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How to get in touch with MM further (time: start chasing) 1. The most important thing at this stage is not to worry, not to make things too clear, so that people can see at a glance that you are chasing others. Think about it. Most people don't like you at first sight, but they don't hate you at first sight. They are all children of ordinary people (unless you look like Chow Yun Fat, Andy Lau or kevin costner). Good feelings need to be realized through constant understanding, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want. Think about it from the girl's point of view: if you rush directly to have sex, the girl must be under psychological pressure. If I find that I don't like you after a while, it won't be a lie, will it? So if you come out resolutely from the beginning, you will basically be bored back immediately. 2. To start with a low profile, we must first position the relationship as "friends", which is originally "ordinary friends". You want to be a "good friend". A tasteful person can also ask the other person to become a "confidante" or something. In short, don't say "chasing you". Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then there is less chance for a girl to "refuse" you-how can you refuse if you don't chase her? ! This can relieve the psychological pressure of girls and let you have a smooth relationship. Don't fantasize about agreeing to marry you after three days. You should communicate fully and understand that feelings don't come out of thin air. 3, don't be too impatient in the communication process, relax, don't pester others all day, whoever does this to you will be tired. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing girls is eight words-"hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the crystallization of my classmates' efforts for many years). Staying with people all day, naturally you won't think you are good. If you are indifferent for a day or two, girls will remember the benefits of your existence. Also, don't take out the ambition of "you must marry". It is not good for the price to drop too low. Sometimes you can play a little trick. 4. Create opportunities appropriately. As I said before, don't do "you are chasing others" right away. You need to get a chance to get close to girls, so it depends on your creativity. You can collect information and find ways to turn waiting for rabbits into encounters; You can also pretend to be casual and find the best reason to invite someone to do something with you. In short, this is the most technical place. If it is really not feasible, you can consult your predecessors. 5. Never: It is impolite to give gifts to others casually. Some people are eager to chase girls and like to buy things for others often, but they don't know that chasing girls is the most taboo. As the saying goes, "something for nothing". You are putting pressure on others by giving them something like this. People will feel indebted to you, so they will try to repay you. If there is no way to pay you back, they will try to stay away from you so as not to owe you a favor all the time. If you want to show your sincerity, please invite girls to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat or an expensive place to play together. Girls can naturally see that you spent a lot of money, but after all, the money was spent by two people, not taken home. Third, what is a "girlfriend"? 1, "girlfriend" is a fact, not a promise. You start dating girls, from "ordinary friends" to "good friends" to "very, very good friends who talk about everything". On a sunny afternoon, you "accidentally" held her hand; In "Willow Shoot on the Moon", you suddenly attack and kiss her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Whether she admits it or not, she already thinks you are her boyfriend. I know the best. I didn't ask "Would you like to be my girlfriend" until I went to bed. Finally, the girl was anxious: "Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend!" " So, don't rush to pierce enough paper, the more hazy the situation, the better for you. 2. What is "confession"? As I said before, confession is actually just a form, and the correct order should be: in fact, you have become your girlfriend, and you can confess to others. Many people don't understand this problem. They always feel that people promise to be their girlfriends first, and then what? I can only say that they are very, very "simple" and very, very "stupid". 3. Have you ever had to confess? Yes, for example, there is a third party, or your relationship with a girl is immature, but two people may be separated for a while. At this time, confession is an immature confession, which is very risky. It is similar to the grim situation when playing Go. The backward side was forced to release the "winning hand". If you win, you win. If you lose, you can only say that you are born with bad luck. 4. Don't export the word "love" easily. I often see "bold confession" in the forum. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment and even a responsibility. A man who casually says "love" is irresponsible.