"Which young man doesn't love, which young woman doesn't love spring." College students in their prime must be full of romantic fantasies and longings for their feelings. With the change of people's social concept and lifestyle, the problem of love has penetrated into all aspects of college students' study, life, attitude towards life and ideals. The maturity of adolescent sexual function and the awakening of sexual consciousness have caused subtle psychological changes of college students. In this small society where 65,438+08-23 young people gather, the phenomenon of college students' love has changed from hiding half their faces in front of us with their guitars on their backs to openly wandering in love, which has become a real problem on campus.
After college students crowded across the single-plank bridge, their study pressure was relieved, and they had more leisure time after school to cope with a brand-new and colorful college life. After a short period of novelty and curiosity, a long homesickness will haunt you. In addition, most college students in China are only children, and the potential for independent living is relatively weakened. People have little experience in life, so it is difficult to adapt to the double pressures of study and life for a while. Once the purpose of learning is not clear, it will inevitably lead to emptiness and boredom. Look at the seniors around you, and feelings will attract these empty college students with unique temptation.
Whether college students' love outweighs the disadvantages or the disadvantages outweigh the advantages has always been a matter of opinion. People who hold the view of approval say that college students can care and love each other in their lives when they fall in love; Promote each other spiritually, comfort each other and relieve homesickness; Encourage each other in their studies, improve together, and promote the self-motivation of both sides. From the sociological point of view, there is no harm in college students falling in love, and allowing college students to fall in love at school can avoid the increase of unmarried older women at high levels in society; From a medical point of view, once a female student who falls in love at school enters the society, it is the physical maturity of women in age, and marriage and childbirth are beneficial to both individuals and society. Those who disagree believe that college students fall in love during school, on the one hand, they enter the world of two people too early, and their energy is too scattered, which is not conducive to the cultivation of self-motivation and will seriously affect their studies; Secondly, it is often difficult for college students to grasp the accuracy and moderation because of many contradictions and great setbacks in the process of love. Although college students are physically mature, their psychological development is unbalanced, their mood fluctuates greatly, and they are easy to get emotional. Once you are lovelorn, if you can't get reasonable emotional counseling, the consequences will be unimaginable. Thirdly, college students in love have a strong tendency in interpersonal communication, often alienating their original partners or even the masses, which leads to the estrangement between classmates and affects unity. The sense of responsibility for the masses has also been replaced by the affair between men and women, which is not conducive to the personal shaping and growth of the protagonist and the development of the masses. The employment trend is also a sensitive issue that has always plagued college students in love, although it is said verbally that "I only care about signing after breaking up."
I once had it, but I don't care about eternity. But when I fly to the west and the east, will it be over as soon as I graduate?
To sum up, we think that college students' love still does more harm than good. Psychologists abroad have proved that 20-24 years old is the best age to study in one's life. The years after graduation of Chinese college students are not only the heyday of their intellectual development, but also the key moment to lay the foundation for their future career. Three or four years of college life is short and precious. Young college students should not spend their prime time in love, but should strive to become talents. When they succeed, there are many flowers in the world.