Let's briefly introduce the background. Sleeping four, roommate A, a rural background in a southern province, BC, a native of Beijing, whose family conditions are not rich second generation, but both parents are enlightened wage earners and middle-class family members have received higher education.
Just met, four people don't know each other at all, plus military training, there is no difference in dress. Personally, I really didn't see any obvious difference in family conditions at first. When I recognized the monitor of military training, I was in charge of the dormitory where military training lived. Out of selfishness, I divided the four of us together. Hey, hey, hey, I thought we would be roommates in the future. It's good to get to know each other early.
But A didn't play with us at first, and didn't take it to heart. Later, I thought about something and didn't want to elaborate. For example, the Dormitory Culture Festival started with a dormitory program, and B's dancing skills were particularly strong, so I tried to arrange a dance for us. C and I have no dance foundation at all, but we feel quite happy. ) B teaches very hard, and we are also interested in learning. Then A suddenly felt that he couldn't learn any more, and his face was full of tears, and he was in a negative mood (B was a dance). There was absolutely no compulsion or fierceness in the process of teaching, which was taught by a gentle old aunt), and then B might be a little panicked and apologize crazily. C and I can't stand it. After all, we have no foundation in dancing, and it is impossible to take care of everyone. B it's hard work, no problem. I don't think she should apologize for A crying. At that time, I was not angry because of my roommate's face. I enlightened A, and finally my mood calmed down and I didn't hurt my spirit. But in the end, the dance became the three of us, and she was the first one behind, clapping.
After the dormitory was renovated, we paid for it, and the three of us silently took care of her. A lot of money was not shared with her. Then we do our part, and the three of us pull the bed, paint the wall and paste the wallpaper together. Tired, sleepy and dirty, but it's really fun to do these new things together. We are embarrassed to ask her for anything. She never took the initiative to participate in the bedroom decoration, not once (later she said she wouldn't do it, but it wasn't the first time). I didn't say a word about it, nor did I refute it.
Later, the dormitory was renovated because of its high value, hahaha, she participated in the final. She didn't go, didn't participate, didn't even go to the scene to watch, and stayed in the dormitory until we came back. I played the piano that day, B danced and C sang. With Jay's small performance "Confession Balloon", he won the championship unexpectedly. First prize. The bonus of 300 yuan will be shared equally among the four of us, even if she doesn't contribute.
But when she talked to the counselor, she said that we often vilified her when chatting in the dormitory. ), make her feel inferior. Then the relationship broke down (we were found behind our backs), and now she doesn't talk at all in the dormitory. She openly talked to the counselor about changing the dormitory, but she refused.
In short, he fiercely refused to help, but he could not see self-improvement. Talking about topics that have nothing to do with her is considered to be aimed at her. (Why, I still don't know what is good for her ())
The three of us are not spendthrift playboys. We usually have cheap ones, not expensive ones. Eating hot pot will hurt meat, and you should save money silently for things you like. And to be fair, chatting in the dormitory usually involves nothing more than lipstick, cosmetics and clothes. No one can afford luxury bags and lipsticks, and ordinary female college students who don't spend impulsively will occasionally stink when they go to college.
In fact, A's living and economic ability is not much worse than ours. She receives a monthly subsidy of 1000 yuan. At the same time, because of poverty, the school can get money from the idle office work of work-study program, and the school will waive her book fee. She usually snacks a lot, eats nuts and three squirrels, and has more schoolbags and shoes than me. Although Taobao is of good quality, she often gets new clothes, and so do her clothes.
BC accepted my help frankly, including finishing pronunciation homework. A chose to reject me directly (mutual help between friends is definitely not charity, but mutual help. After all, I was so hot at math, and I wanted to find a thigh hug.
Right or wrong, I won't talk about grievances here. It's ironic just to see her The significance of enriching children is not necessarily to give them the best material enjoyment, but more to cultivate their inner self-confidence.
A heartfelt self-confidence, not a fragile lofty and closed. I have read a sentence before, that is, I have no ability to talk about dignity. That is not dignity, but hypocritical fragility. Besides, the three of us are very popular outside, and we are not bullies or troublemakers (if so, we would have turned against each other, especially B, a good man of an epic little girl).
We are all human beings, we will be angry and wronged, but we will not distort our hearts. But seeing that she was completely closed to herself, had no friends and no one to talk to in the dormitory, I felt a little sympathy.
(P.S. can't catch up with C. Well, there's nothing bright. ) Maybe it's because of her childhood environment that she didn't have self-confidence and didn't give her the motivation to work hard. But when I come here, no one really has the obligation to care for the weak everywhere. Besides, there are some people who are worse than her, and many of them have a good relationship with the three of us, which is positive and admirable.
Dad said: I have money because I won't be shaken by the kindness of others in the future. Girls should be more atmospheric. I am glad that I have such parents, so that even in the face of slander, I still feel confident enough to live a happy life without changing color. Even in the face of people with better economic conditions than myself, I can maintain an envious but not jealous attitude, knowing that I have never been worse than others in character, and I will not pretend to be lofty and arrogant and end up in a depressed situation. We are all adults, there is no need to blame ourselves for being inferior to others in material matters, and we have the ability to share our redundant material needs (I teach English in the attached middle school, and I find my way with B shares and C bands). The way to get rich is not the amount of deposits. Parents have taught the next generation not to be poor at any time and to have wrong views. I was lucky to meet her. I can always remind myself that the material may not be as good as people, but the spirit cannot be barren. No matter what kind of people I get along with, I don't want to lose my spirit.
If you can't afford luxury goods, just buy a book and watch the Red Mansion in the subway. I'm sure people around you won't think this style will be inferior to holding Hermes.