First of all, you should be clear about your duties and tasks as a monitor. As a monitor, you are chosen by your classmates to serve them and make your due contribution to making them have a better learning environment and living environment. Obviously, you are not their "parents", and you have the responsibility and right to influence or even interfere with their normal life and study. You can only help. If you cross this line, they will feel that you are not serving them, but "disciplining" them. This feeling is very bad. Now even teachers are afraid to "discipline". Similarly, as a student, you are not qualified to interfere with their behavior. Even if you think it will have a bad influence on their growth or study, it is their life. What you can do is to guide them gently. You should be equal to them. Don't trust your ability too much.
Second, there are some problems with your work style, especially the management of other class committees. As a general manager, a large part of your job is to build your team and lead them to manage your class well, not personal heroism. There are many problems between you now, which is a big communication problem. The so-called "enemy" is only the inevitable result of negligence or defect in your work. We should face them squarely, not just regard them as our opponents. We should consider the essence reflected by these superficial problems.
Third, let yourself better integrate into the team and feel their voices. In fact, as a student, I can feel the fatal problem of China's education system, which also leads to students' resistance to school management, class management and these "backward" education systems. These feelings of resistance are natural, but we should also understand them. Everyone has his own emotions and thoughts. The school itself is a place for learning and education, not a hell of being suppressed and "disciplined". In this case, if we still use the "backward" management system, it will not work. Furthermore, the executors of these management systems should be teachers themselves, not you.
For example, "Your class belongs to the senior class. Last Friday, according to tradition, it was 3 o'clock, and at 3: 45, everyone was ready to act. Naturally, the new class teacher is not clear. After coming to the classroom, he is going to release him at four o'clock. The students are disgusted. ...
In fact, from this issue, you should know that your position is often not on the side of your classmates. Of course, as a teacher, I think he will be very happy that you can do this, but you are not just the assistant of the class teacher. Remember that you are the monitor of Class One, and more often you should think of your classmates, not just forgive your teacher. In this matter, the so-called new office director, of course, needs to know the time of Friday's holiday, rather than what should be naturally unclear. It is normal for students to respond at 3: 45, but as a monitor, shouldn't they contact the class teacher to solve this problem? !
And you said, "If you don't snitch, it means I'm incompetent." I think always telling tales proves your incompetence. Do you know what this is about? Do you prove your ability by students violating discipline and making mistakes? What is your purpose as a monitor? It is to serve students. Students do have mistakes that need to be improved. You can remind them in time and guide them to correct. Even if you respond to the teacher, there is no need to name names unless you have to. Only through the overall education guidance, let the whole class supervise each other and make progress together, can this be regarded as the success of a class! In my image, gossiping is a "face-saving" thing that only primary school students do. Of course. The matter is serious, and under special circumstances, of course, special treatment is needed.
Of course, everyone can see your contribution, but what you want to give to your classmates is not what they want. You don't think truth is easy to be accepted by others.
So, now that you have realized the existence of the problem, you should change your mind. No matter what the result is, I believe that at least you will have a lot of growth in this process. Join the team and listen to other people's ideas. I think it will also help your life. And according to my experience, no matter how much they don't accept you now, when it's all over, they will still have a kind of admiration when they come back to see you as the monitor.
I have said so much because I miss my former monitor's work, and I also affirm your work attitude. It's just because of the problems of working methods and concepts that it's a bit "difficult to speak".
These are just some of my personal experiences and ideas, and you can discuss them when you have time. I wish you a happy life, smooth study, and smooth "career" of the monitor ~ Come on!
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