"When you enter an environment, you will involuntarily use the standards of this environment to demand yourself. So, do you know how sad a scum, especially a scum without any bright spots? "
"The only thing they used to be better than other students was their good academic performance. After they went to college, they found that their only advantage was gone, so they were depressed. "
Recently, the word "scum" has become a hot word on the Internet, which is caused by a question in Zhihu: "What is the experience of being a scum in Tsinghua?". Students or graduates from famous universities such as Tsinghua, Peking University, and National People's Congress responded in succession, telling their own "history of blood and tears", and the most popular answer was more than 6,000 "likes".
While the onlookers are feeling that "the pressure of studying in prestigious schools is really great", there is also a question: Anyone who can be admitted to the top prestigious schools in China must have a high IQ. How can he be crushed into slag?
Walking with top student, you will be at the bottom if you are not careful.
If there is any trouble and bitterness in entering a prestigious school, then too much top student is one of them. These scholars not only study well, but also have high reputation, well-off, versatile and broad vision. The point is that they are still diligent. With such people, a little slack will be crushed into slag.
Zhang used to be a top student in high school, but when she was admitted to the prestigious school of her dreams with proud results, she found herself a frog in the well.
In order not to fall behind, she has never slacked off in these four years. Because her major is a small language, she has to recite words, practice oral English, sharpen her listening and read books every day. Among all the famous liberal arts colleges, Foreign Languages College is famous for its courses. Like all the students in the same school, she studies for several hours after class every day.
"Learning a foreign language is hard work, there is no shortcut, you can only strive for learning time. You can't stop your daily study. Once you stop, you have no sense of language, and you forget what you have recited. " At the end of each semester, the class is more nervous. Outside the school, there are all-night study rooms, dormitories, McDonald's and cafes ... Zhang's classmates are everywhere. In that half month, she "brushed the night" with her classmates and never slept before two in the morning.
Even so, Reng Zhang feels like a student.
"My grades can only be kept at a medium level." Zhang said that for foreign language majors, credit is an important indicator when they go abroad for further study in the future. However, the school requires only 30% students in each class to get 90 points, which further intensifies the competition in the class. Zhang Dongyi got very little at 90 points.
After four years, Zhang * * (out of 4.0) scored about 3.4, which is not unspeakable for other majors, but it is the bottom line for her and her classmates to apply for going abroad.
"The most terrible thing is that when everyone is doing all kinds of things they want to do, I have been living in a world of fractional theory." Zhang * * said that she has never had a good time in recent years, and her academic performance is like a tight hoop, which makes her unable to relax for a moment. Every time I want to have a rest, I wonder if someone is still studying.
Then will you stop fighting so hard? "No" Zhang * * replied that she has been pushed by this group of "computer-obsessed" students, and she will be at the bottom if she slackens a little. What she regrets most is that she studied hard for four years, neither fully enjoying college life nor getting good grades.
Anxiety and depression are the same experiences of graduates from famous schools.
"When scum is not terrible. The terrible thing is that you find that you have nothing outstanding, even the only advantage-studying well, is gone. " This reply tells the feelings of many college students who are under great pressure at the top of the ivory tower.
Guo *, who had excellent academic performance since childhood, was admitted to Tsinghua University a few years ago. However, he didn't make it to graduation.
When he entered school, like most freshmen, he was full of enthusiasm and longing, bearing the aura of a prestigious school and wearing the title of ranking the top in the province in the college entrance examination. He didn't slack off after he went to college. He is as strict with himself as he was in high school, attending classes, studying by himself and participating in student activities according to his own plan every day. At that time, he was also elected as the study committee member of the class.
Calculus 55, line generation 60. He didn't expect to fail the first exam in his life so soon.
"What the hell happened?" Guo * asked himself again and again that he had studied hard, but it was still the case at the end of the first semester. This result of not following the script is really unacceptable to him. Tsinghua didn't make up for the exam, so he had to make up for it next school year. The difference is that at that time, he was listening to classes with his younger brothers and sisters.
Probably from then on, Guo * couldn't concentrate on his studies. "It's not that I don't want to attend class, but that I can't." He is very worried that he will fail this course, but he can't miss any part of this course. Anxiety, unable to attend class, unable to study, more anxious ... Guo * thus entered an infinite loop.
Guo * began to be afraid to meet his parents, but under his careful "cover-up", his parents didn't realize that his son's mental state was different from before. "I have undertaken their dream for more than ten years, and I can't break this dream in front of them." Therefore, although he is burdened with more and more psychological burdens, he still pretends to study in class as easily as others.
