How to treat college students' love? Nowadays, young people are more open-minded, and it is not surprising that they fall in love in college. However, there are also many people who go astray because of love, so only by facing love correctly can they grow and progress. So what are the problems in college students' love? Let's have a look.
How to treat college students' love? 1 the benefits of college love.
Become confident
Sweet love makes college lovers extremely proud in front of lonely classmates. Especially sleeping in the dormitory, they can explain things in simple terms and integrate theory with practice, which makes roommates deeply admire.
Life enrichment
Fighting landlords with tractors is no longer an amateur activity for enthusiasts. Couples don't have to carry heavy schoolbags and rush into the library alone. They have a rich campus life.
Saving resources
College students can spend a long love affair with the least money, such as walking around campus hand in hand and being happy without spending a penny.
Diligence and honesty
When college students fall in love, they will become hardworking, like washing clothes and washing their hair, and pay attention to five things and four beauties. You don't have to go to great lengths to choose which one of several dirty clothes. Boys, in particular, are willing to be bicycle drivers for girls.
Efficient learning
College students enjoy love resources and complement each other's advantages, and will not burn the midnight oil to pass CET-4 or CET-6. But at least half of the achievements are due to her (him) who occupies a seat as scheduled every night.
Work-study (as a way of receiving education)
The desire for money makes college students' lovers develop the style of hard struggle. When they invite her (him) to dinner, they can confidently say, "I earned this money myself."
The disadvantages of falling in love in college
Love affects students' grades.
Many college couples spend a lot of time together, such as watching movies, shopping and eating together, so the study time is relatively squeezed, which will affect their academic performance.
Can't deal with lovelorn correctly
Because of their immaturity, many things of college students are spontaneous, including love. Therefore, when they are lovelorn, they will choose some extreme ways to hurt themselves or each other, resulting in a lifetime tragedy or affecting mate selection.
The success rate of college students' love is low
There is a big gap between the school environment and the social environment. At school, your other half may come from another city and have different choices for the future after graduation, so the success rate of college students' love is very low.
How should college students fall in love rationally?
Find out why you are in love.
Relieve loneliness; Hope to get attention and recognition; Lack of parental love transmission; Senior year, it is not normal not to fall in love; Group pressure, conformity psychology; Good for the opposite sex; From some kind of compensation ... if you start from the above psychology, then you'd better not worry too much; There are many motives behind a banner of love, not entirely from love itself. Have you analyzed it? Love is the most important issue of youth, which will have an impact on your life. It's not worth talking about it at the absurd risk.
Have you matured your character?
Love is a kind of interpersonal relationship, the closest interpersonal relationship; Love is your whole personality state facing another personality state. The success of love is related to personality status. Excessive self-centeredness, disregard for other people's feelings, strong vanity and inner insecurity are all enemies of a healthy personality. When your personality is mature, it will be very smooth to enter love, because mature people know their feelings and those of others, and mature people can confidently grasp the boat of love.
Do you have any misunderstanding about love?
If you have the following ideas, you'd better think calmly by yourself.
Love is all I have! Love can change everything! You love me, you should give me everything! True love only comes once! At the sight of each other's shortcomings, love disappears! Conflict in love is a bad thing! There are many similar views.
Have you considered the factors related to love?
Love and study, love and family, love and material foundation, love and sex, love and marriage, love and children, love and friendship, etc. They are all contradictions in love, and they will be challenged in the process of love. Only when they are handled well can they have a better relationship. If you don't know what to do when you see these problems, stop talking and grow up quickly!
How to treat college students' love? Contemporary people are more open-minded, and there is nothing wrong with college students falling in love. However, the love problem of contemporary college students still exists. Today, I will look at the problems existing in contemporary college students' love and learn the solutions. Let's take a look at my sharing with college students in love!
Love is giving, not taking.
Now college students' love view is more pragmatic and conscious. They always consider what they can get from each other in the process of love, but seldom consider what they can do for each other. This will lead to their dissatisfaction with their lovers in the process of love, and even seriously hurt each other. Therefore, college students should establish a correct view of love. Love means dedication and more attention to each other, thus building a harmonious love relationship.
Economically, do what you can.
During their college years, college students can't be financially independent, so they have to rely on their families to provide living and study expenses. However, when they fall in love, there must be some consumption, which requires two people to do what they can. During the period of love, the economic expenditure should not exceed the range that both parties can bear, otherwise it will affect the study and life. If the family conditions are not good, it will also bring economic burden to both families. This is a problem that college students in love must attach great importance to.
Love can't affect normal study.
Although college students can fall in love, their main task is to study without affecting their studies. Love should promote both sides to study harder, so as to lay the foundation for a better future, instead of delaying study because of love, and drawing water with a sieve in the end.
Feelings must be single-minded
We must straighten out the relationship between love and friendship. Because college students are young and immature, they are easily influenced by the surrounding environment and people, which leads to emotional instability between lovers and produces bad thoughts of fickleness and disloyalty. Talking to this one does not forget to be ambiguous with that one, which leads to the situation that affects the relationship between classmates. This is against the principle. The relationship between lovers must not be confused with the relationship between friends of the opposite sex, and it must not be vague at all, otherwise it will cause many bad consequences. Therefore, during the period of love, we must ensure the single-mindedness of our feelings and remember not to be half-hearted, otherwise we may pay the price for it.
Stand up when the other person needs it.
As both sides of love, besides parents, lovers should be the closest people. Therefore, we should understand each other, care about each other and be each other's strong backing. No matter what difficulties and problems you encounter, you should be able to stand up for each other, solve problems for each other and protect your lover. The most taboo between lovers is that you are not around when you are most needed. This situation hurts the feelings of lovers the most.
It is strictly forbidden to rent a house outside the school.
Now there is an atmosphere among college students, that is, after a period of love, they rent a house outside the school and live a quasi-family life for two people. On the one hand, it increases the economic burden of both parties, on the other hand, it also delays their study. The complex off-campus environment poses a threat to the safety of both couples. Once something goes wrong, no one can afford the consequences. Therefore, during the period of love, lovers still have to live on campus to ensure a healthy living and learning environment.