book says:? Don't forget, happiness doesn't depend on who you are or what you have. It comes entirely from your thoughts. ? I believe that happiness comes from the heart. There is an old saying, I hope it can encourage you. Man's life is only once, so we should do whatever good and good we can contribute now. Don't slow down or neglect, because you only live once. ? Emerson said: Everyone I meet is more or less my teacher because I learned something from him. ? If this is true and feasible for Emerson, it is even more true for each of us. Let's not always think about our own achievements and needs, but try our best to find the advantages of others, and then, instead of catering, we sincerely appreciate them. Want it? Sincere and generous praise? People will cherish your words in their memories and never forget them.

As Mr. Carnegie said, only 15% of a person's success is due to his professional knowledge, and 85% is due to his ability to express his thoughts, lead others and arouse their enthusiasm. ? Therefore, I think: as long as we repeatedly study the weaknesses of human nature, we will certainly be able to help us acquire 85% of the abilities necessary for success.

Now, I recommend this book to you who want to constantly improve yourself. I hope you can feel better and change after reading it. We don't have to regard it as a classic that can be regarded as a classic. It is a kind of relaxing reading, and it is a mirror to put on the bed, reflect on yourself and correct the route.

People say: correct thoughts will make people enjoy a correct and happy life! I wish every reader friend with human weakness a full and happy life.

Feeling 1:

The book "The Weakness of Human Nature" talks about ten themes (1, the skills of getting along with others, the requirements of peace and happiness, how to make others like you, how to win others' approval, how to persuade others better, how to make family life happy, how to make yourself more mature, how to get out of a lonely and troubled life, and how not to worry about work and money. In the depths of these words, the author and I have a very strong voice, which is the biggest reason why I like this book. ? If you care about others, you will make more friends in two months than a person who needs to care about himself in two years. ? This is a sentence in human weakness. As the saying goes, friendship is what we all need? Unity is strength? . Only with the help of friends and relatives can things be done well. The weakness of human nature tells us how to win friends and establish good interpersonal relationships.

One: Skills of getting along with others

Don't criticize or complain about others: yes! Criticism is dangerous, because it often hurts a person's precious self-esteem, hurts his sense of self-esteem and arouses his resistance. Jealousy caused by criticism will only reduce morale and feelings, and at the same time, what is accused will not be improved. If you are good friends, appropriate advice is ok, but it must be gentle. If our friends disagree with us, enough is enough.

Stimulate the strong desire of others: If everyone can put themselves in others' shoes and gain insight into their psychology, they will never worry about their future. First of all, we must seize the most urgent needs in each other's hearts. If we can do this, we can be like a duck to water, otherwise we can't do anything. We often use it? It's easy to stand and talk, okay? Attitude towards others, in fact, have we really considered them from their point of view, mood and situation? No, never.

Try to understand others, not scold them; Try to put yourself in their shoes and think about why they did it. This is much more beneficial and interesting than criticism and accusation, which makes people feel sympathy, patience and kindness.

Second: the secret of peace and happiness

The only way to seek happiness is not to expect others to be grateful. Giving is a pleasure to enjoy giving. To pursue true happiness, we must abandon whether others will appreciate your idea and only enjoy the happiness of giving. If I am criticized in my daily life, it is because criticizing you can give him a sense of satisfaction. This also shows that you are successful and attractive. I don't care what others say as long as I believe what I have done is right. Go your own way and let others talk.

In addition, in the study and life, we should develop good habits, such as our own desk and room, and tidy up ourselves to make ourselves look comfortable and feel comfortable every day.

Three: How to make others like you

This chapter is my favorite chapter, because I am usually stubborn, generally more open to acquaintances, and I am not very energetic when I meet strangers. This chapter taught me a lot.

First of all, we should sincerely care about others: we should show concern for others, which is the same as other interpersonal relationships; Our concern is sincere. This not only makes people who care about it get corresponding rewards, but also makes people who care about it gain something. Do we really care about others? If there is, our friends will love us more. I think everyone needs help and we will be vulnerable. When friends lend a helping hand, we will really feel warm. But don't forget that everything is mutual, and our friends will be helpless. Don't forget that we have an advantage. Maybe it is this power that will support him. Perhaps it is this power that makes our friendship stronger.

Secondly, smile from the heart: actions speak louder than words and deeds. To be a smiler, smiling will make people understand: I like you, you make me happy, and I am glad to meet you. ? Smile and touch three muscles. Why not? Smiling can shorten the distance between people; Smiling can narrow the scope of space; Smiling can bridge the gap between hearts. Carnegie said: smile, the happiness caused in others' hearts will fly back to you like a boomerang; Creating a feeling of happiness in others' hearts will make them feel happier. In life, ideals often encounter setbacks. It is inevitable that you will be depressed, hurt, and feel left out by others. Whenever, please remember to show a heartfelt smile to others and yourself, and it is best to show eight teeth. Buddha said? Smile? , said in the martial arts: Smile and forget the hatred? When you smile, any unpleasant or unnatural feeling in your heart will stop and the door of the world will open for you.

