As a contemporary college student, I think it is necessary to make friends. We should have good interpersonal relationships and pay attention to the emotional fit. Generally speaking, people always like people who like themselves and have a good impression on people who really evaluate themselves. Once you get someone's appreciation, love and praise, your self-esteem will be satisfied because of your praise, which will lead to psychological closeness and affection for this person, thus reducing mutual friction and interpersonal conflict, achieving emotional harmony and providing psychological conditions for good interpersonal communication. Praise others sincerely, and in turn others will have a good impression on you. Some people often pay too much attention to themselves and can't find the value of others. If you can observe carefully and pay more attention to others, you will find that everyone has something worthy of praise. Affirming and praising the advantages of others will bring benefits to yourself.

Generous and open-minded, learn to observe each other's psychology and be honest with each other. Our society is a pluralistic society, and the relationship between people is becoming more and more complicated. The complexity of society leads to the richness of personality, which inevitably leads to the intensification of contradictions among individuals. To maintain good interpersonal relationships with people around you, we must learn to seek common ground while reserving differences and have a generous and open-minded psychological quality. We must be considerate of others and be honest with each other. In life, we have misunderstandings with our classmates who live together day and night. When we are treated unfairly and not accepted by others, you will be anxious and irritable, which will definitely affect your study, life and social relations. What are we going to do, make a scene? Why don't you just break up These are not the best ways, they can only put themselves at a disadvantage in communication and affect future communication. On the contrary, if we are open-minded, we may be more calm, consider the problem from the other side's position, understand the feelings and feelings of others, misunderstandings and grievances will often disappear, and others will accept you happily. As the saying goes, "gather friends generously."

However, there is a "self-centered" communication tendency among college students today. Many people only emphasize that others should know, understand, accept and respect themselves, but neglect to understand and respect others equally; Only pay attention to the realization of their own goals, but ignore the interests and requirements of others, and so on. Under the control of this tendency, they often blindly communicate with their own temperament regardless of the occasion and the mood of the other party, leading to an embarrassing situation in communication. Imagine a person is at a low psychological level, but you announce your achievements in front of him. What will happen? ! Therefore, many times, we need to put ourselves in others' shoes. Only by caring for each other and exchanging sincerity for sincerity can we achieve spiritual communication and emotional harmony. Honesty and trustworthiness is the basic principle of being a man. In our college students' communication, if a friend cheats you, your self-esteem will be hurt and you may not be able to trust him as before. Similarly, we should treat others honestly and sincerely to gain their trust and understanding. It shows a person's self-esteem and inner sense of security and dignity, which can make people gain the trust of others in communication, and then attract people with the same excellent quality to their side, and establish a relaxed and happy social circle without pretending to be themselves.