In addition, this is also related to the policies and regulations of many countries. The policies of accompanying students in different countries are still quite different. Some countries, such as Britain and the United States, do not allow accompanying reading, which will also affect parents' decision to accompany reading. "Internationally, parents in China do not belong to the group with more accompanying students. There are many situations in which Korean parents are accompanied. " Sang Peng said.
It's not safe to be with foreign children.
"When the child in the next room cried, she felt distressed for her parents and was glad that she had gone abroad with her children." Xiao Ru (a pseudonym), a staff member of a study abroad institution in Shanghai, told a friend about Ms. Peng's transnational accompanying reading experience.
Last year, Ms. Xiao Rubang Peng 12-year-old daughter applied for junior high school in Australia. Ms. Peng decided to give up her career and accompany her daughter to study abroad. "The little girl is really spoiled and grown up. Every morning, the nanny helps to dress and comb her hair, and her self-care ability is a bit poor. " Xiaoru said. As for accompanying her daughter to study abroad, Ms. Peng hardly hesitated. "She really loves children. At that time, she said that if it was a boy, she would be relieved. A girl always feels unsafe outside, and the child is still so young that she can only rest assured under my eyes. " Xiaoru relayed Ms. Peng's words at that time. The daughter also spoiled, "I will go if my mother goes." This strengthened Ms. Peng's idea of accompanying her.
Sang Peng believes that parents accompanying their children abroad can subjectively alleviate their worries about their children, which is an advantage of transnational accompanying reading.
She has almost no life of her own, and her children are her center. Xiaoru described Ms. Peng's accompanying life in Australia. Before going to Australia to accompany her, Ms. Peng ran a household goods store with her friends. Although she is not particularly busy, she is full. In order to accompany her, she gave up this career. "Her English is average and she has no friends in Australia. When my daughter goes to school, she goes online to see which friends can chat with her online. I don't think the child is lonely, she is very lonely, and her husband is also very lonely at home. " Xiaoru talked about her feelings as a bystander: "She has paid a lot, especially her parents are old. She is still an only child and can't take care of her. I hope that my daughter will understand that her mother has paid a lot for her in the future. "
Not conducive to the growth of children.
Parents are eager to love their children, but they often ignore that going abroad is to adapt their children to life abroad and achieve the purpose of exercising their children. "Like a nanny, taking care of everything in the child's life, the child's self-care ability is still very poor." Xiaoru felt that Ms. Peng's children didn't get the same exercise as the small international students who went out in batches. "There is a child who went abroad to study in the United States at about the same time as her. When she came back from the summer vacation, she obviously felt that her child had grown up. "
Unlike Ms. Peng's daughter, who asked her parents to accompany her, some older international students felt embarrassed about their parents' accompanying her. "My mother sometimes doesn't quite understand life abroad." Ding Ke (pseudonym) who came back from school felt a little helpless about "being accompanied". When I first went to Australia for college, my mother insisted on accompanying me, and she was quite happy. When she became familiar with local life, she began to dislike her mother's "too much discipline". "For example, if a local classmate party organizes an all-night dance, my mother won't let me go, and I will feel unsafe at night." Of course, face is also a big problem. "In the school of China students, my mother is too embarrassed to accompany me. My classmates laughed at me for not having a mother. " Because of her daughter's protest, Ding Ke's mother stayed with her for half a year and then returned to China.
"I don't think it is recommended to accompany students abroad." Sang Peng said that going abroad to accompany students is not only expensive, but also easy to cause children to rely too much on their parents and unable to integrate into the local environment, which objectively affects their independent growth. "