However, your initiative and dedication may not be valued by the other party. Some people will gradually take your contribution for granted after accepting your concern, your greetings and your gifts.
It is natural to love someone, but this kind of love must be moderate, otherwise, you will become passive, humble and cheap.
In feelings, what we deserve is equal love. Two people appreciate each other and really love each other. This love is sweet and worth continuing.
Sometimes, you should not be too active. You should learn to treat it coldly, so that the person you love will love you more. If you love someone again, don't give them these things on your own initiative. It's easy to be "cheap".
First of all, money
Some people, when they like someone very much, are willing to pour out their hearts and lungs for him, even if they are dominated by the other party.
Remember, if you love someone again, don't give them money, or you will become particularly passive in this relationship. Many times, the more humble you love, the less you will be cherished.
If the person you love is really short of money, you can lend him money, but don't take the initiative to give him economic power, otherwise your position in his mind will be lower and lower, and he won't care about you.
Second, commitment
Some people, once they fall in love with someone, will make many promises to each other, all of which are in your future plans.
But in this era of fast food love, not everyone can accompany you for a lifetime. Most people can only walk with you for a while. Maybe you want to be with him all your life, but his heart is not necessarily the same as yours.
If you say yes easily, he will probably think he has a crush on you. He would have cared about you and contacted you on his own initiative. When he finds out that you have confirmed him, then he will not take the initiative to give love, let alone be good to you.
Even if you really love him, even if you are kind to him, it is useless. In love, it makes sense for two people to go in two directions. If only you take the initiative to pay, this love will become cheap. So, don't make any promises to each other in the future.
Three. Principles and bottom line
"If you love someone, you will humble yourself to the dust and then bloom." In feelings, Zhang Ailing really loves you lowly. She likes Hu Lancheng and would rather lower her bottom line. He betrayed Zhang Ailing, and she sent him living expenses.
However, love is humble, but it can't get the response from the other side. Even if you are kind to him, he will not warm you, let alone be kind to you.
Remember, even if you love someone again, don't lower your bottom line and principles for him, otherwise he won't care more about you.
Love should be equal. Only when two people respect each other and are evenly matched can this love last forever. If you always take the initiative to lower your bottom line, it will only appear "cheap".
If you want to keep a love fresh, you must take the initiative in love. Blindly please each other, will not be cherished by each other.
In a relationship, don't give money, promise or lower your bottom line.
Feelings, it is heart for heart, if he perfunctory you, then leave him, if he really treats you, together.