In the last semester of junior year, Guo * had failed in three subjects. According to the regulations of the school, he will be expelled from the school. However, it makes Guo * more and more clear that he must leave here if he wants to get out of this mood.
Decided to leave, Guo * relaxed a lot. With the help of the school psychological counseling teacher, he gradually adjusted his mentality. After dropping out of school, Guo * transferred to a college in the United States to study as a sophomore. Prior to this, his average score in school was less than 70 points, and his credit score in the United States this semester was 3.92, which was among the best.
The depression and anxiety experienced by Guo Lei is almost the experience of all famous students. Some people admit that they are "anxious every day" because "when they enter an environment, they will involuntarily demand themselves by the standards of this environment. So, do you know how pathetic a scum is, especially a scum without any bright spots? " Moreover, these students who were admitted to famous schools were once so proud.
Scum, or a kind of self-mockery.
As a graduate of a famous school, maybe not all of them are sad. In Zhihu's numerous answers, many of them joked about their graduate status. Although he claims to be a graduate, he does not hide his achievements in other fields.
Merry graduated from Peking University and now works as an opera singer in a famous British theater. He said that four years of academic life made him achieve today's achievements.
Merry said that the uniqueness of the alma mater lies in "freedom of thought and tolerance", and the grade point of study is not the only evaluation criterion. Everyone in school likes to do something. "If you can take one thing to the extreme, you are awesome, whether it is idle or not."
Although she is a "scum", Merry feels that she enjoyed her four years in college because she spent most of her time doing what she likes.
"I often practice my voice alone in the piano room at night, and spend an hour every week after school to go to the art college for vocal lessons; I found a group of bosom friends. In the evening, everyone went to the stone boat by the lake and sang one song after another to the reflection of the moon and the tower in the lake. The so-called youthful feelings are probably just that. " Merry said.
Although her grades were not good and her major was far from her own interests, Merry found her tenor specialty. In the end, he embarked on a "point of no return" for a opera singer, and his friends and classmates around him always supported, encouraged and even appreciated him. I am really lucky to find the direction and ideal that really suits me and work hard for it.
Liu Jia, secretary of the Youth League Committee of the School of Journalism of China Renmin University, said in an interview that the "scum" of some famous schools did not adjust their living and learning conditions, resulting in poor academic performance; Some of them are actually excellent. They call themselves "scum" more of a self-mockery.
Liu Jia said that many students didn't spend too much energy on their studies after they went to college, so their grades were not so top-notch. This is a very common phenomenon.
"The academic performance is average, but the achievements in other directions and fields are equally worthy of recognition. I didn't gain anything during the whole university period. This is the real scum. " Liu Jia said.
However, in the campus environment that advocates all-round development, many students are also caught in the dilemma of not finding their way. A classmate of Peking University said, "The value orientation of Peking University is always rich. We are scum, but we are not lazy or indulgent, but we don't know what is worth doing and learning. Of course, we really didn't try very hard to explore. "
What makes them scum?
What caused these former top student to become dregs or even collapse?
Teacher Sun, who has been a student in a top university for many years, said that the objective reason for the phenomenon of school residue in famous universities is that students have different professional foundations when they enter school. "A considerable number of our students come from competitions and are students with professional foundations; There are also some students who have no foundation and passed the college entrance examination, as well as national defense students. "
This objective background leads some people to have a good foundation and good natural grades, while others have no foundation. "Even some students are catching up in college for four years. For them, the study pressure is really great. " Teacher Sun said.
Another reason for school failure is psychological factors. Teacher Sun pointed out that many students in this school are top students in high schools. They have no other interests and specialties except study, and there is no other way to gain self-identity except grades.
"The only thing they may be better than other students is their good academic performance. After they go to college, they find that their only advantage is gone, so they will feel depressed. Of course, many students will also slowly find interest and development direction in college life. " Teacher Sun said.
Liu Jia said, prestigious schools are fiercely competitive. Even if we used to be "top students", we always have to rank first, and the students behind us will also have a psychological gap. Once they can't adjust in time, they will become more and more depressed.
A psychological counselor who treated the "school scum" of a famous school analyzed that some students have always been accustomed to the way of seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages, and must satisfy their parents and people around them and get praise and rewards. After a long time, you will become unaccustomed to asking for help from others and often hide your negative emotions. This eventually leads to the inability to communicate effectively with yourself and others and anxiety.
A middle school teacher felt deeply after reading some answers from Zhihu. He said that primary and secondary education and parents should also pay attention to the phenomenon of "learning dregs", and stop taking "getting into a prestigious school" as the sole goal and training children who can only learn, do problems and take exams. What's the point if they go through all the hardships to send their children to a prestigious school but become scum or even drop out of school?