When I was a child, I was not attentive in English class, and the teacher called the child stupid like a pig.
When children were young, teachers would punish students for plagiarism when they were disobedient in Chinese class.
Then, we all grew up. I thought those things when I was a child had disappeared in time like dust, but I didn't know that the facts gave me a heavy blow and we couldn't tell the difference between east, west, north and south.
Eva was fined for making a mistake and didn't finish writing it until the early hours of the morning. The next day, dad's move was "bold".
At 1 o'clock in the morning, my father got up to go to the toilet and saw that the light in the children's room was still on. He thought the child was asleep and forgot to turn off the light. When he opened the door, he found the child holding the pen askew, and then fell asleep at his desk.
The father carried the child to the bed and suddenly felt a sense of sadness in his heart.
He went to the child's desk and found that the child was not writing homework, but "copying". He has copied nearly 20 pages, and then he left the room silently.
The next morning, the father pulled his son to the desk and asked why. Only then did he know that the child made a mistake in class and was fined by the teacher for copying the contents of the book, a total of 22 pages.
My father flew into a rage at the thought of copying children who stayed up late. Is this treatment too mechanical and heartless?
So, the father tore up the children's textbooks in a rage, took photos and put them online to communicate with the school teachers.
The teacher said that the quantity would be reduced appropriately in the future, but this time it must be made up truthfully. So the angry father helped the children deal with things that ordinary parents could not do.
In the past two years, I found that the relationship between teachers and parents is divided into three extremes:
The first type: parents are extremely flattering to teachers.
The first one is very common to us. In the class group, the teacher comments on the children as well as their parents. When the teacher sent a message, the parents were extremely nervous and quickly replied "received".
The teacher sends a little news about the children's daily life in the group, and the parents will present flowers and praise them: "The teacher has worked hard!"
If the teacher criticizes a child in the group, the parents of other families will agree to help and count the children's mistakes.
Who is not tired of dealing with this unequal relationship?
The second type: parents and teachers are highly opposed.
A while ago, the voice of "What happened when I quit my parents" spread all over the country and even attracted the attention of the central government.
In it, my father expressed his extreme dissatisfaction: "I want to quit my parents." What happened? I teach things, I correct them, I change them. What do I need your teacher to do? "
Expressing your bitterness and dissatisfaction in an open way once strained the relationship.
The third type: parents ignore the teacher's words.
My friend is a primary school teacher. After ten years of teaching, she has met countless parents, and one of them really gives the teacher a headache, that is, parents who ignore everything about their children.
They never finish the parent-child reading arranged by the teacher.
They never attend the parents' forum at school.
They have never met their children's teacher.
Once a child was late for self-study for a week in a row and finally met his parents. The teacher said seriously, "It is very important to learn early. Please ask parents to urge their children to go to school on time! "
The parents replied, "Is this my child or your child? Just take care of the textbooks. You can take care of my son's early study! Have nothing to do when you are full? " This makes my classmates very angry.
The world is big, and there is no wonder. Have you seen all three kinds of parents?
Parents are children's first teachers, and many times, parents are children's teachers. Therefore, parents are the most respectable teachers in the world and can understand the existence of teachers best.
1) Respect teachers. There are more teachers with conscience in the world.
In this world, no matter how much news exposes shortcomings and deficiencies, parents should also believe that the vast majority of teachers in the world are still excellent and noble.
We should trust and understand teachers, and don't be too harsh and critical of them, so as to establish a correct relationship.
2) What the teacher said may not be completely correct, so parents should make rational judgments.
When teachers criticize children and punish them, parents can't blindly cater to their opinions and judgments.
. It is necessary to fully understand the facts, communicate with children in depth, sort out the facts and respond rationally. Only in this way can we fully protect children's growth and treat teachers correctly.
The world is a magical place. Many times, what we see is just the tip of the iceberg, not the whole event.
So the wise way to deal with things is to deal with things dialectically and think in two. So you won't be paranoid about one side.
When dealing with the relationship with teachers, we should not only respect and understand the teachers, but also communicate and communicate deeply, see clearly the teachers' character and ability, and then make comprehensive evaluation and rational judgment. It is necessary to help children create a good learning environment and let them grow up healthily and happily.