If we realize that others seldom judge us in our hearts, we won't spend so much time worrying about what others say about us. Many people pay special attention to other people's comments, so they live very tired.
One thing happened in the third grade, and I didn't care anymore. In order to divide classes for the senior high school entrance examination in the third grade, I am the monitor and need to help two poor students, one of whom is a boy. Later, their grades all improved, and rumors came to my face that the monitor took the lead in puppy love ... which made me feel at a loss, wronged, uncomfortable and helpless at the age of 14. At this moment, my father stroked my head and said, "Do you think you did something wrong? If you think you are right, don't care about other people's nonsense. If you stick to your own path, they won't be much better. "I remember this sentence all my life. Whenever someone questions, I always ask myself: I think this matter is right, and I will stick to it! Since then, it seems that I seldom hear others gossiping, because I am strong and fearless!
A person's success depends on the degree to which animals return. Don't deny yourself easily. I used to like to deny myself. When studying copywriting, the teacher said, looking back on your achievements in the past 20 years, I will tell the teacher that I have no achievements and I am a loser. Then the copywriter asked me about my experience in these years, and he gave me three words "Great!" "She said that you had a child with cerebral palsy and didn't give up on him. At the age of 35, you had the courage to resign. At the age of 52, you started to do sideline work, which is a great place for you. In my study, she often encourages my writing to be spiritual and considerate, so I am especially grateful to the copywriter. It was she who gradually restored my confidence.
People must have clear plans when they are young. A junior high school classmate of mine. He is a man with special plans. After he graduated from Shanghai Jiaotong University, he chose to start a business without having children. And soon my husband and I started our own computer company, which was very successful.
The way we see the world. When I was studying happy bilingual family education, the teacher also emphasized it. It is the way you look at things and people that determines your mood. In fact, children are not useless. Some parents subjectively believe that nothing is good without studying hard. If you don't find the bright spot in your child, and you don't affirm what your child is doing well in time, your child will be farther and farther away from you!
This book is really worth reading several times. If we realize that our life is our own and not so important in the eyes of others, our troubles will be much less. Doris Lessing said, "When you choose a different lifestyle, why should you care about what others think of you?" In any case, we should face life with a positive and optimistic attitude. Because the way you see the world also affects children's eyesight.