Four: How to win the recognition of others

This chapter taught me what to pay attention to when talking with others.

When you talk about something with others, you should start friendly, avoid arguing with others, others' opinions show respect, and never say: Are you wrong? And try to make the other person talk more. When you encounter differences, you will never be satisfied with fighting for them, but you may get more than you expected if you make concessions.

Five: How to better convince others

Now when you think you are right, how can you better convince others?

First of all, we should indirectly point out other people's mistakes. However, before blaming others, think about your own mistakes. Of course, in some cases, you have to save face for others. Then, don't use the tone of command, but let the person think for himself by asking questions. Another way is to encourage people to correct their mistakes more easily and make them happy to follow your suggestions.

Six: Make family life happy.

This chapter mainly tells me the details and related communication skills that I should pay attention to in order to make my family happy. In the process of getting along with your lover in the future, politeness is fundamental, and then you can care about him from small things, understand her work, share her hobbies, be her backing and so on. In the case of contradiction, be good-tempered and not excited, and mature psychology plays a key role in it. This will be discussed in the next chapter.

Seven: How to make you more mature?

The first step for an individual to mature is to dare to take responsibility. We live in the world, we have to face many responsibilities in life, bear the consequences of our actions, be responsible for our actions, always pay attention to those annoying actions in our daily lives, and let ourselves be liked before others like you. The best way to get friendship is to pay attention to giving, not getting, but winning it in person, not relying on temporary attraction or cajoling. The ability to win friendship does not mean chatting, acting funny or telling funny jokes. It should refer to a state of mind, an attitude towards life or a desire to dedicate one's love, interest, attention and service spirit to others.

Eight: Get out of the lonely and anxious life

Now most families in the city are only children, and sometimes everyone has experienced the feeling of loneliness and anxiety.

Now it can be said that loneliness is a common problem of modern people. If you want to overcome loneliness, you must stay away from the shadow of self-pity and bravely walk into the crowd full of light. We need to make new friends. The feeling of happiness depends not on the charity of others, but on winning the needs and love of others. Wherever you go, you should be in high spirits and share your joy with others as much as possible, so that you will make more friends.

Worrying too much will lead to many diseases, such as heart disease, peptic ulcer and high blood pressure, so don't worry too much. We should enjoy life as much as possible. What makes you relaxed and happy most is sound faith, sleep, music and laughter.

Don't worry about work and money.

With the growth of population, it is difficult to find a job with cash, and it is even more difficult to find a good job. But if you don't find a job, you can't live and support your family. Many people are worried.

In fact, instead of worrying about this and moping all day, it is better to go out for a walk, establish good interpersonal relationships and get to know more friends. Maybe there will be other ways out in the future.

Ten: prevent fatigue and keep vitality forever.

Working hard all day to earn money, the stress and fatigue in life are certain for everyone. Make an appointment with a few good friends, relax outside, make friends and relax yourself, and you may get more happiness from it. The greatest advantage of young people is vitality, eternal vitality and unlimited passion.

I learned too much after reading The Weakness of Human Nature. In human nature, the deepest nature is the desire to be valued by others? Please let us attach importance to friends and let friendship surround you, me and him. Therefore, I hope everyone can look around, compare what they have done and ask themselves: have I overcome the weakness of human nature? Then, be good to yourself, others and society.

Feeling 2:

If you care about others, you will make more friends in two months than a person who needs to care about himself in two years. ? This is a sentence in human weakness. As the saying goes, friendship is what we all need? Unity is strength? Only with the help of friends and relatives can things be done well. The weakness of human nature tells us how to win friends and establish good interpersonal relationships. Criticize and complain about others: Yes! Criticism is dangerous because it often hurts a person's precious self-esteem, his sense of self-esteem, and causes his opposition. Jealousy caused by criticism will only reduce morale and feelings, and at the same time, what is accused will not be improved. If you are good friends, appropriate advice is ok, but it must be gentle. If our friends disagree with us, enough is enough. See the advantages of others: give sincere appreciation. In fact, although we support our friends' lives, we pay too little attention to their self-esteem and we don't know how to give them appreciation. This is precisely the morning song of life, which will be remembered in people's hearts forever. Everyone likes to listen to good words, but don't be hypocritical and flattering. Find their good side and give affirmation. This is the language they need. The requirement of stimulating others' inner desires: If everyone puts themselves in others' shoes, those who can see others' psychology will never worry about their future. First of all, we must seize the most urgent needs in each other's hearts. If we can do this, we can be like a duck to water, otherwise we can't do anything. We often use it? It's easy to stand and talk, okay? The attitude of others, in fact, have we really considered them from their perspective, mood and situation? No, never ... Is this a weakness of human nature? Smile is the best language: a heartfelt smile is more convincing than words and actions. Be a smiler, and a smile will make people understand? I like you, you make me happy, and I'm glad to meet you. ? Smile, from a biological point of view, will affect three muscles, so why not? Smiling can shorten the distance between people; Smile, can eliminate the wall deep inside; Please let us attach importance to friends and others and let friendship surround our lives, which will help me.