? Everyone is naturally inclined to "relax and hate work". Those "how to do" such as studying for postgraduate entrance examination ... are "required/imposed" by socialization/mainstream value culture/kidnapped by others ... in the process of growing up. In fact, we want to do what we like and are good at, not what we are asked to do. ? When there is a "conflict/contradiction" between our real inner desire and the "imposition" in reality, we become "anxious/confused/helpless/helpless ..." So, we seem to have lost our "master", that is, we feel that we are not free/have lost our freedom.

Two: Being forced to be depressed.

? Depression is natural when we are forced to do it, not from the heart? Even when you are forced to follow the "secular/rules/routines" (study, university, postgraduate entrance examination, etc.). ) those are "necessary", and as a result, it is naturally difficult to achieve the expectations you want? People often get twice the result with half the effort, and even "do the opposite" when forced rather than voluntary? The mood will naturally be low. ......

Three: "want to do" and "want to do", the latter always kills the former.

Going home after a holiday, the tense "string" in our hearts, that is, the pressure, is obviously in a relaxed state. At this time, we realized our true selves. When we are in a state of "infatuation with the authorities", we are often "bound" and "moving forward". If we don't do this, we will feel as if we have violated other people's expectations and wishes, and then fall into a situation of self-blame? What's more, they will "blame themselves ..." Over time, they will lose their true self. When there is a conflict between "wanting to do" and "wanting to do", anxiety arises. What I want to do is not done well, and I have no time/energy to do it. When they are in a dilemma for a long time, they will form inner self-conflict and contradictory anxiety. In the long run, they will gradually become unable to control our emotions.