The characteristics of "cold violence" make us deeply feel that it is not a physical conflict, but a spiritual destruction. It's really hard to say Everyone has this feeling to some extent, and they will have this experience when they have conflicts with their parents. It's better to quarrel with you and calm yourself down than to coax you into getting better. That's true, but after the child is so "left out", it will probably be even more uncomfortable. He won't understand what a good way to deal with it. All he knows is that his parents left him alone. I've never been hurt like this myself anyway. My parents usually quarrel when they have something to discuss.
When studying, there will always be small groups in the school. Everyone has a nodding acquaintance and a best friend. With intimate friends, there are naturally groups. The simplest way to get together is probably in the dormitory, where six people stay in bed together, eat together, and sometimes even skip classes together. But people always have a temper, and living habits are difficult to reconcile. Just like I have a serious cleanliness addiction, I have to wipe the table before eating, and I like to bring my own tableware when I go to the cafeteria to eat, and I don't like to see the garbage littering in the dormitory. Some people may have habits I don't like, and it happens that that person is in my dormitory. At this time, the "world war" can break out.
If the people in the dormitory are people who are contrary to my habits, and I am not angry that I am always cleaning alone, then the consequence will be that I am "cold-violently" by the group, squeezed out and looked at everywhere, which will make people unhappy. As long as a person finds this person annoying, everything he does is annoying. However, you should be thankful that we are all ordinary people. Even if we have some personal habits, as long as you know how to find fault with yourself, know a little tolerance and make things clear, at least you can survive your student days.
How to avoid cold violence in universities? Let's get back to the point. Cold violence in universities will be more adult, but the only constant contradiction lies in the dormitory. After all, if you don't look up, you will feel uncomfortable after eating a thick takeaway today. The most terrible thing about cold violence is that it spreads from dormitory to class. In the end, most people have opinions about you.
1. Therefore, when the university just checked into the dormitory, try to restrain its small temper and different habits from others. Learn to observe other people's habits, you can't accept it. If you have any problems, he will frown when he sees them. These are easy to distinguish. Don't think you are too good. This mentality will make you encounter a "snowstorm".
2. After observation, you should compare whether your own problems can be corrected, or whether other people's behavior will make you more dissatisfied with him. Sometimes contradictions break out in small things in daily life, and the premise of the outbreak is small frictions that you don't usually care about.
3. Also, you should know how to find a better partner in the dormitory. Life and rest are similar, which will give you more topics to talk about. In this way, you can largely avoid the possibility of being left out.
4. Be a positive person. Several people in the dormitory always want to go out to watch movies and eat together. If there is nothing important, try to participate. Sometimes I feel very clearly that it may be just a meal, and several of us seem to have communicated with each other and become tacit and have a topic to talk about.
These are just a few suggestions. Sometimes you have to admit that there are many ordinary people and many beautiful things in this world. Most people just need to control their temper and be considerate of others. In fact, the relationship at this age is still very easy to handle, because there is no intertwined interests, and it is simply to see if they get along. A small number of people may be more wonderful. How wonderful? For example, I like to throw cold water on others when they say happy things, which is nothing. People are showing a "green face", and he still doesn't know how to stop. Probably no educated person can stand it.
For such a similar exotic flower, you talk about it, you are angry with it, you are annoyed with it, so you run when you see us. At this time, will you say that this is not "cold violence"? However, this is another way of cold violence, driven crazy by living! If there are people who are left out in the dormitory, there are probably the situations I mentioned above. To sum up, I'm self-centered, I don't look at other people's faces, I'm naive (I like to compare with others in college), I'm too straightforward to speak, and I don't know how to ease it.
I prefer to believe that the "cold violence" imposed in universities is a kind of forced "escape" to people who are not quite like us. This is also a helpless move. So in college, there are frictions to be solved and happiness to be shared in the dormitory, which is hard to justify. Only by letting others know your goodness can they have reasonable reasons to tolerate your differences.