The official answer to loneliness is an unsatisfied emotion caused by the lack of psychological dependence, which is the embodiment of loneliness in the mental state. Psychologically speaking, human beings are gregarious animals and have a strong affection for a group, which in turn leads to a strong dependence. When a person is rejected by others, he will be dissatisfied because he can't get psychological dependence. This urgent satisfaction is the embodiment of loneliness. So today, let's take a look at us who just went to college and felt lonely at school. What should we do?

1. Adjust your mentality and have a correct understanding.

Many people will mistake loneliness for "unsociable" and "unsociable", and some even think that "loneliness is a shameful thing", but it is not. We should know that loneliness is the normal state of our life, and we should accept the existence of loneliness psychologically. Someone once said: the carnival of a group of people is not as good as the carnival of one person. Looking at the successful people in the society, few people are "calling friends" and "super gregarious" in character, and most of them are "marginal people". After all, it takes time to "fit in", even if it is against one's will. Therefore, being unsociable or lonely is not a shortcoming, but a person's "Excellence".

2. Learning makes me happy. Learning allows me to break through the ups and downs, enjoy loneliness and be an upward loner.

Speaking of learning, I wonder what the subject has planned for his future. Is it graduate school? Still studying abroad? Or direct employment. Really, believe me, participating in so-called social activities will not help these three roads much. Some people will say that I know many people and have a wide network of contacts. But what does this have to do with yourself? Don't think that the friends you make will help you waiting for help one day, because the premise of maintaining interpersonal relationships is actually the balance of grades. No one will help you if you are not strong. The ancients said that people are poor. Family ties are the same, not to mention these so-called nodding acquaintances?

The third step is to find a group that suits you.

You must try to join a lonely group that can support each other. If you can't find such a small group, you can try to organize one yourself. For example, try to create a douban group to get lonely people together and share their problems. You can also try taking classes in community groups or interest classes. People need to strengthen and maintain existing social relations at all times. People also need to establish new contacts. However, you must make sure to improve your existing social relations. In this way, we can easily overcome loneliness. We should try to call friends or family that we haven't contacted for a while.