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"Don't let procrastination ruin you" explains what procrastination is in detail with the method of "case+theory", and provides us with various methods to prevent and fight procrastination with thorough and straightforward language, helping us to fight procrastination easily and regain a perfect life.

Author Li Shiqiang, a new author born in 1980s, is a gold medal coach in speech eloquence, a well-known trainer and a social expert. After decades of research, he has made great achievements in the fields of psychology such as human emotions and interpersonal communication.

First, the definition and classification of procrastination

1. Definition

Procrastination refers to an act of self-regulation failure by delaying what you plan to do in order to avoid difficulties when you know that it will have adverse consequences until it has adverse consequences.

classify

In Li Shiqiang's view, procrastination patients can be divided into four categories.

The first type is learning, which means that when learning, teachers always delay the completion of homework or tasks assigned by teachers. The teacher assigned an investigation report and asked it to be handed in a week later. Obviously, you can start working now, but you must wait until the last day.

The second is the type of work. The performance is that the boss never takes the initiative to finish the task after assigning it, and needs to be urged by the boss to hand in the work results slowly.

The third category is marriage and love. In the marriage, I dragged myself into the leftover men and women. In the end, you can only find someone to end your single life.

The last category is the family type. "The tree wants to be quiet, but the wind will not stop, and the son wants to raise it, but not kiss it", which is the greatest sorrow in life. Spend more time with your parents when you are free. Don't wait until your parents die to regret not spending more time with them.

Second, the causes and harm of procrastination

Scholars in different fields have always held different views on the causes of procrastination. Li Shiqiang is more inclined to the view of scholars in the field of psychology that procrastination is not innate, but because our acquired psychological changes form procrastination habits, which leads to procrastination. Procrastination will not help us solve the problem, nor will it make it disappear, and it may even make it worse.

Third, how to fight procrastination?

1. Clear objectives

Psychologists have come to the conclusion through a lot of research that if a person's behavior has a clear goal, and in the process of action, he can constantly compare his progress with the goal, so as to know the distance between his progress and the goal. Then this person's motivation for action will be maintained and strengthened, and he will try his best to overcome all difficulties and strive to achieve his goals.

One of the important reasons why people procrastinate is that they can't find the direction of their efforts. If we can't even see our future goals, how can we be motivated? Therefore, no matter what you do, you must first set yourself a big goal, and then break it down into many small goals that are easy to achieve, so that you have enough motivation to work hard and complete the task step by step.

take immediate action

As the saying goes, an inch of time is worth an inch of gold, and an inch of gold cannot buy an inch of time. Time is the most precious wealth in the world. Once it disappears, it will never come again. For people in the mall, time is life. Once you have a new idea, you should put it into action immediately. After a little delay, other businesses will make similar products first, and maybe months of hard work will be wasted.

Time is equally important to us ordinary people. Disrespect for time is a waste of life. Therefore, we should cherish time, act immediately when we have an idea or goal, and mark life efficiently. As Pavel Colta King, the hero of How Steel was Tempered, said, "A man's life should be spent like this: when he looks back, he will not regret wasting his time, nor will he be ashamed of doing nothing."

Give up perfection

Some people procrastinate not because they have no goals or want to avoid problems, but because they are perfectionists and won't start action until everything is ready.

For example, in Lincoln's time, there was a famous general in the Union Army named George brinton McClellan. He is high flyers of West Point Military Academy. He is a perfectionist with a rigorous and meticulous style. He always likes to make full preparations before acting. Because he was too demanding for perfection, he made many mistakes in commanding the northern army and was later dismissed. Lincoln also complained: "If General McClellan doesn't want to make good use of his own army, I'd rather lend them all to others."

It can be seen that the concept of "everything is ready before action" is sometimes not suitable for the battlefield with sudden changes. Bold and enterprising, improvising, is the proper performance on the battlefield. Perfectionism is often inappropriate under unpredictable circumstances, which is also an important psychological factor leading to procrastination. Giving up perfectionism, in many cases, completion is more important than perfection.

Summary:

1. procrastination will not help us solve the problem, nor will it make it disappear. Procrastination is just an escape, and even makes the problem worse.

2. Is procrastination congenital or acquired? It's actually the latter. I don't think there is anything inherent in procrastination.

We emphasize that we should act immediately and never delay, but this does not mean that we can do things blindly. In fact, if we do things without goals, we will delay more things, because we need to take time to re-examine our behaviors and methods.

4. Don't delay, improve execution, be more excited and act! Without action, nothing will happen, and even the experience of failure will not be obtained; Without action, even if the opportunity comes, it can only be missed in vain; Without action, even if luck comes, there is no consciousness.