How to cultivate a good attitude? Mentality is directly related to the level of emotions. To control emotions, a good attitude is the premise. The key to maintaining a good attitude is to lower your expectations of many things. Because high expectations not only invisibly increase the ideological burden on their own psychology, but also because high expectations are not easy to achieve. In the process of pursuing, you are repeatedly bruised, which will make you anxious, worried, unhappy, depressed and depressed for a long time. If you are in this state for a long time, a small accident will not cause your anger, make you furious, and will not make you overly excited, resulting in a "golden example." There are some "indigenous methods" that you might as well try, and there is absolutely no toxic side effect. 1. Keep a positive attitude and be optimistic about life. Think of everything in a good direction and fight for it. It snowed, and the pessimist said, "What bad luck! It's so cold that the road can't slide out." The first thing that comes to mind is three disadvantages. If the whole person is discouraged, how can he think of benefits? The optimist said, "Great! Xue Rui is a good omen. The vast land is really beautiful and the air is fresh. I recall the good times when I was playing in the snow as a child ... ",the first thing that comes to mind is three advantages, and I am in a good mood all day. Even if it is the best knife in the world, optimistic and positive people will say, "Let's go down, the price of metal raw materials will be reduced, and business will be good." Suppose two people cross the desert. Under normal circumstances, a glass of water can continuously cross the desert. Now both of them have spilled half a glass of water. The pessimist said, "That's it. I accidentally dropped half a glass of water. Damn me. Without direction and water, I have nothing. " I regretted it and ended up wasting half a glass of water in despair. The optimist said, "fortunately, I still have half a glass of water." I need to make a good plan. This desert is not big. I know the direction to come in. I can rely on the sun during the day and the moon at night to judge the direction. " Fight to the death should mobilize all my experience, knowledge and ability. It was originally planned that a glass of water could cross the desert, but the remaining half glass of water, after careful planning and reasonable distribution, is a bit bitter and difficult to drink, but there is still hope. "(Pay attention to the word" hope ". All conscious actions of human beings are based on "hope". No one in the world will make any effort for what he thinks is "hopeless". This is the most fundamental difference between a positive person and a pessimistic person. He took active actions, and as a result, he went through hardships and was reborn from the desert. The same half glass of water, the result is two days! A positive attitude is like a place where the sun shines; A negative attitude is like the moon, it only absorbs other people's light. Everything has two sides: yin and yang. A positive attitude will increase your strength, and a negative attitude will destroy your strength. 2. Lighten the blow. There are many bumps and numerous blows on the road to success. We should learn to lighten the blow and dispel the frustration of failure. The most effective way to solve the blow is to lower expectations. The most useful way to reduce or calm expectations is "Ah Q psychotherapy". In my blog post "Ah Q prevents depression? "Ah Q is Mr. Lu Xun" has a detailed introduction! "Ah Q prevents college students from committing suicide" and "Uneven pain is a typical symptom of depression!" And other articles, with skills and case studies, can be used for reference. 3. Relieve mental stress and avoid long-term psychological depression. Keep in touch with your friends often. When you encounter problems that you can't figure out, you can chat with friends and keep a diary. But you must find a way to get rid of the ideological burden. Don't have some alarmist ideas, avoid long-term psychological depression, don't isolate yourself and go to the team. Because when a person's psychology is too depressed for a long time, once there is a little blow or stimulation, it will directly lead to mental breakdown. 4. Divert your attention and learn to escape mentally. When you encounter problems or difficulties in your life, if you just can't find a solution for a while, there will be a turn for the better after a while, but don't be discouraged, pessimistic and depressed about things. At the same time, try to do something you like or easy to do, distract your attention, relieve mental fatigue, and give your mind and brain a proper rest time to adjust. Sometimes you can even adopt the ostrich policy first and bury yourself in other things, so that you can find a temporary mental escape and avoid facing the pressure head-on. 5. Self-suggestion. Remind yourself how much you have achieved in the past and what progress you have made now, and you will be better in the future; If you get what you want, give yourself more psychological hints of success and realize self-encouragement to keep the energy to continue fighting. 6. Learning and innovation. The existence of innovative ideology can not only promote the existence of various ways in work and life, but also prevent the self from falling into a dead end of thought and asking for trouble when facing suffering; Innovation will not only broaden your horizons, but also broaden your mind. To treat learning innovation, on the one hand, we gain more knowledge through learning, on the other hand, we actively think and explore, put forward new problems and new ideas, and then create. The process and result of innovation and creation bring people spiritual pleasure, enrichment, satisfaction and happiness that can not be given by any other process and result in life. 7. Cultivate hobbies, especially those related to your major and work. No matter what you do with your heart, it will bring satisfaction, honor and material gains to your career success. Doing what you like can make you feel happy, and the joy of success that follows can dilute the dissatisfaction in work and life. Don't let work and life be "besieged on all sides". 8. Sports. Exercise can not only keep fit, keep fit, but also make you live in harmony with nature or people and relieve mental stagnation. Patients with heart disease can choose some low-intensity exercise, such as brisk walking and Tai Ji Chuan. The ancients said, "live in harmony with your emotions and be at peace with your yin and yang", which is the motto of maintaining your heart. If you reach the state of wanting nothing, your thoughts will be free and unrestrained, you will be optimistic about life and your mood will be smooth. These are probably the same reason. Physiology and psychology interact. Man is the soul of the universe. Should we have the wisdom and ability to make wise choices, or should we choose a vicious circle of self-discipline? Or choose a virtuous circle of sunny ahead?